a reply to:
zosimov
Well, for one I know it can be freeing to give up control and responsibilities. It totally is, in small doses and for a short time. Mentally freeing.
It is only possible with trust and I think that's where many lend too much trust towards society and especially the people that make up the
government. I am not going to judge (not saying you did or do) anyone who resolves in it. Although it's not how I was brought up and I believe in
personal responsibility. That everyone is master of their own luck and rather than blaming someone else denying that, I look how I can achieve it by
myself.
I reflected a lot about how I am so upset about the car that got impounded. It's cleared road legal by now, for anyone else curious about it. Is it
the unjust that was done? Is it the expectation to be able to have it but can not? Do I feel entitled to own and move it or is it just a piece of
metal that brings fun? Is that fun more worth than like, let's say, playing with my daughter? The answer is: No, none of it. It's because something I
was used to having in my life, a privilege none the less, was taken from me for no good reasons. I could pick it up now but I do not because I set
priorities on my health instead of going there on my gums. Would I like to feel the acceleration? Absolutely. Now someone reading this might think "If
I had that car, I would pick it up instantly and it's ungrateful to not do it". I had that thought too but in the end it comes down to what we have
and are used to, and what we do not have but want. And what we are willing to sacrifice of reaching these goals. For me it was a lot of time, risk,
sweat and literally blood what led to being able to own this car.
I once was used to diving garbage behind supermarkets and praying on leftover food. I didn't forget that. And what I want to get at, is priorities and
the look on life. Money and things, even respect from society because we adhere to the Zeitgeist-modus-operandi, can only provide so much personal
luck. Being healthy, having a warm, more important a dry bed to sleep, being surrounded by loving ones is more valuable than anything else.
It's also okay to be lazy sometimes. We don't really live in hard times but stressful times for certain. There's a lot of pressure on many of us, as
the world is ticking faster everyday. We can learn a lot from less developed countries when it's about that mindset. And need to prepare for loss of
life standard. But with that, also some freedom and ease to the mind comes with it.
I know I sound like WEF a bit currently, for certain it's what they advocate. Life is always a question of how far we are willing to take things and
how we internally handle the circumstances that come with it.
I am always reminded of this when I am out shopping or in town casual style. I mean, I do have some minimum standards, like I won't go shopping with
jogging clothes. Or stuff I see at "people of walmart". But I really don't care coming sock and braless inside Birkenstock (kind of sandals) to get
some groceries. I also never do makeup except a bit eyeliner sometimes. My curly hair is awful to manage in the morning
But then, I often see people dressed and tackled up like going to watch an opera doing chores or daily stuff. Hygiene is a non arguable thing though.
But when it's about clothing, there's a place and time to dress up like that IMHO. I don't judge these people or try to interpret into the "why", but
it makes me reflect. When I do dress up really nice it's for special occasions and then it feels good.
What I want to express with this is the amount of stress we often give ourselves about trivial things in life. Such as, not doing enough. It's also a
cultural thing. For example we Germans, we expect timeliness. To the minute. Not too late and not too early, on the point. It can be stressful if the
day isn't organized to that degree. But it's a cultural thing. I had to learn this too, that what we see as disrespectful showing up late (= wasting
some one's time waiting), can be seen as unnecessary in a culture that takes things a bit more easier and it's not understood as being disrespectful
but more like, not being uptight. I learned this while being in Egypt. Where the clocks tick different. 1 German minute = 5 Egyptian minutes.
And it's okay like that also, because everyone ticks like that there, so it is freeing. Loop back to cultural and societal expectations to keep the
overal status quo. A look on different cultures can help when one is frustrated or stressed. I don't think it's some one's weakness to burn out, it's
rather a result of the perfectionism we often burden ourselves with and partly expected from society, in this lifelong rat race.
Feels like being all over the place though and like I produced a word salad. But honestly, that's how I felt when I composed the above post too.
& hugs