Anthony Bourdain Passes Away

a reply to: Plotus

I said your mind appears to be healthy and sane if you don't understand why he did this.

The only ones who know how he could have done this are the ones who have seen that dark place.

I'm not really surprised.

I loved his show and take on things. He was pretty instrumental in food and Chefs becoming rock stars. He was really living a life that many of us can only dream about. Traveling the world and getting to experience local culture, food, and drink. Yet, he was unhappy. I know he supposedly lived a hard life of drugs and booze, so maybe that had something to do with it. I've also heard he wasn't the most likable personality.

I think what his death shows (and Kate Spade's who also killed herself this week in NYC) is that money does not buy happiness. Even when you have more money than you can spend, there can be other things wrong in your life.

originally posted by: Flyingclaydisk
a reply to: underwerks

I've had to pick up the pieces, that's why!

I've had to pick up the shattered tiny pieces of broken lives!

I've seen the deep depression suicide creates. I've personally experienced the loss and grief, the lost and suicidal feelings of family members. I've faced the questions of why. The desperate tearful pleas, over and over (for years), as if an answer would bring them back.

AND...(and this is probably most important of all)...I've personally experienced one suicide leading to an attempt at a second one by a family member as a result of the first one.

There should be NO honor in suicide! You fight to the end. Those are the rules.

I’ve experienced it as well. And you know what I found out? It isn’t about me and how I feel. Especially when there’s a person in the dirt who obviously felt worse.

The whole “being mad at the person who committed suicide for making you feel bad” thing is BS, and just a reflection of the persons own fear concerning death.

I don’t judge you for having that reaction either. I just wish people would be a little more respectful and not insult a dead person they didn’t even know. None of us know what he was going through.

a reply to: CriticalStinker

I've made it through all the steps of grief. All of them. But it's stories like these which opens that anger right back up again, because I've been there. I've dealt with, and continue to deal with, that hole which gets left in people's lives.

And seeing as how I'm torqued off on the matter now (as a result of some of these responses), I'll share a little story. Just one. Perhaps it may shed some light on the matter, or perhaps not.

The day after Thanksgiving five years ago, a very close friend of mine went out onto his driveway and decided to "off" himself. His wife was away at the grocery store. His 3 kids were off shopping elsewhere. A earthwork contractor who was doing some work for me nearby called me and said "I think your neighbor may have shot himself". I was the first one there. I was the one who contacted the authorities. I was the one who waited until they arrived.

I was the one who was there when his wife (one of my wife's best friends) returned home. I was the one who got to try to explain what had happened, but what can you say?

And the very worst part of all...I was NOT the one who suffered the worst loss.

Now every Thanksgiving for his wife, his children and now grandchildren is hopelessly marred by the events which happened that day. A grandfather those grand kids will never know. Forever more.

a reply to: Flyingclaydisk

So what is being angry and calling all those who take their own life cowards going to achieve?

What is the difference of someone dealing with substance abusing leading to their deaths and someone "choosing" to take their own life?

One could argue its a choice to continue down a path of substance abuse that claims the lives of many.

But if we could bring back those who do either, I'm sure they would tell us in their minds, there was no choice.

At any rate, I won't see how chastising anyone dealing with mental health can possibly help.

From 33 to 48 years I suffered badly from schizophrenia so Ive been down some pretty deep holes in terms of depression and despair but never once did I consider suicide because that means this fu***d up planet and all its evil wins and thats unacceptable because at that point all you've suffered or been through is for nought.

I have seen plenty of others though in life whose constitution is not as strong as mine who either attempted to or took their own lives some the persecution from others got too much,an abused wife found by her daughter hanging in the closet and others via persecution of themself.Id say Bourdain is the latter his inner demons eventually hounded him to end it.

Suicide is a very sad and ugly experience for relatives and friends.

Be that as it may I did not agree with this mans politics but I did enjoy his shows,
May he rest in peace

Damn. This is jarring.

I've often said, when asked what my dream job would be, that I'd love to have a gig like Anthony Bourdain or Josh Gates — getting paid to travel to far flung destinations, seeing the world and meeting interesting people.

a reply to: khnum

Be that as it may I did not agree with this mans politics but I did enjoy his shows,
May he rest in peace

We don't have to agree with someone on politics or opinion to feel for them at moments like this. At the end of the day we all have similar blood running through our veins, and similar wants and needs in this crazy ride called life.

I thoroughly enjoyed his shows, and though I've never met him, I will really miss him.

"I'm not going to treat my body like a temple; I'm going to treat it like a funhouse".

...Anthony Bourdain

originally posted by: angeldoll
"I'm not going to treat my body like a temple; I'm going to treat it like a funhouse".

...Anthony Bourdain

Whatever decisions he's made, and no matter how anyone feels about them...

He opened so many eyes (including mine) to context in other places I may not had been exposed to.

Say what you want about the man, but he left imprints on many many people.... All as a result of the path he chose. Crazy crazy world.

a reply to: CriticalStinker

Oh, I'm not mad. I haven't even gotten to the parts which make me mad yet. I haven't EVEN gotten to those parts yet! I might be sad for his family, but I'm not mad.

No, the things which make me mad are the calls in the middle of the night to pump out the flooding in the basement, the calls to come kill the rattlesnakes or to fix the fence, or to go round up the cows who got out. THOSE are the things which make me mad!

So why? Why do I scream "Suicide is for SELFISH COWARDS!"?

Well, just in case someone else is thinking about doing it, the whole world should know what everyone's opinion of your whole life is after you do it! So that any single person who's even contemplating the act KNOWS that every single good thing they ever did in their life will be instantly vaporized the very second they commit the act. And that the only memory of them going forward will be one of contempt and dishonor! And why is that, you may ask? Because that was their "parting shot".

That's why.

Perhaps you could call it a deterrent.

Suicide is for SELFISH COWARDS!

I was stunned when A friend called to tell me.

Plus internet, an everyone is going to have an opinion. I'm just shocked.
He had a profound influence in the culinary world, a profound influence in introducing people all over the globe to bit's and bobs we'd never imagine shoving in our faces making all types of cooking accessible to the average joe.

Heartfelt condolences to his family.

I wish Bordain's family peace and healing.

Period.

you know for a conspiracy website there sure seem to be a lot of people not questioning ANYTHING.

www.mediaite.com...

Guarantee he was murdered by the Wienstein/NXIVM/Clinton/CEMEX human trafficking ring for calling out Weinstein...

Come on people, are you still oblivious to the war what is happening?

a reply to: booyakasha

Yea or he was visible and vocal about being a bit sinister.

Combined with his lifestyle I think we might be able to leave this one at what it is, a tragedy.

Yeah im pretty sure the Clintons just kill you when you call them out for eating puppies and babies.

imgur.com...

a reply to: booyakasha

It seems more likely that it has something to do with the pictures that were published 3 days ago in Daily Mail of his girlfriend walking around Rome, holding hands with and hugging French journo Hugo Clement.

Celebrating Harvey's downfall: Asia Argento embraces writer who shared her speech attacking Weinstein for using Cannes as his 'hunting ground', as pair stroll through Rome

They could just be besties but it looks a little more romantic than that.

Personally, I believe seeing pictures of his girlfriend with another guy in Rome on Monday pushed him over the edge. While he was with her, it sounded like he was happier than he had been in a long time. As they say, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and no person is worth killing yourself over.

We'll, if he was Catholic, he'll definitely know the true meaning of "No Reservations".

Sad really, I really enjoyed his take on food and cultures.

Rest easy Tony.

I was interested in becoming a professional chef when i was younger (highschool and what should have been my college days) I enjoyed cooking then a friend gave me kitchen confidential to read... I was hooked. He romanticize an otherwise crappy but in my eyes rewarding career.