She texted her (dead) father and - got a reply

a reply to: Nothin

The vast majority of folks, are good honest people. Sometimes we tend to forget that, and expect the worst from anyone and everyone.

That may be true.. but the man receiving the texts was not honest until four years later ! If it had been a month or two, I would be more understanding.. but four years is just creepy to me.

a reply to: Sheye

Suppose it could be something closer to your ides, my ideas, or something completely different.

Was just sympathizing from the side of the distraught father, whom had just recently lost a daughter.
His reply from the article linked in the OP:

"Hi sweetheart, I am not your father, but I have been getting all your messages for the past 4 years," the message read. He introduced himself as Brad and told Chastity how he lost his daughter in a car wreck in 2014. "Your messages have kept me alive." "I'm sorry you lost someone so close to you, but I have listened to you over the years," Brad continued. "You are an extraordinary woman and I wish my daughter would have become the woman you are."

Who knows: maybe he was trying to drink himself to death, in a very dark place, and her messages helped him get back on his feet ?

The poor fella mentioned: ..."...Your messages have kept me alive..."... , and:
..."...When you text me: I know it's a message from God..."... ( Article ).

Also: do you believe that she never thought about the possibility that the phone-number would be re-assigned, and that there was zero possibilities that nobody would ever read her messages ?

a reply to: Nothin
I agree the message from the father seems very heartfelt and genuine, and he must have really needed them to continue on for four years.

I think if I was the daughter sending the messages, I would assume that if someone else was receiving them they would let me know.

That’s just me though.. and I apologize for judging this ‘feel good’ story a little too harshly.
But four years ??

a reply to: Sheye

Agreed !
Love that pic LoL !

Peace.

originally posted by: silo13
a reply to: BrianFlanders

Well... I don't believe it's a spin...

Think of the vast amount of telephone numbers 'out there' -

Then - that a man who lost his daughter in '14 - would get a new phone number - anddddd start to receive texts every night from a young woman who lost her Dad?

That must be odds like winning the multi-billion $ lottery.

I choose to believe it wasn't odds, but a benevolent God who knew these two needed each other.

Regardless of 'how it came to be' in your opinion?

It's still - a miracle and beautiful and incredible lovely.

I've seen far more amazing coincidences than that. Your mind sees what it wants to see.

I practically NEVER agree with Sheye.

But 4 years of creepy message-reading on the guy's part before saying anything makes this an unsettling story, not a heartwarming one. Something seems very, very off right there, and not in a good way.

originally posted by: Nyiah
I practically NEVER agree with Sheye.

But 4 years of creepy message-reading on the guy's part before saying anything makes this an unsettling story, not a heartwarming one. Something seems very, very off right there, and not in a good way.

Second time I gotta say this in this thread. Your mind sees what it wants to see. Well, sometimes. If you see a rattlesnake and it bites you, I guess that's pretty cut and dried.

Women are (unfortunately) predisposed to think everything men do is creepy (it seems) so that is what you tend to want to see here. I suppose I can see where you're coming from but I kinda doubt the guy meant any harm. And I'd say so if I thought so. I know dudes can be creeps. I just don't see it here.

originally posted by: Nyiah
I practically NEVER agree with Sheye.

But 4 years of creepy message-reading on the guy's part before saying anything makes this an unsettling story, not a heartwarming one. Something seems very, very off right there, and not in a good way.

Well that just goes to prove it then !
The possibility of a Non-Creepy Man, is non-existant anymore.

Non-Creepy Man: is extinct !!!!!!

Long live Non-Creepy Man !!!!

Next up on the endangered list: Innocently-Texting-Personal-Info-Into-The-Websphere-Woman.

a reply to: Nothin

Both you and Brian, BS. It has nothing to do with him being a guy, and everything to do with a stranger lurking her very personal texts for years. It would be equally creepy if the other end had been another woman, gender has nothing to do with it. Unsettling behavior does.

originally posted by: Nyiah
a reply to: Nothin

Both you and Brian, BS. It has nothing to do with him being a guy, and everything to do with a stranger lurking her very personal texts for years. It would be equally creepy if the other end had been another woman, gender has nothing to do with it. Unsettling behavior does.

Oh, OK. So you're looking for victims where there aren't any. Still seems like a personal issue to me.

originally posted by: Nyiah
I practically NEVER agree with Sheye.

But 4 years of creepy message-reading on the guy's part before saying anything makes this an unsettling story, not a heartwarming one. Something seems very, very off right there, and not in a good way.

Haha.. it’s all good Nyiah. I don’t often agree with you either in your more opinionated posts.. but it’s good we can see the potential for danger in this story... if not just plain creepiness.

Anyone willing to read texts from a number for four years has a lot of time to look up more info on the number, more info on the daughter... perhaps even hack into the phone for facebook info and viewing. I wonder what finally prompted him to speak?

I hope it really was just an innocent story about two people mourning loved ones. It’s nicer to think that is the reality.

a reply to: BrianFlanders

I know dudes can be creeps. I just don't see it here.

Four years ! Four years ! Think about that time frame. I can see a couple months, maybe even a year if he’s really mourning his daughter... but Four ??

I also think it’s a bit of an unhealthy way to mourn your daughter by attaching yourself secretly to someone elses daughter. Something off about that.

originally posted by: Sheye
a reply to: BrianFlanders

I know dudes can be creeps. I just don't see it here.

Four years ! Four years ! Think about that time frame. I can see a couple months, maybe even a year if he’s really mourning his daughter... but Four ??

That's an interesting observation. So the chick mourning her father by sending texts to no one for four years was totally normal but the dude mourning his daughter receiving the texts the chick was sending was creepy?

Maybe you could explain to me how they're not both creepy if the fact that it was "four years!" was the deciding factor? Women are allowed to grieve in weird ways for four years but men aren't? Just wow!

Nope! Totally nothing to do with sexism!

originally posted by: BrianFlanders

originally posted by: Sheye
a reply to: BrianFlanders

I know dudes can be creeps. I just don't see it here.

Four years ! Four years ! Think about that time frame. I can see a couple months, maybe even a year if he’s really mourning his daughter... but Four ??

That's an interesting observation. So the chick mourning her father by sending texts to no one for four years was totally normal but the dude mourning his daughter receiving the texts the chick was sending was creepy?

Maybe you could explain to me how they're not both creepy?

Nope! Totally nothing to do with sexism!

The difference is she was just venting into her phone through text, believing in some sort of magic that her father may connect to her. It was therapeutic for her to believe he was reading it.

He ,on the other hand, was well aware that he was viewing private conversation from a mourning daughter to her father. He should have let her know earlier that he was reading her texts.

Had it been a boy texting his deceased mom, and a woman was reading along for four years, without making herself known, I’d find it equally as odd.

originally posted by: BrianFlanders

originally posted by: Sheye
a reply to: BrianFlanders

I know dudes can be creeps. I just don't see it here.

Four years ! Four years ! Think about that time frame. I can see a couple months, maybe even a year if he’s really mourning his daughter... but Four ??

That's an interesting observation. So the chick mourning her father by sending texts to no one for four years was totally normal but the dude mourning his daughter receiving the texts the chick was sending was creepy?

Maybe you could explain to me how they're not both creepy if the fact that it was "four years!" was the deciding factor? Women are allowed to grieve in weird ways for four years but men aren't? Just wow!

Nope! Totally nothing to do with sexism!

Seriously?

Listen. The simple fact is, the recipient of texts not for them would be doing the sender a major favor by texting back, "Hey, this is a new number for me. I don't know you, can you stop this?" NOT silently reading every. single. thing the sender types out.
For over 1400 days.
That's a hell of a lot of texts, and who the hell know what kind of person on the other end of the phone is reading them. Like Sheye pointed out, that's a lot of time to gather sensitive info to seriously mess with someone's life, or blackmail them. It's both a personal safety issue and an identity theft risk at best and at worst either way, so the woman was straight up stupid here for not thinking the number would ever be assigned to a new phone.

Why the hell are you so insistent on making this only about gender? I mean, for someone who just whined about people seeing what they want to see, you sure do it a lot yourself.

originally posted by: Sheye

originally posted by: BrianFlanders

originally posted by: Sheye
a reply to: BrianFlanders

I know dudes can be creeps. I just don't see it here.

Four years ! Four years ! Think about that time frame. I can see a couple months, maybe even a year if he’s really mourning his daughter... but Four ??

That's an interesting observation. So the chick mourning her father by sending texts to no one for four years was totally normal but the dude mourning his daughter receiving the texts the chick was sending was creepy?

Maybe you could explain to me how they're not both creepy?

Nope! Totally nothing to do with sexism!

The difference is she was just venting into her phone through text, believing in some sort of magic that her father may connect to her. It was therapeutic for her to believe he was reading it.

He ,on the other hand, was well aware that he was viewing private conversation from a mourning daughter to her father. He should have let her know earlier that he was reading her texts.

Had it been a boy texting his deceased mom, and a woman was reading along for four years, without making herself known, I’d find it equally as odd.

OK. Got it. Double standard. Your reply is inconsistent nonsense. It is actually bizarre (and probably very unhealthy) to spend 4 years believing you're sending texts to a dead person. But have it your way. You're clearly determined to justify your prejudice so you can have it. I have no real horse in this race. I simply saw the silly witch hunt for what it was and called it. So congrats on derailing what would have been a pretty positive thread.

originally posted by: Nyiah

originally posted by: BrianFlanders

originally posted by: Sheye
a reply to: BrianFlanders

I know dudes can be creeps. I just don't see it here.

Four years ! Four years ! Think about that time frame. I can see a couple months, maybe even a year if he’s really mourning his daughter... but Four ??

That's an interesting observation. So the chick mourning her father by sending texts to no one for four years was totally normal but the dude mourning his daughter receiving the texts the chick was sending was creepy?

Maybe you could explain to me how they're not both creepy if the fact that it was "four years!" was the deciding factor? Women are allowed to grieve in weird ways for four years but men aren't? Just wow!

Nope! Totally nothing to do with sexism!

Seriously?

No. Not that seriously. You should probably calm down before you pop a vein in your forehead or something. I think I'm gonna exit here like I (probably) had to the last time I got drawn into some strange overwrought exchange with you (I don't quite remember but this seems way too familiar).

Have a nice day and try to find a good therapist.

originally posted by: carsforkids

originally posted by: gallop
a reply to: Lumenari

I'd prefer a god that didn't play mind games.

And if your preference was considered even the slightest BIT that would
make you god. But God is God and he gave you a choice. The spin works for me!

Holy smokes, I have no idea what this even means.

If I were god, this would not be the planet we exist on. For a start, I would not ensure children are born with diseases that taken them months after birth, or.. or any of that.

God didn't give me a choice. I HAVE a choice. And I know as a fleeting ember that was sparked into being by two other random people rubbing tummies, that it will end, one day. no more after that. No pretty lights, no party in the sky. No flying through the universe. No ponies or unicorns. No giant purring kittehs.

Just .. a persisting nothing.. that I won't be aware of. All my dreams, hopes, wants, wishes, desires.. all snuffed out in the last blink of an eye, the sigh of a last breath.

And you know what? That's ok. If I were so arrogant as to consider myself a god, why this would be terrible news. but.. I'm just a spark of energy that happens to be. Nothing more. No plan. No real reason.

Just make the best of the day, while there is light, and let that final goodnight, whisper across the memory of me.

originally posted by: Sheye
a reply to: Nothin

The vast majority of folks, are good honest people. Sometimes we tend to forget that, and expect the worst from anyone and everyone.

That may be true.. but the man receiving the texts was not honest until four years later ! If it had been a month or two, I would be more understanding.. but four years is just creepy to me.

Maybe, but if you think about it...

One day he receives a random text, and it lifts his heart, from a girl who is texting her passed dad.. he can't bring himself to say anything. And it reminds him of his daughter.. he just lets it go.

but over time, they keep coming.. it'd be hard to suddenly say something.. then it would feel wrong, like he was being odd. So he just ignores them more.

4 year pass, he has come to almost expect them, and feels more comfortable in relaying that it was in fact he who was receiving the messages, and that having lost his daughter, it was something unique, but now he wants to let her know.

Perhaps the content of her messages was less heartfelt and more familiar..

I can't fault the guy... how many of us would reply after the first text "Sorry, but this isn't your dad." -- she'd have been struck with guilt for having texted a stranger... I think in this way, there is something to be said for serendipity..

a reply to: Sheye

Omg, I feel like I'm back in one of those facebook mommywars troll groups..

I hate those things..... lol