Letting go really does work

I was working on a project for some time with no results. This doesn't happen all the time but in this case it was frustrating to say the least.

So I decided to let it go last week. If it wasn't meant to be then it wasn't meant to be. Sometimes these things happen for a reason & its usually for the best.

Well, lo & behold, after having forgotten about it, voila, things have started to happen without me lifting a finger. I mean literally without doing anything.

Anyways, my point is, sometimes it is beneficial to let go of what you want so badly to receive it at a later time or not at all depending on what is in your best interests. And if you do happen to see it materialising, its usually better than what you wanted.

This has happened to me on multiple occassions. It is amazing the way it works. I'm glad you have experienced it too!

Jemison

From Lao Tsu's Te Ching, Chapter 48:


"In the pursuit of learning, every day something is acquired.
In the pursuit of Tao, every day something is dropped.
Less and less is done until non-action is achieved.
When nothing is done, nothing is left undone.
The world is ruled by letting things take their course.
It cannot be ruled by interfering."

Chapter 43,

"The softest thing on the universe overcomes the hardest thing in the universe. That without substance can enter where there is no room.
Hence I know the value of non-action. Teaching without words and work without doing are understood by very few."

I've found that Taoism offers a lot of unconventional wisdom.

[edit on 8-2-2005 by radardog]

I forgot to mention that in my case, I'm never disappointed when I'm pure of heart.

I have often had these experiences but most of the time just ignored the fact of what was going on.

Here's a story you might like...my dad has an old muscle car that he bought in 1968 which just couldn't part ways with when I was growing up. The car has been sitting in our garage for over 25 years now and he always talked about restoring the car but his job and time just didn't allow him to do so.

The day he passed away in 1998 I vowed to him that I would restore his car although at the time I didn't know much about the automechanics. There have been so many times that I wish I had a cliff to launch the car over instead of struggling on the project anymore.

Everytime I came back to the garage after my emotional breakdowns, the answers to my former problems were as clear as day. I could never understand why the answer wasn't present when I first had the problem.

Take this as you may but I like to think of my little experiences as my dad watching over me and lending me a helping hand when I need it.

That is how a God works.
Yet you must sow the seed, for the plant to ripen.

When the studant is ready the teacher will appear. **Richard Bach**

That wich you most fear you draw to yourself like a magnet......so in letting go, you give yourself the freedom you seek.

Many people claim they find true love once they stop looking. "I gave up and wa-lah there he was" ect ect.

I need a course in just WHAT 'letting go' is?
How do you know when you have REALLY let go?
what are the steps one needs to take in order for LETTING GO?

I hear so much about letting go, and I seam to fail at it. Things 'stick' in my craw, or my head. I think I have let go of something and then it rears its head up once again to make me look at it.........

HOW.....HOW does one go about 'letting go'?????

Originally posted by theRiverGoddess
When the studant is ready the teacher will appear. **Richard Bach**

That wich you most fear you draw to yourself like a magnet......so in letting go, you give yourself the freedom you seek.

Many people claim they find true love once they stop looking. "I gave up and wa-lah there he was" ect ect.

I need a course in just WHAT 'letting go' is?
How do you know when you have REALLY let go?
what are the steps one needs to take in order for LETTING GO?

I hear so much about letting go, and I seam to fail at it. Things 'stick' in my craw, or my head. I think I have let go of something and then it rears its head up once again to make me look at it.........

HOW.....HOW does one go about 'letting go'?????

It is not a question, it is an action. Yet at the same moment it isn't an action either. It is inaction. I know this seems to be a runaround sentence.
Letting go involves NOT CARING...

Not caring either way... and TRULY not caring.
There isn't an easy way of explaining it... You just have to do it. It gets easier with practice.. When I come across the right words to describe what I mean to convey I'll write it.

Originally posted by dnero6911
Letting go involves NOT CARING...

Not true in my case. I never stop caring unless I receive a definitive answer whether it be yay or nay. But instead of having the issue sit in the conscious forefront all the time, I let it reside in the subconscious instead, until further notice.

It's basically a case of prioritizing life issues in a relevant manner.

buddha stayed in a cave for years trying to find enlightenment, then one night he just gave up, in the morning he was enlightend.

Originally posted by Questor

Originally posted by dnero6911
Letting go involves NOT CARING...

Not true in my case. I never stop caring unless I receive a definitive answer whether it be yay or nay. But instead of having the issue sit in the conscious forefront all the time, I let it reside in the subconscious instead, until further notice.

It's basically a case of prioritizing life issues in a relevant manner.

You are misunderstanding the context of my remark...

You see... Your caring is a false caring... it is a lot of colorful smoke.. much like the buddah found out himself in that cave.

You see one cannot stop caring, no matter how hard one TRIES... Although caring itself can become the burden... We take emotions and TRY them to death, we get so caught up in the emotion that we become that emotion. When you stop trying you finally arrive at the place you were striving for.

It is like a car burning out. Its wheels spin and spin seeking a bit of the ground to progress, yet the ground rejects the wheel until it slows its speed but from the agrument of friction smoke has arisen and now cloud the direction now that the ground and the wheel agree.

This happens a lot in problem solving for me. I also let it sit in the
subconscious and go on with other things. Perhaps our mind works
on it while we sleep, perhaps there are parts of our minds that work
on things without our being aware of it - similar to how parts of our
minds control our digestive process without our having to make a
conscious effort.

Originally posted by theRiverGoddess
I need a course in just WHAT 'letting go' is?
How do you know when you have REALLY let go?
what are the steps one needs to take in order for LETTING GO?
HOW.....HOW does one go about 'letting go'?????

Don't get discouraged, it's one of those things where, "It's so simple, it's complicated." Thinking of your examples above may help when looking at them from the following perspectives.

Universal Law of Attraction - Like attracts Like
Some familiar examples you may have heard once or twice:
~Necessity is the Mother of Invention.
~Laws of Supply and Demand.
~Garbage in Garbage out.
~You get what you pay for.

Yet another way of saying the same thing:
Sympathetic Vibratory Physics by John Keely
Law of Attraction
"Juxtaposed coherent aggregates vibrating in unison, or harmonic ration, are mutually attracted."

Law of Repulsion
"Juxtaposed coherent aggregates vibrating in discord are mutually repelled."

So, using your examples above. Why is it that "Looking for Love" never ends in "Finding Love"? Simply because you're focus is on "Looking" or "Searching" for it. Like the old saying goes, you can't make anyone love you, all you can do is be someone to be loved. When you do that, "Love will find You."

One of the Rules of "Universal Attraction is, "That which is focused upon is attracted, whether it is wanted or not." For example, using Fear like you did earlier. Let's say your fear is a fear of physical conflict with another person.

One method is usually then trying to avoid confrontations in every way possible. However, your focus is still directed at what you are trying to avoid so it is then attracted to you even more. Actions like that of a "Sheep" will certainly draw in the "Wolves".

On the other hand, some try the other route of becoming the "Tough Guy" that uses the method of Stiking-First so as to remove any possible threats before they can harm him. Once again, this is fucus upon the problem which creates an even bigger problem. It's the "Biggest Bears & Trophy Bucks" which are hunted most.

Let that soak in a bit and see if that helps. Like I said before it's a tricky concept to explain even when you do understand it. Keeping in rythm with it is still quite a challenge for me as well. So don't worry, it will come to you!

You did a really good job explaining that...
I just find that the mind "knows" what you want so it's useless thinking about it heavily because you willingly yet unwillingly create scenarios to accomplish your desires....

An interesting adjunct to this concept concerns ones H.S. Sometimes when something is very important to oneself but the 3D self does not acknowledge or take it seriously, the H.S. will often intervene.

In this case I find that the H.S. will nag you until you do take notice. More often than not, its for ones own good.

It's generally a no brainer that one should listen to their H.S. but many of us do resist at times for whatever reason.

So we are reminded to stop resisting & allow our H.S. in.

I am still working on this LETTING GO thing.

I have had all the yard sales I am going to...........I give away things in my home others admire.......
I try very hard to not take others actions personally.

It is past wounds that seem to demand a revisit. THOSE are the things I would like to rid myself of.

Originally posted by theRiverGoddess
When the studant is ready the teacher will appear. **Richard Bach**

That wich you most fear you draw to yourself like a magnet......so in letting go, you give yourself the freedom you seek.

Many people claim they find true love once they stop looking. "I gave up and wa-lah there he was" ect ect.

I need a course in just WHAT 'letting go' is?
How do you know when you have REALLY let go?
what are the steps one needs to take in order for LETTING GO?

I hear so much about letting go, and I seam to fail at it. Things 'stick' in my craw, or my head. I think I have let go of something and then it rears its head up once again to make me look at it.........

HOW.....HOW does one go about 'letting go'?????

Thanks RiverGodess. I really needed that. I have been obsessing over something to the point of manic frustration and reading this gave me a warm understanding feeling.

Thanks again, jb

Originally posted by Questor
Anyways, my point is, sometimes it is beneficial to let go of what you want so badly to receive it at a later time or not at all depending on what is in your best interests. And if you do happen to see it materialising, its usually better than what you wanted.

a bit of a buddhist philosophy

Originally posted by theRiverGoddess
I am still working on this LETTING GO thing.

I have had all the yard sales I am going to...........I give away things in my home others admire.......
I try very hard to not take others actions personally.

It is past wounds that seem to demand a revisit. THOSE are the things I would like to rid myself of.

Ok, I'm starting to get a clearer picture of what you're talking about here. What you're talking about isn't so much in Letting your Control Go as it is in Letting Go of the things that Hold you back. I know that is kinda confusing but let's see if I can help and explain a little better.

At first I was addressing this "Letting Go" thing from the perspective of "Letting Go" of the misconception that we are in Control of our Lives. Not to say that we are completely manipulated either, but more of a "Partnership" or "Relationship" is what is really happening. The world presents us with choices and from those we put in to motion what we decide.

If no choices were made available, there would be Nothing to do.

Without Decisions being made, Nothing would get done.

In other words, change, or perhaps, exchange would be more correct since it is this exchange of Energy, Thoughts, etc. that keep the whole big enchilada from reaching a "Halt" and Blinking out of existence.

Anyway, that is another vast set of ideas which we'll have to get back to later if possible. What I meant to discuss is, not the "Letting Go of Control" as pointed out above, but "Letting Go of the Anchor" which is holding you back & making it hard for you to continue on your journey. Which BTW is not a good thing for anything that is supposed to be Living!!

A creative example in Metaphor would be to: Use the idea of a Great Voyage upon the open sea, aboard a mighty vessel of which even the most seasoned and adventurous explorers would be proud. Now, if one were to attempt to "Control" not only the functioning of the ship but somehow the sea as well as the wind, or perhaps even the stars & moon or the needle of the compass, we would all agree such a Captain is either Mad or a Fool and such a journey would be a disaster. Equally however, should the mighty ship drop anchor, only to be unable to set sail once again, this too would be a true disaster as well. So then, we could say that a truely heroic adventurer must allways be Willing to "Go where their feet carry them" and "Possess the courage of heart to always press on".

All metaphor aside now, I'm going to tell you one of the most powerful and liberating ideas one can know. I will pass it on to you just as it was passed to me when I needed it most and one day you too will pass it to another when they need it. Don't be fooled by the simplicity in which it is communicated or by it's brief discription for these are the seeds from which grow a forest of wisdom.

~When it comes to dropping the baggage that you're holding, all YOU do is STOP CARRYING IT.

~YOU are the one who has CHOSEN to carry this heavy ass baggage with you day in and day out.

~NOBODY else has any control of the situation except YOU.

~YOU and YOU Alone can drop All of it WHENEVER YOU WANT.

~So just Let it Go!!

Ask yourself why you carrying something that neither you nor anyone else wants??? Who's it for??? You're the one who decided to do this to yourself and you are the one who will end it when you realize how useless and pointless it all is.

Stop trying to hoist up that dead weight of an anchor and just cut the rope!! Trying to pull the entire land & sea along with you is Mad & Foolish. So cut yourself Free and your voyage will continue on it's own from there. The waves can either carry you across the globe, or repeatedly thrash you against the rocks. The choice is yours!!