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originally posted by: Dark Ghost
Instead of just copping it and moving on, instead of letting it slide, instead of "being a man about it" and just accepting the phrase "men are in power, they cannot experience real sexism or oppresion", some of them snapped. No, I will not do these things, I will actually take the advice of feminists who suggested I start a men's rights group. I will demonstrate clearly that something is wrong and I am close to powerless to stop it, but I will not just sit by and let it happen.
And so MRA was born. And what happened when it came into public awareness? Check back to criticism argument A above. And now, we are currently deep in stage B. But that is where it stops. Feminism will not be able to recover from its current position unless there is a significant reformation or a revolutionary more effective PR campaign. "But women are so oppressed!", "you are just a misogynist!", "you want women to fail!" These phrases mean nothing now. They are little more than talking points that lack substance.
If you don't want an extreme reaction like MRA to occur again, be more receptive to criticism and don't allow it to be the basis that irrepairably harms your movement.
Conclusion
In reality, females in Western countries have achieved equality in every way that it is possible to regulate. There is even strong evidence that they receive extra rights which men do not have in the legal, social and political spheres. They are favoured over men for certain jobs just because they are women. They are protected from harsh criticism and harsh scrutiny because they are women. They have far more services and resources that are focused on providing support to women. They are still the first ones along with children whose lives are deeemed more valuable and more innocent when emergencies or dangerous situations occur. They are allowed to have high expectations and will not be critcised when complaining that these are not met. They are given freedoms and privileges without being forced to own the responsibilities that usually come with those freedoms and privileges.
The burden is now on women to show that they do not need to hide behind a movement whose goals have been met. They have the same opportunity as men to achieve any realistic goal they have in mind. The pendulim that was very much against them in the past has swung passed the centre and is now heading way farther in the opposite direction. If you are a true egalitarian and believe in equal rights for every individual, remove your shackles and embrace an ideology that cannot be corrupted, that cannot be used to openly demonise 50% of the population, and one that will never become a dirty word because it has strayed so far from the original meaning and purpose of the movement.
If you made it this far, thank you for reading. Even if you now love me, hate my guts or found it somewhat interesting, I respect your decision and effort to hear me out in full.
It appears to me that you are agreeing that Feminism is more likely a umbrella term than it is a singular collective with a tiny fringe minority? Would I be correct?
originally posted by: InTheLight
And, yet, white-privileged male judges still tell female rape victims to keep their legs crossed. Justice is not being served to both women and men in varying situations.
originally posted by: dawnstar
are you saying the MRA isn't??
and, if you look at history, you will find that yes, minority men have benefited a great deal from the feminist movement. in it's beginnings, the feminists worked much more towards reversing slavery and earning all MEN the right to vote than they did their own causes!
originally posted by: Dark Ghost
originally posted by: InTheLight
And, yet, white-privileged male judges still tell female rape victims to keep their legs crossed. Justice is not being served to both women and men in varying situations.
To be honest, it really does seem like you are trying to bait me into antagonising you. The reason I say this is because despite whether or not your reply can be considered to be making a decent point or not (which I don't think you are, since you only mention an example of a female experiencing injustice without presenting a male equivalent and then claim that this shows both sexes experience injustice so to complain about men experiencing injustice is somehow worthy of being completely dismissed).
I am very suspicious of why you would mention a "white-privileged male judge" if your intention was not for something nefarious. What does race have to do with the topic? I referenced race in one section of the thread for comparison purposes as an issue, but other than that the thread has nothing to do with race. What does white-privilege have to do with being a judge? Can black people be judges? Can women be judges? I really am at a loss for words as why you would include that description.
Alas, I remember you and I have had a heated history at some time in the past, although recently we have not crossed paths. I am willing to forget the past for the sake of welcoming a potentially interesting and beneficial dialogue that can be achieved between us a this point in time on a topic that we seem to both feel passionately about. Would you be willing to do the same?
originally posted by: InTheLight
I mention a white privileged male judge because there are a few instances where female rape victims were blamed for being raped, or the rapist is given a jail sentence of six months. I mention male white privilege because it is still a dominant factor in our courtrooms and meeting rooms and to deny this is to deny the facts. Ask any non-radical men's group fighting for equality and justice how systematic, ingrained patriarchal elements are reared in a courtroom or in society in general (your point).
My point is valid, we all need to see beyond our own sphere of experiences and look at the facts - the realities of injustices that others' face in societies of intolerance and hate.
originally posted by: InTheLight
My point is that everyone (broad societal brush stroke here) needs equal representation or special education. How else can justice or understanding be served? By the way, judges and law enforcement are now being offered courses in sexual assault as many believe in the same old myths, have a lack of awareness, and continue to practice intolerance and discrimination. Hate comes from fear - fear of change - lack of understanding.
The MRM largely went underground as radical feminism lost the national spotlight in the 80’s. It wasn’t until the birth of Internet activism in the past decade—think the Arab Spring and Anonymous—that the MRM was given a platform to politically organize. The anonymity and geographical diversity of online communities was key to the growth of this movement whose presence is largely loathed. In its current iteration, the MRM seeks to rally around issues of family law, reproductive rights, male domestic and child abuse, military service and now sexual assault policy. A look online at MRM discussion threads, however, reveals that in reality a majority of the conversations taking place are not academic and intellectual calls for justice and equal treatment under the law.
A Voice for Men, one of MRM’s foremost website, includes threads with titles like MGTOW (“Men Going Their Own Way”)—which refers to those who reject the presence of female relationships in their life by “killing their thirst for women”—and “Fight Club,” a forum for diatribes. In fact a large portion of this community revolves around venting about problematic female relationships (cheating fiancés and abusive mothers). Even A Voice for Men founder Elam cites his troubled relationship with his mother as his “red pill.” In MRM speak, taking the “red pill”—a reference to The Matrix—marks the moment one realizes that one lives in an oppressive female dominated world. Elam’s first evidence of the matriarchy was founded in a flawed personal relationship rather than institutional subjugation. In this sense, outside of its leadership and despite its stated agenda, most of the movement has little concern for a true civil rights agenda.
It appears that the MRM’s reliance on online political organizing has been both its means of revival and a deep-rooted flaw. On online platforms, MRM has little control over the direction its discourse takes. Any blogger, redditor or violent twenty year-old can tap into and produce content that becomes a part of the movement. Online, MRM has drifted away from its historical foundation in challenging masculinity—however flawed its approach might be. As MRM-ers spew hateful comments about women in their lives (many of which cannot be reprinted) it is hard to ignore that these misogynistic threads, under the veil of civil rights, speak more to a repossession of “manliness” than a deconstruction of male gender roles. Here lies an inherent hypocrisy in the MRM. In its attempt to subvert male socialization towards violence and anger, it seems to have repossessed those very qualities.
www.brownpoliticalreview.org...
Proverbs 31:10-31King James Version (KJV)
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
www.biblegateway.com...
originally posted by: InTheLight
originally posted by: Dark Ghost
Instead of just copping it and moving on, instead of letting it slide, instead of "being a man about it" and just accepting the phrase "men are in power, they cannot experience real sexism or oppresion", some of them snapped. No, I will not do these things, I will actually take the advice of feminists who suggested I start a men's rights group. I will demonstrate clearly that something is wrong and I am close to powerless to stop it, but I will not just sit by and let it happen.
And so MRA was born. And what happened when it came into public awareness? Check back to criticism argument A above. And now, we are currently deep in stage B. But that is where it stops. Feminism will not be able to recover from its current position unless there is a significant reformation or a revolutionary more effective PR campaign. "But women are so oppressed!", "you are just a misogynist!", "you want women to fail!" These phrases mean nothing now. They are little more than talking points that lack substance.
If you don't want an extreme reaction like MRA to occur again, be more receptive to criticism and don't allow it to be the basis that irrepairably harms your movement.
Conclusion
In reality, females in Western countries have achieved equality in every way that it is possible to regulate. There is even strong evidence that they receive extra rights which men do not have in the legal, social and political spheres. They are favoured over men for certain jobs just because they are women. They are protected from harsh criticism and harsh scrutiny because they are women. They have far more services and resources that are focused on providing support to women. They are still the first ones along with children whose lives are deeemed more valuable and more innocent when emergencies or dangerous situations occur. They are allowed to have high expectations and will not be critcised when complaining that these are not met. They are given freedoms and privileges without being forced to own the responsibilities that usually come with those freedoms and privileges.
The burden is now on women to show that they do not need to hide behind a movement whose goals have been met. They have the same opportunity as men to achieve any realistic goal they have in mind. The pendulim that was very much against them in the past has swung passed the centre and is now heading way farther in the opposite direction. If you are a true egalitarian and believe in equal rights for every individual, remove your shackles and embrace an ideology that cannot be corrupted, that cannot be used to openly demonise 50% of the population, and one that will never become a dirty word because it has strayed so far from the original meaning and purpose of the movement.
If you made it this far, thank you for reading. Even if you now love me, hate my guts or found it somewhat interesting, I respect your decision and effort to hear me out in full.
And, yet, white-privileged male judges still tell female rape victims to keep their legs crossed or knees together, or some stupid s**t like that. Justice is not being served to both women and men in varying situations.
originally posted by: Antipathy17
originally posted by: InTheLight
originally posted by: Dark Ghost
Instead of just copping it and moving on, instead of letting it slide, instead of "being a man about it" and just accepting the phrase "men are in power, they cannot experience real sexism or oppresion", some of them snapped. No, I will not do these things, I will actually take the advice of feminists who suggested I start a men's rights group. I will demonstrate clearly that something is wrong and I am close to powerless to stop it, but I will not just sit by and let it happen.
And so MRA was born. And what happened when it came into public awareness? Check back to criticism argument A above. And now, we are currently deep in stage B. But that is where it stops. Feminism will not be able to recover from its current position unless there is a significant reformation or a revolutionary more effective PR campaign. "But women are so oppressed!", "you are just a misogynist!", "you want women to fail!" These phrases mean nothing now. They are little more than talking points that lack substance.
If you don't want an extreme reaction like MRA to occur again, be more receptive to criticism and don't allow it to be the basis that irrepairably harms your movement.
Conclusion
In reality, females in Western countries have achieved equality in every way that it is possible to regulate. There is even strong evidence that they receive extra rights which men do not have in the legal, social and political spheres. They are favoured over men for certain jobs just because they are women. They are protected from harsh criticism and harsh scrutiny because they are women. They have far more services and resources that are focused on providing support to women. They are still the first ones along with children whose lives are deeemed more valuable and more innocent when emergencies or dangerous situations occur. They are allowed to have high expectations and will not be critcised when complaining that these are not met. They are given freedoms and privileges without being forced to own the responsibilities that usually come with those freedoms and privileges.
The burden is now on women to show that they do not need to hide behind a movement whose goals have been met. They have the same opportunity as men to achieve any realistic goal they have in mind. The pendulim that was very much against them in the past has swung passed the centre and is now heading way farther in the opposite direction. If you are a true egalitarian and believe in equal rights for every individual, remove your shackles and embrace an ideology that cannot be corrupted, that cannot be used to openly demonise 50% of the population, and one that will never become a dirty word because it has strayed so far from the original meaning and purpose of the movement.
If you made it this far, thank you for reading. Even if you now love me, hate my guts or found it somewhat interesting, I respect your decision and effort to hear me out in full.
And, yet, white-privileged male judges still tell female rape victims to keep their legs crossed or knees together, or some stupid s**t like that. Justice is not being served to both women and men in varying situations.
That judge should be singled out. We shouldn't claim that the profession of being a judge is corrupt to the core because of these INDIVIDUALS. They don't speak for most judges, they speak for themselves and their own interpretation of the law. Feminists on the other hand like to speak for all groups expect men.
originally posted by: InTheLight
a reply to: Antipathy17
Other groups naturally joined with them through shared experiences of inequality/injustices, including those men/women that witnessed and shared in their partner's negative experiences. Men's groups seemed to initially take hold due to courtroom battles which they felt were unjust to their gender. In this respect, all groups have shared experiences in this realm, I am sure. So, we need to stop this divisiveness and shift focus to the societal, systemic problems which plague us all.
originally posted by: InTheLight
a reply to: Antipathy17
Other groups naturally joined with them through shared experiences of inequality/injustices, including those men/women that witnessed and shared in their partner's negative experiences. Men's groups seemed to initially take hold due to courtroom battles which they felt were unjust to their gender. In this respect, all groups have shared experiences in this realm, I am sure. So, we need to stop this divisiveness and shift focus to the societal, systemic problems which plague us all.
originally posted by: InTheLight
You missed a few key facts.
If women are degraded and treated unjustly in courts, why then would they come forward? They would not come forward, hence the low population statistics you mention.
What sexual assault training and education will do (as proposed, focused, and deemed a priority by the leaders of my government) is, hopefully, to educate some of those who have the power to use the full extent of the law to punish the criminal fairly. That is not happening in the courts today.
I am not passionate about the topic, rather I am proactive in relaying the truth as to the inequalities that exist for women and men with this particular problem, which counters your claims that women have equality in all things.
I shudder to think what injustices men (of all walks of life) face in the courtrooms in response to their claims of being raped.