Does anyone else feel lost?

I’m almost 45 now and don’t find anything appealing anymore. I don’t watch tv, news, movies or sports. I gave up video games. I tried drawing and painting. I even tried reading. All I do now with my time is listen to music and wait for each day to pass.

I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel empty and lost.

A part of me wants to save money and move closer to the equator where I don’t have to tolerate miserable weather anymore and can spend my time sitting at the ocean but I don’t know how to become a citizen of another country.

Anyone else going through this boredom lost empty feeling?

a reply to: Tyred

Its called depression. See someone about it.

It could be that you are suffering seasonal affective disorder. some more sun wouldn't hurt.

FWIW, im 45. If it wasn't for my work i'd be disinterested in life. But im dealing with health issues that keep me from going out into nature where i'd be happy. Once i get that out of the way...im G2G again.

You're in a rut. You're only 45. Do something different. Start working out. It's fun watching your body change. It's like puberty again but without the emotions.

a reply to: Tyred

yeah dude. im 40.
been there when things were not going so well.

even if they are it happens.
could be a little seasonal effective or could be depressed. there are levels to that #.

just need something to break

go enjoy some vagina and some sunlight.
youll be fine

go start jiu jitsu
100% serious

originally posted by: BelowLowAnnouncement
You're in a rut. You're only 45. Do something different. Start working out. It's fun watching your body change. It's like puberty again but without the emotions.

This may sound dumb (and too much work)....but its great advice. The chemicals your body produces during exercise are lkely just what you need to perk up.

a reply to: bigfatfurrytexan

thats why i said jiu jitsu.
plus the certain type of people fall in love with it.

you become tight with people by default. youre close to people the whole time. on top of them. them on top of you.

people cultivate their best friendships there.
im not saying thats the only way but dude.......

its awesome. im super anti social so dont associate when im outside of the gym and i dont go often but it is my most favorite thing to do. even when im pissy or bumming cause i had a bad day and really dont want to go, once i get there im so happy i didnt blow it off.
you feel good man... getting active

i do yoga and jiu jitsu open mats a few times a month.
i feel good.
better than when not doing it.
jiu jitsu off and on since forever but i feel better doing it than not but life gets in the way.

a reply to: Tyred

I've been chopping wood and socialising baby goats today. Both good.

I'll go with the general advice here. Exercise in a way you enjoy.

a reply to: Tyred

None of my business I know but are you drinking more and enjoying it less?

Alcohol depressed me, now that I'v quit...I deal with the real world with enthusiasm even with the challenges of a new LLC business and a lot of related projects.

Sounds like you got boring.

Try something new, you might just like it.

Move to Florida and see how long your sanity lasts.

Good advice above. Definitely sounds like depression and most of us have experienced it at some point or another.

It's tough--damn rough--but it is possible to move past it. Recognizing it for what it is is a big help in my own experience. Being willing to talk about it--like you did here--is an excellent start. :up;

Finding some way to do something good/nice for someone else has helped me get past that initial "hump" before.

Best Wishes, Tyred.

Does sound a bit like depression. Same with me, but mine is more linked to SAD I'm certain. Living up here where there is a whole lot less sun in the winter just shuts me right down. Anytime the sun is out and shining warmly through the picture window, I'm like a lizard soaking up the rays. Dark cloudy days, I feel empty and dead. Double so when the temp falls below -20C. I could literally just hibernate the winter away by staying in bed.

Take up cooking, creating new recipes is actually fun. We can create new recipes. It helps to know a little about mixing food chemistries before you start though, you don't want to poison anyone. Winding up in the hospital because you were experimenting is not the excitement you really want.

Stimulate interest in something, if you are bored, it is because you have made yourself bored.

I like rummage sales, you find some good stuff at them.

a reply to: Tyred

It sounds like you have seasonal depression. You should try one of those light lamps that simulate the sun.
I would make sure that you don't have any underlying health issues first and then go from there.

I totally agree with the others that say get out and do something anything, because the more you just stay inside the worse it gets. I get totally down in the winter and perk right back up in spring. This has been happening to me for over 20 years. What has really helped me is to go outside more in the winter. I hate the cold, but even getting a little sun and fresh air does wonders.

How about getting a pet? Sometimes we just need distraction from our own mind sometimes.

Take a mini vacation if you don't have enough to go to the ocean. I took a mini trip to DC and it is amazing how refreshing it was to just go somewhere new.

Sometimes it is your own surroundings. I few years ago I lived in a beautiful new house, there was just something about the vibe of the house, I was always depressed. I think it has a lot to do with the lighting. The house was almost always dark even with lights on. I have moved to a new place and it is bright and happy and just has more positive energy!

Try change, any change and see if you feel better! Good luck to you!

a reply to: Tyred


Puzzles, pets, people, places or pizza ...... try something new

Has something changed in your life to put you in the dumps?

There are two main kinds of depressions:
1. situational-like when you break up with a girlfriend-lose a job etc. or
2. chronic-where there's nothing specific for being sad-just sad all the time for no good reason.

Either causes the same despondency and signals time for professional help.

Both require you talk for your doctor and sometimes meds. Either means you may need to force yourself to make major changes in your life.

Life is hard but you don't have to make it harder. Ask for help. And no drinking or self medicating.

a reply to: Tyred

Anyone else going through this boredom lost empty feeling?

Yes, every day. If you haven't yet, try meditation. It's a super simple thing to do and it may change your life. Good Luck.

a reply to: Tyred

Your local Humane Society could probably use more volunteers. Walk some of their dogs, read to some of their cats. It will lift your spirits.

originally posted by: BlueMule
a reply to: Tyred

Your local Humane Society could probably use more volunteers. Walk some of their dogs, read to some of their cats. It will lift your spirits.

No animal will lift your spirits more than a dog. Pure little rays of light

sounds like depression, just to join the chorus. if you don't go outside all that much, start taking some vitamin D. if you're drinking, try to cut back. add some exercise and try to eat some vegetables.

they're not easy habits to develop but if you persist i think that'll help. and also just keeping in mind that it is possible to feel differently... your feelings aren't immutable facts about the world, just a perspective... and perspective can change.

a reply to: bigfatfurrytexan

A mule will 😎