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okay, let's take this extremely slowly. let me know if you get lost and need me to explain again.
originally posted by: TheRedneck
a reply to: continuousThunder
okay, let's take this extremely slowly. let me know if you get lost and need me to explain again.
No need. Slowed down BS is still BS.
Here's the thing. Peeples has it absolutely right: everyone should be able to be proud of who they are. Every one of us is a unique, special individual with individual tastes and desires. We are all a part of a greater whole, a whole that is driven by our differences. If someone who is born a male wishes to believe they are a female, that's none of my business; have fun. If you dress up sufficiently to make me believe you are female, I'll call you by female pronouns. It's not a big deal. We can talk, laugh together, share a meal... it's all good.
Until, that is, you decide to try and force me into your delusion. Then it's not all good.
If I am looking for a date, there is a certain amount of personal discretion that I will apply. I don't like her looks; She's a bit too heavy for me; she doesn't look happy; lime green hair doesn't turn me on; not into nose rings the size of Pennsylvania; boobs too big; boobs too small; butt too big; butt too small; eyebrows too thin; don't like unibrows; why is she wearing a swastika; facial scars aren't my thing; too tall; too short; crazy eyes... I will cull women for any little thing that I notice that indicates we might not hit it off. Topping that list? Has male genitalia.
I just authored a thread about "trans-panic" being used as a legal defense for murder... and the reason I authored it is I heard the story and wondered... is this really a thing? For murder? What kind of warped concept of justice is this that says you can kill someone over their genitalia? It turns out, yes, it is a thing... not very successful at least, but a thing nonetheless. And that bothers me greatly.
But it also make sense. This BS story, and the load of BS you just tried to shovel onto us, is the reason. No, you don't get to decide that someone not wanting to date you is dehumanizing... you want to know what's dehumanizing? Getting all dead and stuff because you wanted to trick someone into a homosexual encounter. That's dehumanizing, and I strongly suggest no one try it for themselves. Take my word.
This article, and your response are why the "trans-panic" defense works at all. You want to take away the natural tendencies of people to be attracted to the people they are attracted to and instead insert your own version of who should be considered attractive. That is literally insane, and insanity begets insanity in response.
Bottom line: yes, you are special whether you are straight, male, female, gay, trans, whatever. Everyone should be proud of who they are. But a trans-woman is not a woman. A trans-woman is a man pretending to be a woman. Let's understand that. Your genitalia does not change because you dress in drag. You may appear to be a woman, you may think you are a woman, but you are not really a woman. Only by mutilating yourself can you become a woman... and I would say that even then, unless medical science has a reasonable possibility of allowing you to have a baby like a woman, or create a baby lie a man, you're still a trans-woman/trans-man. There's no getting around the fact that you were born with a certain gender, determined by your genitalia.
That means your sexual exploits will be constrained to people who can accept your gender and lifestyle. That's not dehumanizing; that's life.
And before anyone brings it up, yes I know there are a few mutations beyond trans... hermaphrodites for instance. They are special, unique, important individuals also and should be proud of who they are... but they are hermaphrodites. That is a part of what they should be proud of.
If anything is dehumanizing in this respect, it is that these people (who are already troubled) are being told that being turned down for a date is somehow dehumanizing, and is only due to their gender confusion. That's dehumanizing.
TheRedneck
originally posted by: abe froman
a reply to: CthruU
The endgame here is to normalize pedophilia.
They've already started with drag queens doing children's story time.
All these little steps on a slippery slope.
Leading straight to hell.
originally posted by: BoscoMoney
Why would I date something I'm not attracted to, and quite frankly find disgusting....?
originally posted by: lakenheath24
Jeezus. Next think ya know we are gonna be shamed for not shagging fatsos.
originally posted by: continuousThunder
okay, let's take this extremely slowly. let me know if you get lost and need me to explain again.
it is dehumanising to declare that you wouldn't date an entire class of people.
that's a simple fact - you're treating people as an identical mass that you can just cast aside in one go.
that's pretty much the definition of dehumanising there.
Dating is about the connection between two individuals. You meet and you hit it off for various reasons, generally similar interests or views on the world.
it's like saying you wouldn't date an asian, or a blonde. There are a LOT of people in those subsets and they're all extremely different and going "nah blondes don't do it for me" is extremely reductionist and rude.
Only with trans people it's on a whole extra level because there are SO MANY trans people you'd never even know are trans unless they told you. So to just decide that you won't date any of these people, en masse - yeah that's dehumanising in action right there.
But don't worry, you're not being forced to date trans people. trans people already suffer enough in this world.
originally posted by: continuousThunder
okay, let's take this extremely slowly. let me know if you get lost and need me to explain again.
it is dehumanising to declare that you wouldn't date an entire class of people.
It's time for short men, it's time for bald men, for ugly men, for plain-looking men, for overweight men, and for women who are the same as these men to STOP believing they have the right to breed.