Retirement .... The 6.5 circle of hell...

originally posted by: Edumakated
I can't wait to retire. I'm 46. Tired of the day to day grind and corporate drone bullsh*t. If I didn't have young kids, I would throw in the cards and just live in an RV and travel around the country full time. I can probably live off $20k/yr at this point in my life as I don' t have a lot of material needs anymore.

One of my regrets is not seeing this sooner in life. If I had a do over, I'd probably be living off grid in some remote cabin. Probably would have stayed single, worked like a dog for 10 years, stacked a million or two and then literally just go off grid.

Hindsight is 20/20.

I don't understand people who desire to work till the die when they can easily retire comfortably. There is so much stuff I want to see and do, there is no way I'd be bored. Educational classes. Travel. Activities. Hobbies. Heck, just being able to wake up and clean the house or do some basic maintenance without feeling rushed or like I don' t have time to get to it all.

Well, I have none(kids) and probably realized it way sooner than most(even you, and your one of the sharpest ones here, IMO...akward bro hug).

But, that's the thing. The difference. I saw it way sooner than most and sadly that cost me a bit, in the form of the only meaningful achievement in life, offspring.

Either way, whatever, In the end it all results in travelling around n an RV. The difference is that when you are drunk at noon on a tuesday if your thoughts are of what your kids are doing, or what pizza place is running a tuesday delivery special.

a reply to: MisterSpock iretired 3yrs ago and baught a 100 acre farm to keep busy go figure

originally posted by: Steveogold
a reply to: MisterSpock iretired 3yrs ago and baught a 100 acre farm to keep busy go figure

So THAT'S what they mean when "someone bought the farm"!

Next time I hear that, I'll say congratulations!

a reply to: MisterSpock

I in a previous life was a relatively talented golfer, sidelined with an injury meant a bit of recovery, tv, beer and general unfitness
Took up dancing to lose weight and gain coordination , kayaked to build my shoulders and arms back to condition, got fitter and stronger.
Havnt played golf in many years outside a weekend hack, sometimes teach dancing classes, kayak every weekend, travel and kayak remote rivers with friends, also socialise with these groups outside of dancing and paddling

I would recommend church if you are so inclined, judgemental, self righteous but they don’t drink
We are social creatures, try a few things, do something, build that confidence and build others confidence

All you get in places like ats and the net are arguments and frustration, it’s not a reality

a reply to: Raggedyman


Knowing the OP, I'd say start doing porn.

Not acting so much as directing/producing/writing.

originally posted by: DBCowboy
a reply to: Raggedyman


Knowing the OP, I'd say start doing porn.

Not acting so much as directing/producing/writing.

Good suggestion, I'd make a wonderful actor.

I'll send you the casting couch videos.

I hope you have a widescreen monitor....I'ts big....

My uncle retired around that age ... and he was back at work not 5 years later, but on his terms.

As a part-time mom, let me tell you that the secret is to find something to live for in your work-free time. I parent, do some half-@ssed housework and post here.

Or you do what my uncle did and go back on your terms. I know Teikiatsu wants to work part-rtime at a game and hobby store for example.

originally posted by: ketsuko
My uncle retired around that age ... and he was back at work not 5 years later, but on his terms.

As a part-time mom, let me tell you that the secret is to find something to live for in your work-free time. I parent, do some half-@ssed housework and post here.

Or you do what my uncle did and go back on your terms. I know Teikiatsu wants to work part-rtime at a game and hobby store for example.

Do something I love???

Like be a protector.

I guess I could be a bouncer at a strip club and protect all those lovely girls.

Jokes aside, I'll probably just watch some movies, read some books and drink scotch and smoke cigars.

It will really suck, and I'm not being humorous. While some might wonder in it, I'll be bored and be waiting for some release from my "doom".

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Thanks for the political take on a clearly non political thread.

It's ok, I know it runs deep.

originally posted by: MisterSpock

originally posted by: PhilbertDezineck
a reply to: MisterSpock
How long did you work, how late in life did you retire?

I'll throw myself under the bus.

I've worked "hard" the last 20 years, never had a vacation, the only days off were by ambulance rides and to see my grandfather put into the ground. It's not what I wanted, but in a way it's a whole nother sentence.

I don't like it, I want to do more and can, but in a way i feel like I'm pushed away from my family and community. I'm 38, alone and very tired, I guess this is just what my cards came up as.

Atleast I realize it, and reject it, though likely will have to come to terms with it. Maybe that's whey I post it here, one mans dreams might very well be anothers(mine) nightmare. Work is fulfilling, that day to day grind that so many seek to avoid is infact their meaining, etc, etc.

Ramblings of a fool, taken as such.

How small is your community? Surely there's a group (social or volunteer) where you could feel involved? Unless it's a small community. Then....maybe start your own effort at something that needs improvement around there.

Isolation can be a serious issue in retirement. I never realized how much social interaction and support my career provided. I've done a lot of different things to keep myself occupied, but the most important were saving animals, learning, reading, and....video games. The people with whom I fit in the best--animal lovers--I don't get involved with because of immunosuppression. I don't like the risk of interacting with alot of new animals constantly. The other group is a German social group. Our attitudes, along with love of beer and good food, seem to mesh pretty well.

I love your wit and sense of humor. I am hoping that you can find at least a couple new interests and/or a social group to pull you out of that house and away from the isolation and drinking. My sister died at only age 50 from it. The threat of alcoholism can be real and the death kinda gruesome. You're way too young for this.

originally posted by: DBCowboy
Retire at 38?

58?

Really?

I'm like 100 and still working!

(okay, not that old, but still)

It must be awesome to be able to retire so early. Honestly? I'm a little jelly.

I've got a nice nest egg built up, but still feel capable of doing my job, so I still work.

Retiring early isn't as great as you'd think, especially if it's because of health problems. Our jobs/careers provide alot more than money. (I was amazed at that fact, honestly.)

a reply to: MisterSpock

38 is not too old to have kids if you wanted to go down that path.

Im assuming you're reasonably well off, go travelling, drink yourself silly in exotic places, you never know you might ma k e some friends and God forbid perhaps meet a lady friend.

If you ever think it is too early to drink, just look at the calendar instead of the clock....It's Dec. It's late...lol

I was seriously considering early retirement at 55, which would be next August. I'd have 32 years on my pension. Take a 9% cut at 55, 6% at 56, 3 at 57 and full at 58.

I messed up at home last summer and cut a good part of my left hand off. So now I sit at home everyday on disability.

Not how I wanted to go out. I wanted to build a forge in my barn and learn blacksmithing. Now my biggest accomplishment is it only takes me 3 or 4 tries to tie my own shoes.

I still get up around 330 every morning, drink coffee... and I will crack a beer at 6 am.I dont care. I can drink all day up until dinner.

Not how I wanted to go out.

a reply to: tinner07

We're you drinking when you almost cut your hand off ?

a reply to: hopenotfeariswhatweneed

We're you drinking when you almost cut your hand off ?

Not really. I had just got home from work, had a beer while talking to my wife, maybe 2, went outside and ZING.... so yes but not all day...

a reply to: tinner07

I only asked because the last 2 fairly serious self inflicted injuries of mine were alcohol related.

a reply to: MisterSpock

Wow i have only read down the first page bud and i am totally shocked at what i am reading from you , I totally get where you are coming from and have been there and still am in a way , I did think you were doing a few too many whisky tasting sessions of late but as i say been there myself and retired at 43 with no wife or kids myself .

Get a dog ASAP AT 38 you are still young and if you do not put your big boy trousers on you will be penning threads like this soon www.abovetopsecret.com... www.abovetopsecret.com...

Give the bevvy a miss bud it only leads to disaster , i am of to a funeral later today of a school friend who drunk himself to death at 51 and i do not have enough fingers and toes to count the number of times i have pulled that suit on to bury friends and i use the Mayan system of folds in the skin of three per finger .

There is someone out there for you or get into a hobby - any hobby and get a pet to look after and some positive mental thinking even go to collage again to learn something new




EDIT just saw this from you

Jokes aside, I'll probably just watch some movies, read some books and drink scotch and smoke cigars.

We are more alike than you know


I was getting hell from my sister yesterday for smoking a cigar at the back door and inhaling it all while laughing my head of at her shaking her head all while laughing manically at death shouting BRING IT

And transferring all my cash into vintage tools so they will have to work for their inheritance when i kick the bucket and have to re sell them lolz

a reply to: Edumakated

I don't understand people who desire to work till the die when they can easily retire comfortably. There is so much stuff I want to see and do, there is no way I'd be bored. Educational classes. Travel. Activities. Hobbies. Heck, just being able to wake up and clean the house or do some basic maintenance without feeling rushed or like I don' t have time to get to it all.

First, life has a way of throwing you a curve ball when you least expect it. I was always young in heart and spirit, and very healthy. I knew from those that came before me that I would likely have a few back and joint issues, but those old diehards never let any of that get in their way, so I was not concerned.

A couple of things I didn't take into consideration. One is that they all died fairly young. Our family was poor, but we lived comfortably and happily. Life was simple. The only gadget we had when I was a child, was a radio. Everything you did was for comfort and survival. There was very little idle time. All time was considered a blessing and family was everywhere. I had Uncles, Aunts, Grandmas, Grandpas, at every step. They where strict but there was never a moment you didn't feel loved.

My dream was to grow-up and travel the world. I wanted to see all the places I read about. My dreams came from books and I was a voracious reader. I grew up, went to university, joined the Air Force. I was a very goal oriented person. I would set a goal and all my life energy would go into fulfilling that goal. I didn't have a bucket list, I had a life list, because as soon as I removed one thing from the list I would put another on it. Until the things I placed on the list became less exotic. It came about returning to the more simpler things in life.

It wasn't about jumping out the bed and grabbing the world by its tail. I learned to enjoy sleep and rest. I no longer feared the lost of all the time I was wasting, and all the things I could be doing. I learned to just enjoy a few extra minutes of doing nothing. It has taken a while and I wish I could say that I feel that way everyday, but I don't.

I have refilled my days with commitments. I love serving, so I spend a lot of time serving my community in several different ways. It gives me reason, it gives me purpose. Most of all, it keeps me moving, because I did inherit those family ailments, and all those simple things I took for granted, like standing up and sitting down, is now a constant challenge.

Education is a constant, and my part time job, as a service to my community, makes that available to me, some of it is even mandatory. Travel has been decreased to about 3 to 4 times a years, just enough to remind me that there is no place like home. Hobbies??? I am downsizing, so I am trying to pass on all my chotchkies off to friends and family. I really don't need the dust collectors. Cleaning the house is a necessary evil that I have never enjoyed, so that is decreased to the amount that allows my home to feel clean and well kept, while feeling comfortable and welcoming.

I don't really remember what I thought retirement was going to be. I doubt that this is it.