First time I'm going on a gay date.......do I kiss him?

originally posted by: RainbowPhoenix
I'm willing to bet that like most guys you get all excited and into watching a lesbian scene though! Cuz ya know it's just different when two girls get nekkid together, two dudes = gross, two chicks = hot. Typical double standards at play.

Well, duh.

With that being said my sagacious advice to the Original Poster is to become a lesbian.

originally posted by: Josephus

So I think no. Don't pervert nature; date a woman.

Can someone enlighten me as to which part of the thread the poster asked, is there any religous zealots on ATS that aprove of his homosexuality?


I agree with previous poster (intro of that thread made me laugh) of being cautious of a bi guys motives if you expect more than a hookup. Puting your heart into it may cause grief or an undesired outcome. Although people are more than their labeled facade, and you will read his path, hope you have a great date.

Depending on your desire it could start as two caterpillars tiptoing on a leaf feeding for as long as required, then a cocooning caress ending in a flight of two beautiful butterflies. The two will go from pupa to flying as quick as the connection flowers.

Use protection or get tested together.

a reply to: Mousygretchen

I don't even kiss on the first date.

a reply to: 5letters

Don't stress.

Just go out and have fun. That's the key. Have fun.

If things go well the rest will come naturally.

a reply to: aliensanonymous

There's always at least one idiot that wants to rain on a gay parade.

My message to them is simple; If you don't like gay sex, then don't do it. I don't judge anyone for being heterosexual, so please return the courtesy.

originally posted by: 5letters
a reply to: Mousygretchen

I don't even kiss on the first date.

???? Then why start a thread asking if you should?

Shaking hand is how you seal a business deal, I wouldn't do that.

I am unable to provide advice for a date with another guy, but if it were a woman. I would lean in and gently place a soft kiss on the lips, with eyes closed, and leave her wanting more. Sex is what a later date is for.

a reply to: thesaneone

Because this is legit my first date and I don't know what to do ...kiss or not kiss, well, I'm off to the date in 10 minutes anyway, so ill see how ti goes

originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
a reply to: 5letters
I don't mean to frighten you, but dating apps are extremely risky. Some commonsense rules.

1. Never give them your real address or place of work.
2. Always make sure your first couple of dates includes you being at very public place, with a group of your friends is preferable.
3. Never drink anything that they hand to you, even if it is supposed to be just water.
4. Avoid alcoholic drinks even if from a bar, unless you know and trust the bar tender. We have had cases were the bartenders were working with the perps to assist in drug facilitated assaults.
5. Make sure someone you trust knows were you are going, make sure they have as much information on the person you are dating as possible and make sure the person you are going to date, knows that someone knows about him and that they expect you back at at certain time.
6. Make sure your phone is fully charged.
7. Take lots of pictures an make sure that they post instantly.

2 weeks is a short period of time. I have had victims that were groomed for as long as six months.

Remember anyone can claim to be anyone on the internet.

I recently had a victim that vetted the guy. He was supposed to be a well known and upstanding pillar of the community. On their third date he drugged and raped her. Turns out he had been doing this to women he met on Tinder for a long time, but he knew how to pick them because they were all too embarrassed to have spoken up on their own.

Be diligent. Be safe. Some of these guys are pros. They know exactly what they are doing. They are masters of their craft.

I remember when dating used to be fun and exciting, seems things have changed

a reply to: hopenotfeariswhatweneed

I was called out the other night to another messy case that was a brutal reminder to just how much the dating world has changed.

Maybe I seem over cautious because I have to deal with the horrible results when a date goes criminal. Maybe I see too much, maybe I hear too much. Maybe I know how deep and dark a person's soul can get.

I love my job. I just hate having to do it. I am hoping that one day my job will be eliminated because it won't be needed.

I can dream can't I?

originally posted by: NightSkyeB4Dawn
Maybe I seem over cautious because I have to deal with the horrible results when a date goes criminal. Maybe I see too much, maybe I hear too much. Maybe I know how deep and dark a person's soul can get.

Maybe, i can't tell.

But to me, you seem level-headed, honest and helping and caring.

I appreciate you for doing work that most of us just could not handle on a mental level.

a reply to: NightSkyeB4Dawn


" When a date goes criminal " That's is certainly something that can be done without



I would be happy if your job was not needed either, we can both dream.

*sigh*

ATTENTION:

This thread is in the Relationships Forum. Dude asked a simple, innocent question. If you don't have anything constructive, useful or relevant to say, don't click reply. It's not a place to condemn, be judgey or troll your personal issues.

5letters ... are you ok ? This was your first date and we haven't heard from you😕

You don't need to share the private details of your date if you feel like you'd rather not because that is your personal business, but at least pop in and let us know you're ok .

a reply to: Sheye

Well, if you guys would like to know and help me out to figure this out:

Our date went great (I believe) and we both talked for 2 hours. I paid for his dinner. At the end of the date, by his car, I asked him when he was free and he told me on weekends only but he'll let me know his schedule. He smiled an left. He texted me when he got home saying:

HIM: Just got home
ME: Nice! it was great meeting you man!
HIM: and thanks again for paying. You really didn't have to do that
ME: Its all good! No worries

The next night I texted him saying, "Hello! How was work today?"

NO REPONSE.

Should I text him again if he's still interested or is he playing hard to get?

a reply to: 5letters
You probably will get more up to date advice that may be more appropriate, but being old school, I would say you made the call. The ball is in his court.

If he wants to bail let him. You don't want to come across as desperate or pushy. Maybe it is just me, but I rather be courted, I was never into chasing.

a reply to: 5letters

So relieved you enjoyed your date 5letters .. and like another member above me mentioned , I'd say the ball is in his court.

Please don't let disappointments ruin your self worth. You're knew to this game of dating and love and it's full of ups and downs no matter what your sexual preference is .