i hate my family

a reply to: theboarman
Sounds like you got toxically ignorant family. Just cast them out of your life like any other gutter junkie. Take it from someone who already did just that. I have been much happier at home since not speaking to my parents.

Pops went from teaching me about all the conspiracies of the world to embracing everything as gospel. He was the first one to tell me on 9/11 that it stinks of CIA ops. Once he got hooked on a smart phone a few years back, it like he lost all of his suspicions and just embraced the ignorance the lies amd the propoganda.

I wish them well, but interacting with them is no longer good for either of us. They will just have to settle for holiday cards, and i live 5 minutes drive from them. Im trying to explain to my children about all the deception they are being sold as a means to groom their generation into unquestioned submission without the right to dissent. I dont need their grandparents who are already getting senile calling their dad crazy.

a reply to: theboarman

I love how so many “wise” folks in here are telling you to simply forgive your family and let it go.

Yeah, that’s a total piece of cake! Wow I bet you hadn’t thought of that one yet, huh? Well now you know what to do- forgive them. Ready? Go!

.......All better right? You forgave them just like that, right?

🤬 I’m sorry you’ve been dealt a sh!tty hand, friend. I think you’re doing really, really well, considering the way your parents seemed to have basically abandoned you all your life. Maybe they provided you with a home and food and clothing, but it sounds like emotionally, they were gone.

The fact that you can express yourself with clarity about your anger with them is an EXCELLENT sign. It really is.

I DO hope that eventually you will be able to forgive them, only because it will be better for YOU. But boy, if it were me, it would take me a bit to get to that forgiveness. I KNOW that forgiving someone, especially family, who has wronged and hurt you, can seem maybe impossible. But it’s not, and you’ll be able to one day if you’re open to it. For YOU, not for them. So for now just do your best, and live your life the best you can for you. Hang in there, friend.

a reply to: theboarman

and they also dropped me on my head when i was a baby

Yes...that much at least is obvious..

a reply to: KansasGirl

One thing I’ve never said is to forgive family.
I’ve always felt family should be held to a higher standard since they are supposed to protect and support you.
But I also know there are two sides to every story.

Listen up...

This thread is in rant. That doesn't mean it's a free-for-all to attack members.




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originally posted by: Bluntone22
a reply to: KansasGirl

One thing I’ve never said is to forgive family.
I’ve always felt family should be held to a higher standard since they are supposed to protect and support you.
But I also know there are two sides to every story.

I like the way you think.

Ah- ha... I see the many removed posts by the OP's family! They obviously invaded the thread to mock and chastise the OP for telling the stark truth of his/her intrafamilial struggles.

Rock on, OP. Surpass one's roots and begin the hero's journey!

Erm... may want to forgo the powders, as they def make the journey way more white trash Americana.

a reply to: theboarman

i hate my family, i hate them so much,

Wait, you grew up with a family?!?

WELL NOT ME MOM AND DAD I STILL HATE YOU!

You had a Mom and a Dad?!?

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I was kicked to the curb at four years old, suck it up, you've been dealt a better hand than many.

Jesus wept...
OP remember that your eccentricities are precisely why they love you.
~Chill.

a reply to: theboarman

Sounds like you are becoming your own parents
Don’t do that

You can't be mad at your parents just because they may have dropped you. When I was first brought home from the hospital, my dad was throwing me up in the air and catching me. One time, he threw me too high and my head broke the ceiling light. I'm perfectly fine. I'm perfectly fine. I'm perfectly fine.

Did I mention I was perfectly fine? You shouldn't hate your parents over something so trivial.


TCB

a reply to: theboarman

First, ignore the haters... and possibly the jokers. But not all. Sometimes lighthearted jokes can help relieve our misery just a little. So take what you can get.

Second, understand your family is doing their best. Yeah, it's definitely lacking in many ways, but that's what they've got. (And they probably didn't get much better from their family.) Protect yourself from the worst of it. Walk away. Don't let it be part of you and your life. It's happening around you, but cannot happen to you unless you let it.

Third, something you said made me think about the "Family Scapegoat" dynamic. Maybe you're the family scapegoat. Or maybe you're not. You would be a better judge of this than anyone.

12 Things the Family Scapegoat Will Know to be True

Check it out and see what you think. In and of itself, that won't change anything. But maybe understanding the whys and wherefores will help you understand their behavior, deflect and hopefully avoid the worst of their behavior.

Then just be your own awesome self. Understanding, but not owning their behavior and emotional crosses. Don't let their hate be your hate. Replace it with love for them, and compassion for what they are missing. Let your heart be filled with love for anything and anyone worthy. Including yourself.

Bright Blessings -- Bo

originally posted by: theboarman
they are literally to stupid

That explains a few things.

a reply to: theboarman

You need a cookie: DTOM, where are you?!

Jumping back in here...you know you can pick your friends, but can't pick your family.

And family will stab you in the back faster than your friends will....

Life Lesson

a reply to: theboarman


Ummm...I used to think of ATS as kind of a family...

From seeing the responses to your rant...I’m thinking they’re more like members of...your family...

Some really pathetic responses here...

Still...if patheticism is reflective of how some choose to be perceived...then wave that mirror with vigor...

WTG ATS...bravo...





YouSir

Let the hate flow through you! Surely that is the fastest way to enlightenment.

originally posted by: theboarman
they are literally to stupid

Who is "too" stupid?

a reply to: theboarman

Hate....big word.

I used to hate or at least I thought.

Then I grew older and realised I dislike stuff.

Hate is all consuming, it leaves no room for anything else...

It's not hate...be honest.

Peace

originally posted by: operation mindcrime
Hate is all consuming, it leaves no room for anything else...

Nothing can consume, it can only ignore, reflect or absorb and emit.

Even nothing needs to poo.

When a Big Poo (hate) has a dump, what comes out?

I absolutely love poo, it is full of gold and diamonds and people thow it everywhere without realising the are making me so wealthy.

I then give them BACK one of their own treasures, sometimes hidden in poo.....with a clue.