I have accepted I will be single the rest of my days

originally posted by: AutomateThis1v2
Same. Pretty much. My last relationship was actually someone I met from this website. It didn't work out. Mostly me. There was a lot of stuff going on that I just wasn't willing to deal with. I think she actually liked me and cared about me though. I hope she's happy. I think it was for the best. I wasn't good for her. Pretty sire she was the only woman I had been in a relationship who didn't end up cheating on me.

Since then.. I've made strides in achieving personal goals and getting myself in a better position. I have friends, and a job that pays well enough I don't have to worry about anything financially really. I've made several new friends, but they have their own families to be busy with and whatever else.

I don't ask people for relationship advice anymore. It's pointless. You're right though people who have the strange proclivity to make the assumption that single people just "need to work on themselves," or "get new hobbies." Single people aren't broken people who need to be fixed. I've worked on myself and pursued interests and achieved goals and there's not much else I want to do in life but be a good husband and father.

But that's probably not going to happen. I'm fine with it. That's how life is sometimes. But I concur there's something special about sharing moments with someone where there's a shared love and understanding.

Dating now is a travesty. Every single one of my friends purportedly know any single women. I guess it's possible. All of my friends are in relationships or are guys who are in the same boat as I am. So, if all of our friends are in relationships it's not that much of a stretch that all of their friends are also in relationships, and honestly it feels like by the time you do find an single woman through the friend network they are either a decade older or a decade younger or just don't take care of themselves. That, or the currently popular poly/ENM bullcrap.

The next time someone pesters you with the bogus work on yourself/find a new hobby line. Challenge them to come up with something you haven't done. If they can't think of anything tell them to keep their advice to themselves until they learn to understand someone before trying to give oit unsolicited BS relationship advice. Those words likely mean they didn't even think long enough to think of anything to say and just vomited out some sorry excuse of counseling.

If they do come up with something you haven't done before then try it out just for the hell of it. Probably won't solve any relationship issues, but at least it may turn out to be a fun way to kill time or you may find you actually like it.

I've do what I can to go out and have fun, but sometimes it just sucks that I work second shift and my weekends are actually Mondays and Tuesdays. Basically means I miss all of the community events, and upset everyone who wanted me to come.

But honestly now. I don't really hear from anyone unless I message them first. At thirty-two years of age I feel like it's time to just accept it.

I can't stand most women. I don't hate them. There's no disrespect or ill will towards them. It's just what most of them want I care nothing about, and what I care about most of them don't. I'm a simple minimalistic man, and women just bring clutter and complaints and a never ending supply of demands on top of work.

Last woman I dated complained when I said my place was pretty spartan and started to describe it. Like I just recently bought a television, because my friends convinced me that it would be better than watching things on my phone. It kind of is. Kind of a pain im the ass too. So, I wound up having to pay a cable provider so I don't have a useless TV sitting in my living room. It stays on one channel that basically plays old or cheesy horror films. It's kind of nice to just watch/listen to MST3K while trying to peace out. But yeah. No lamps, no extra furniture, basically just use candles. I'll turn the air conditioner on if guests are coming over or it's super humid. I have all the basics.

Hell, I'll tell you what. I recently figured doing a bit of shopping and was buying a new pillow and remembered that some of my friends were telling me that I needed a second pillow.

Like... why do I need a second pillow? I know the obvious answer is somethong akin to "Well, duh. So when you have a girl over." or some BS like that.

First of all. Ain't no one coming over to my place unless they're long time friends or we've been dating for a while. I don't want to go over to their place until the same conditions are met.

But you know what my dumbass did? Bought a second pillow that now ends up on the floor every night. Probably should just stick it in a closet or something.

Anyways. Screw em. Ignore vacuous comments and just do whatever you want to do. This is basically the only life you're probably ever going to 100% know you'll have may as well just keep living it how you want without missing out on # because you don't have someone to share moments with.

Though I guess I could end with a stupid piece of advice that's meant more to humour than to insult or exacerbate you.

People like to joke around about mail order brides or whatever. But I was thinking like a day or two ago how funny it would be if there was an easy way to offer yourself off to some lonely woman somewhere else.

Because at this point I think I'd rather just find me a really old lady who's rich and do what I can to piss off some family after the funeral is done and over with and they find out they've all been kicked off the money wagon they were waiting for.

But yeah. Screw dating as it is now. That stuff is for school kids. Apparently after the late twenties and thirties it's all just a salty sea of bitterness and man hate.

You are still very young, I was 35 when I met my ex. I will be 50 this year (though everyone says I look younger )
Anyway, don't give up just yet. There are lonely 20-30 something women out there thinking what you're thinking.
You sound like you're saving money for better uses than extra stuff, that's wise. If everyone did that there would not be so much debt! I watch Dave Ramsey, and there are so many calls from people making 100k , deep in debt , unable to get out. It's baffling. You can retire early (fire movement) and be financially independent.
Wisdom comes with age, you are ahead of the curve

originally posted by: RAY1990
a reply to: ancientlight

Talking to oneself can be cathartic.

I've been on both side of the aisles and I've put the graft and research in with regards on how to stay alone and not stay alone. It's choice really, what are you willing to accept?

Accept that loneliness is more than a state of mind?

Or

Accept that humans are fallible.

As I say to a friend who keeps screwing herself over... You don't need to hop on every penis you see. But with that said does he need to be vaccinated, 6'3" and show up with a bottle of southern comfort? Depends on the good time right?

Loneliness sucks but for some compromising oneself and ones morals sucks more.

Then again maybe everyone is being oh so serious in a reality where our perception is quite possibly the butt of our own custom joke.

I'm single and unvaccinated btw

Yes, I'm not really lonely, just miss the comforts of a 'relationship' at times.
Ahh single and 'unvaccinated' we have a match!

I have Roblox on my PC. My grand son plays all the time. Maybe Ill meet up with you in there sometime and give you a big hug, and we will hop around together and build some stuff

Here's lookin at you kid.

originally posted by: ancientlight

originally posted by: yuppa
a reply to: ancientlight

well are you average looking for a female? You should try for older people because they are more open because they been there done that and got the t shirt. I been single 43 yrs so far. I have someone Im interested in but shes married,and i wont screw up her happiness,not after i saved her arse from suicide.

I myself look average. im 5'5-to 5'7,and cannot walk long distances without something to hold onto.wear glasses too.

I would say yes , average. But off course most days I feel I just must look like a troll or something as I feel so invisible.
Probably doesn't help that I'm getting older ( I will be 50) , though everyone I have talked to in my life gives me more than a decade younger

How come your height varies ?!

well my height is a guesstimate lol. I cant remember what it actually is. And well since you look younger than what yo are,why not try and get soem younger guys to fool around with since they love cougars these days. They usually are not looking for serious relationships at that age. If ya ever down in SC message me and we can see if we can hang out whiles ya down.

a reply to: ancientlight


I hear ya! I’ve been single for 12 years now. Luckily I have my son (although he’s living and working in another state right now which has been a hard adjustment for me). A cat that I’ve had for 16 years.

I look forward to going to work some days just to chat with people.

My problem is I can’t seem to even go on a date, I always just say No straight away. I’ve been through too much, and if anyone even gives me the impression of being a bit bossy or a problemI flee.

Also, I’m old school, so not even remotely interested in dating apps. I really just prefer to delve into the missing 411 books that I’ve bought, and the occasional visit with my best friend who is a blast even if we’re just sitting in. Covid shutdowns really sucked so I missed a lot of time with family and my friend.


Today is July 4th, and I was suppose to go to a family get together, my sister and brothers ex wife were suppose to pick me up, because I don’t have the gas to get there. Well they went to NH over the weekend, I worked, and I sit in my apartment and they are a no show or call. Real Nice.

I was a little sad, but then I remembered they are selfish Bs. So I’m making myself a delicious dinner and chillin with the cat, I might even have some of my apocalypse vodka 😁.

So you’re not alone darling and cheers Happy 4th of July 🎉

I'm single and I'm not complaining, hell, it saves me from drama 24 hours a day.

Single was always my middle name. Then I fell in love only to find that it's not happening for many reasons. Now years later it's still killing me 🙂 You cant miss something you havent lost. And you cant lose it when you dont have it first. Something inside has awaken and it's not Buddha

a reply to: bally001

thank you, Bally.

a reply to: ancientlight

I have accepted I will be single the rest of my days ...

Accepting is the end of suffering.

That's a good thing !

Congrats on the realization, and perhaps you will find life more enjoyable now, not always having to buy expensive clothes, and fancy hair-stuff.

Letting oneself go is liberating, and opens-up new views on the nature of this experience.

You'll never find Mr./Ms. Right until you stop looking. It's life's way of making sure the right one comes along.

originally posted by: KTemplar
a reply to: ancientlight


I hear ya! I’ve been single for 12 years now. Luckily I have my son (although he’s living and working in another state right now which has been a hard adjustment for me). A cat that I’ve had for 16 years.

I look forward to going to work some days just to chat with people.

My problem is I can’t seem to even go on a date, I always just say No straight away. I’ve been through too much, and if anyone even gives me the impression of being a bit bossy or a problemI flee.

Also, I’m old school, so not even remotely interested in dating apps. I really just prefer to delve into the missing 411 books that I’ve bought, and the occasional visit with my best friend who is a blast even if we’re just sitting in. Covid shutdowns really sucked so I missed a lot of time with family and my friend.


Today is July 4th, and I was suppose to go to a family get together, my sister and brothers ex wife were suppose to pick me up, because I don’t have the gas to get there. Well they went to NH over the weekend, I worked, and I sit in my apartment and they are a no show or call. Real Nice.

I was a little sad, but then I remembered they are selfish Bs. So I’m making myself a delicious dinner and chillin with the cat, I might even have some of my apocalypse vodka 😁.

So you’re not alone darling and cheers Happy 4th of July 🎉

Thanks , you a happy 4th of July as well. And don't be sad, they sound very selfish and heartless. No need to waste your emotions on them. Honestly, I could use more female friends as well. Do you happen to live in Florida ?
I love David Paulides missing 411 on youtube

originally posted by: visitedbythem
I have Roblox on my PC. My grand son plays all the time. Maybe Ill meet up with you in there sometime and give you a big hug, and we will hop around together and build some stuff

Here's lookin at you kid.

I started playing Roblox with my son actually, he lives in Sweden atm, and that's a way we connect What's your roblox avatar name ? We could duel

originally posted by: Elvicious1
You'll never find Mr./Ms. Right until you stop looking. It's life's way of making sure the right one comes along.

How do you know this even, just something you're parroting? Honestly, I've heard this soooo many times , I think it's something someone in 'a relationships' says to singles to make themselves feel better.

originally posted by: Nothin
a reply to: ancientlight

I have accepted I will be single the rest of my days ...

Accepting is the end of suffering.

That's a good thing !

Congrats on the realization, and perhaps you will find life more enjoyable now, not always having to buy expensive clothes, and fancy hair-stuff.

Letting oneself go is liberating, and opens-up new views on the nature of this experience.

I'm sure you're joking , but still you get this :

a reply to: ancientlight

Silly and funny half-truths are a fun way for me to post.

The first line resonates with the realizations from The Buddha's writings.

...That means letting go of the past so we can fully appreciate all that exists right now. In this way, we live in harmony with nature, always changing. We open ourselves to all that the present moment has to offer and do not struggle against the current of impermanence.

( Tried to find something that wasn't related to the Religion™ of Buddhism™, nor any of the Doctrines™. )

Sometimes tell my woman that am letting myself go for her benefit, so that other ladies don't chase me.
She's not buying it though...

originally posted by: ancientlight

originally posted by: visitedbythem
I have Roblox on my PC. My grand son plays all the time. Maybe Ill meet up with you in there sometime and give you a big hug, and we will hop around together and build some stuff

Here's lookin at you kid.

I started playing Roblox with my son actually, he lives in Sweden atm, and that's a way we connect

What's your roblox avatar name ? We could duel

You will have to patient with me. Its on my PC.I dont have a name on there yet, but I watch my grandson play often. Ill get one. Ill let you know.
Thats me in the picture, in fact, im wearing the camo shirt now. and here is an older pic.

And a much older pic

.

I dont care what you look like. I care what your heart is like. Ill get an avatar and meet up with you soon. Prepare for hugs. I enjoy being single and you should too. We will have some fun. You will have to teach me on Roblox. I dont know much. I used to play different various war games

Being married for many years I too have come to the realization that I will be single for the rest of my life.

originally posted by: visitedbythem

originally posted by: ancientlight

originally posted by: visitedbythem
I have Roblox on my PC. My grand son plays all the time. Maybe Ill meet up with you in there sometime and give you a big hug, and we will hop around together and build some stuff

Here's lookin at you kid.

I started playing Roblox with my son actually, he lives in Sweden atm, and that's a way we connect

What's your roblox avatar name ? We could duel

You will have to patient with me. Its on my PC.I dont have a name on there yet, but I watch my grandson play often. Ill get one. Ill let you know.
Thats me in the picture, in fact, im wearing the camo shirt now. and here is an older pic.

And a much older pic

.

I dont care what you look like. I care what your heart is like. Ill get an avatar and meet up with you soon. Prepare for hugs. I enjoy being single and you should too. We will have some fun. You will have to teach me on Roblox. I dont know much. I used to play different various war games

Sure ,sounds like fun

a reply to: ancientlight

End of next week. Ill see you soon Hon. I will have lots of time to play then. I threw pics up of me just for you. I just thought it would help. I saw you were in despair. We will have some fun. Im depending on you to teach me in there Hon. Im old school and will take some time to get my footing. Ill call my grandson to get some instructions, He is 8. He is a pretty smart kid, especially with computers. Cya soon!

a reply to: paraphi

Years ago I knew lots of people, rarely did I stop anywhere without meeting someone I knew and start a conversation. It drove my wife nuts.

For some strange reason when I started eating differently to control my epilepsy, I did not need to do that anymore. I am perfectly happy staying at home and the wife is the same way. We used to be doing all sorts of things...we were obsessed with socializing. Now we just go out shopping a few times a week...we have no desire anymore to need to belong to a group or society, we have each other and some cats and wildlife to talk to. It actually is fun going out berry picking and just hanging around with relatives and seeing old friends occasionally. Lots of the friends we have have been dying from old age or cancer or winding up in nursing homes or sick from being over medicated.. We decided to just eat better and the wife only has two small meds and I do not take any other than special combinations of minerals and certain amino acids to control my epilepsy.