First sign of narcissistic abuse: Gaslighting.

a reply to: Cymru
To an extent, I agree. They may be unaware of the damaging effects it causes, but it gets them the results they want. Most of the time, they view themselves as some sort of victim when it comes to explaining their actions. Most of the time, they've been conditioned by a parental figure or authority during a developmental cycle. Doesn't mean it's okay to verbally abuse your wife and children at 50.

But how do you explain it to them?

But with your second line, does that make it okay? Or do we ignore it and pat them on the back?

a reply to: DISRAELI
Your sign of madness, hairs on the palm of your hand? You've been lied, to it's a myth. The reason you've got hairs growing on the palm of your hand is through self abuse you naughty boy.

a reply to: crayzeed
Not at all, because I don't have hairs there.
As you know, I'm sure, the real key to this classic schoolboy joke is that the victim can't help stealing a glance during the gap left between the two lines. It's all in the timing.

originally posted by: Boadicea
a reply to: halfoldman

I can't help but wonder if it's a coincidence or synchronicity that prompted you to post this right after the Harry and Meghan interview...

Who’s hairy and meagain?

originally posted by: halfoldman
And I wonder, how can people lie like this?

Aha, but we assume everybody has empathy, but some people just don't have it.

Others may be astounded, but I knew somebody just like that, but in a completely different country.

Then they had some rage and ghosted me for completely false reasons.

You can't sleep, thinking but what did I do wrong?

Nothing, you were just a victim of narcissistic personality disorder.

I lack empathy.

But I also lack attachment to possessions and often find it difficult to tell when people are trying to insult me as well.

In fact, although I do have people I have close personal relationships with, I don’t get stirred up when misfortune occurs/is inflicted on or by them.

Not saying I won’t retaliate, I’m not completely ignorant to people’s behaviour, however my reaction is often considered inappropriate or excessive.

Does this make me a narcissist? I’ve been accused of having this personality before.

I just never cared enough to ask myself.

originally posted by: SuicideKing33
In my experience, every single one of these losers I've come across (seemingly thousands at this point) ALL are heavy alcoholic/coc aine addicts. Not a "release stress on a weekend" type thing but a "my every waking moment must be directed into me getting high and drunk" type thing.

ALL of them are mentally children who never quite got the memo you're supposed to outgrow some things by your 30s and 40s.

Extreme pettiness, constant need for attention, jealousy and envy to the extreme. Vampiristic. Almost like no soul so they need to feed on others to survive. Constantly worried about what youre doing (for all the wrong reasons). Compulsive lying trying to make themselves appear so awesome and in control...I've seen it all...all the time.

I swear, just being a sovereign person going about your business is never good enough for them. In fact they HATE it.

If you really wanna mess with a loser that does this s***. Just downplay/don't even mention your successes and brush off your failures like nothing. It is the complete opposite of how they are wired, they will get confused and angry for reasons their pea brain can't articulate.

I've learned many techniques over the years. But the best is simply don't even be around. Don't invest anything into them. Let them spin their wheels, burn out and do the same thing over and over. Take Mark Whalbergs advice from the departed...feed em s*** and keep em in the dark.

Growing up isn’t a matter of choice, it’s a matter of wait and see. ~ TISM

a reply to: Dalamax

Who’s hairy and meagain?

Prince Harry of the British Royal Family, grandson to the Queen, second son to the heir to the throne, and his wife, former C-list actress Meghan Markle.

Harry and Meghan resigned as working royals about a year ago, and gave a "tell all" interview to Oprah, broadcast in the US last night. It will be aired in Britain tonight.

Ahhh. Cool, the similarities between former presidents hitting the speaking circuit and a former... wait, what? Resigned as working royals? My god, when did royalty become a career?

Thanks for clarifying that for me Boadicea.

I would have thought the Jerry Springer show more appropriate for those poor dysfunctional parasites.

a reply to: Boadicea

originally posted by: Dalamax
Ahhh. Cool, the similarities between former presidents hitting the speaking circuit and a former... wait, what? Resigned as working royals? My god, when did royalty become a career?

LOL -- beyond bizzarre, right?

Thanks for clarifying that for me Boadicea.

I would have thought the Jerry Springer show more appropriate for those poor dysfunctional parasites.

You're welcome and you're right! That's exactly what my husband said!!!

originally posted by: Dalamax
Resigned as working royals? My god, when did royalty become a career?

As applied to members of the Royal Family, "working" tends to mean taking on functions like being "patron" of a large number of worthy organisations, and attending big meetings (which helps to drum up support), or being members of working committees.

P.S. Here is a fictional "royal duke" carrying on one such function (visiting a factory), and complaining about the utter boredom of his function-attending life in general. He would rather be having sex.
www.youtube.com...

originally posted by: DISRAELI

originally posted by: Dalamax
Resigned as working royals? My god, when did royalty become a career?

As applied to members of the Royal Family, "working" tends to mean taking on functions like being "patron" of a large number of worthy organisations, and attending big meetings (which helps to drum up support), or being members of working committees.

P.S. Here is a fictional "royal duke" carrying on one such function (visiting a factory), and complaining about the utter boredom of his function-attending life in general. He would rather be having sex.
www.youtube.com...

So it’s an imaginary working life of being in attendance without doing anything in particular except bringing attention to something. Gotcha.

a reply to: Boadicea

And what a trainwreck that was.

MI6 plotting a second "crash" yet?

I have to say. Some of those social engagements Did appear rather ponderous at the face of it.
Hand loom weaving is a growing industry. Hold up. Was. In the 1250’s!

Classic
a reply to: DISRAELI