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originally posted by: Sookiechacha
a reply to: JAGStorm
So much for parental rights.
I moved to another state to keep my parents away from my daughter.
originally posted by: Sookiechacha
a reply to: RussianTroll
It was about the values and respect I wanted instilled in my daughter that my parents didn't respect.
originally posted by: Sookiechacha
a reply to: RussianTroll
My parents tried to force me to abort my daughter. They disowned me when I didn't.
Still think their love overshadows their faults?
But every person changes with time
it is not for us to judge.
originally posted by: KTemplar
a reply to: RussianTroll
Unless the grandparents put your child in danger constantly and ignore your requests to keep them safe.
My ex/mil who I nicknamed Napoleon, actually took me on a picnic once and told me that she had lots of money and knew lots of lawyers (clerk magistrates to be exact), if I ever tried to leave her abusive son!
I stayed longer than I should have because of this fear. Now knowing some of the other atrocities my son suffered because of “Napoleon and her family”, if I could turn back time, I’d have set her house on fire with all of them it in!
originally posted by: Freeborn
a reply to: JAGStorm
Some times the best place for children is away from their parents....and far too frequently parents aren't fit and capable enough to determine what is best for their own children.
My 11 year old Grandson lives with me and my wife.
It was simply the right thing to do and in his best interests.....he loves it.
originally posted by: Sookiechacha
a reply to: RussianTroll
But every person changes with time
You didn't know my parents. Sure, once she was born they couldn't force me to abort. But, they could and did make her feel ashamed, dirty, unsafe and unloved.
it is not for us to judge.
It's not for YOU to judge. It is up to parents to judge who their children spend time with and are influenced by.
And everyone finds a way to live in love and peace.
originally posted by: KTemplar
a reply to: RussianTroll
RT dear heart, I appreciate and understand what you’re saying.
This people are not my family!
If you knew the actual psychological and physical damage they did to my son you would understand I would hope! He has chosen to cut ties when he turned 19.
I would have loved to have good grandparents, unfortunately my parents are dead, and my sons paternal grandparents are the devil incarnate, and I don’t say that lightly.
I don’t care what they did to me, they systematically abused him! Matthew 18:6.
originally posted by: Sookiechacha
a reply to: RussianTroll
And everyone finds a way to live in love and peace.
No, not everyone finds a way to live in love and peace. My parents never did.
originally posted by: RussianTroll
originally posted by: KTemplar
a reply to: RussianTroll
RT dear heart, I appreciate and understand what you’re saying.
This people are not my family!
If you knew the actual psychological and physical damage they did to my son you would understand I would hope! He has chosen to cut ties when he turned 19.
I would have loved to have good grandparents, unfortunately my parents are dead, and my sons paternal grandparents are the devil incarnate, and I don’t say that lightly.
I don’t care what they did to me, they systematically abused him! Matthew 18:6.
Thanks, I really appreciate your attitude.
I, too, once was very offended by my parents. Then I realized that the problem was with me. I just forgave all their shortcomings, all their claims against me. And I immediately felt better. I'm glad I made it to my mom's death, she died in my loving arms. Now I have only dad left, and I forgive him everything, absolutely everything. We love each other and we are happy.
Forgive them,
To my mind to answer the title of the thread it depends on a case by case matter.