If you could go back and re-live a particular moment , what would it be (if any??)

Morning ATS Colleagues.
Sat here in work keeping the lights on but as its Christmas Eve theres only me and Security in.
Sat on my own I find myself reminiscing about times past. My current job sees me not 300yds from my old Office that I started at in 1999.
Nipped out for a smoke/whisky coffee (hey its Christmas) and looking across to my previous employer and remembering the 16 years of history there. People, friends, work, parties, Girlfriends. Those 16 years had a LOT of memories.
So I found myself thinking, "if" I were able to go back in time with my current experience, would I do anything differently?
There are a number of things I considered doing differently but I came to the conclusion that I'm a product of my experience. Whatever transpired in the past is just that, the past.
A random one I grant you but does anyone else think the same?

a reply to: Cymru

I have made a lot of mistakes in my life. I learned a lot from those mistakes.

If I could go back and relive each and everyone of those mistakes, with the power of the knowledge I learned from making them, I would go back and redo everyone of them, if I could.

But being me, I would be thrown into a never ending Groundhog Day, because I would manage to screw something else up, along the way.

a reply to: NightSkyeB4Dawn

Hence my question NightSkye.
Knowing a particular outcome may not help better informed decisions as what followed would still take place.
I said it was deep

In college, one afternoon with one particular woman.

The changes I'd make wouldn't have any major impact on my overall life, but we'd both be better off for it.

a reply to: lordcomac

Had a few of those moments but I ended up where I needed to be at the time.
Hence my post, if I did things differently how would those that I have helped have coped?

a reply to: Cymru

Well I am a believer in the multiverse. So some where out there I have done it all, and still screwed up something along the way.

a reply to: Cymru

my first severe concussion at the age of 4. id like it to have never happened.

a reply to: Cymru

This is the easiest question in the world for me.

I would go back to the moment when the doctor told my wife, after a needle biopsy of my wife's small tumor in her breast...that it was benign.

We celebrated the good news at the time...and got on with our lives...but later (after the tumor metastasized) her BC spread and eventually killed her.

Turns out that the part of the tumor they inserted the needle into, for the biopsy, turned out to be just a small benign outgrowth of the actual malignant tumor.

Needle biopsies are inaccurate.

If I could go back...I would tell the doctor to retest it and just extract the whole damn thing.
We could've saved her life...then and there...and she'd be alive today.

Nyla!!!

For sure...Nyla!!

Absolutely colossal blunder!

ETA - Probably wouldn't have changed a thing by today, but at least I wouldn't kick myself every...single...time...I even think about it!

Mine is a bit different.

Everyone is talking about bad moments they would change.

There is one old glory moment I would relive just to feel all of it again. There is one race in high school. It was my being carried out on teammates' shoulders moment. At the time, I was so exhausted at the end I could barely appreciate it, but it's still my favorite memory of those days.

I was the anchor leg of the 4X400. It was the state meet. Usually the race is decided by the time you get the baton, but that day, the race was not only the last race of the meet, but it was the deciding factor in a state championship, and undefeated season for the entire team, and a simple win at the state meet for the relay. And that final leg was neck and neck the whole between me and another runner, and I managed to hold her off at the wire with final lean. Took everything I had, and the whole team was there lifting me up at the end when we got the news.

Yeah, I'd relive that whole race and the ending.

a reply to: IAMTAT
That nt Friend IS something to change.
I feel for you.

originally posted by: IAMTAT
a reply to: Cymru

This is the easiest question in the world for me.

I would go back to the moment when the doctor told my wife, after a needle biopsy of my wife's small tumor in her breast...that it was benign.

We celebrated the good news at the time...and got on with our lives...but later (after the tumor metastasized) her BC spread and eventually killed her.

Turns out that the part of the tumor they inserted the needle into, for the biopsy, turned out to be just a small benign outgrowth of the actual malignant tumor.

Needle biopsies are inaccurate.

If I could go back...I would tell the doctor to retest it and just extract the whole damn thing.
We could've saved her life...then and there...and she'd be alive today.

Damn dude that sucks. I would have put a lit bomb in that doctors home and sued every #### involved in her care.

I hope you have found the strength to live your life as best as you can after your loss.

a reply to: Cymru

There's a difference between "reliving" and "rewriting", so if I could relive any moment in my life, it would be the honor and prestige I felt the day I graduated basic training.

It was my first major accomplishment in my life and that day meant everything to me. I was full of focused direction and confidence unlike I've ever experienced sense.

It can be described to a certain extent, but never truly actualized unless you have personally experienced it. I can certainly remember it, but would love to FEEL that day once again in it's purest form.

a reply to: EternalShadow

That would be a good one to relive too.

I thought about things to change, and there are some moments I'm definitely not proud of that I'd like to have not happened. Like you, the good moment was a better high to revisit than having to trudge through those down times for me.

I can certainly see for some why they would want to have a do over though. Like TAT with his wife. That was a tragic error that could have gone so differently, and it was all just a tragic thing and no one's fault in particular.

Theres one, maybe two, incidents that Id love to do over.. A relatively small thing, but it still bothers me a lot.

It was at a bar, after attending the funeral of a good friend. I kind of go into a strange mode at funerals, I guess you could say. Ive had to go to many of them.

Anyway, I walked into the bar and was immediately met by a woman who was absolutely thrilled to see me again. I didnt quite remember her, though I assume we met at one of the parties held by the friend who had passed away.

I just kind of brushed it off and walked on by. Im pretty certain I hurt her and I have no idea why I did what I did. When someone is so happy to see you, what idiot would essentially just shrug and keep walking? *this guy*

Something similar had happened years before that, though a different situation. That particular person shouted my name across a crowded casino and ran to me, though I had seen her just the day before. I thought it was nice, but didnt really respond in kind, and it was the last time I was able to spend time with her.

Thought I learned from the earlier incident at the casino, but I did even worse when the somewhat similar situation at the bar presented itself. Id like to say I learned from it all, but clearly I didnt from the first time. I suppose I dont really need to worry about it.

Knowing what I know now, I would probably have to pick avoiding the lock up at 14-15. My parents brought me in cause of a breakdown, wouldn't speak or anything, they found me curled up in the back of the closet.

Well, they admitted me to the child psych ward after bringing me to the ER. After that they forced me onto seroquel for a year. (Edit: They being the doctors, not my parents, they weren't given a choice. Either do what the doctors say ((doctors know best)) or go to court for custody.)

I'm happy with who I've become, even though I could be better, I just wonder where my life would have gone if I didn't get drugged at such an important period of development.

I'da had a youngin with my wife. I married a pre-fab fam with three awesome stepkids, but I shoulda....she said yes, I said nah. Wifey has a blood platelette issue and I said no way, I am happy with your brood.

I do wonder though, what mighta.....

a reply to: Cymru

An appropriate question this time of year. That time I ruined Xmas for everyone around me, with my drunken weeklong rage.

Tat and Nivhk, sorry for what happened.
some things are unavoidable, but something that could have been avoided, really heartbreaking.

to relive a moment; an evening with a young lady back in the day. still warm fuzzies.

to change a moment; probly buying my house. it has been an albatross to me.

a reply to: ElGoobero

I think my husband would definitely agree with you on the house thing. Ours has been a money pit. I don't regret getting a house, but perhaps this one ...