The importance of the face-to-face meeting

I had seen one of my neighbors from almost every conceivable angle over a long period of time until today. Today I met her face to face.

I thought she was pretty before, but now I think she's drop-dead gorgeous. Many people will call me superficial for posting that. There is a non-superficial explanation...

"The eyes are the windows to the soul."

Looking at her face to face gave me a chance to look into her eyes. She knocked me out, and I didn't know what to say. I was speechless. It's a good thing she was in a hurry (her dog was literally running away) because I wouldn't have been capable of making conversation. That's completely unlike me.

This thread is kind of a sequel to the thread linked below. There is no substitute for the face-to-face meeting. Even seeing someone in person from many different angles over a long period of time may not be enough.

Internet Relationships: A Few Seconds Can Last Forever

I'm asking her out next time I talk to her. I wasn't going to do that before, but almost nothing could stop me from doing it now.

a reply to: Profusion

Godspeed bro, hope it works out.

a reply to: Wide-Eyes

I heard she has a boyfriend, but that was a long time ago.

I think she was turned off when she told me her name, and I replied, "That's a nice name." She answered, "I don't know", and she was gone. Her name is one of my favorite names. She may have taken my comment as flattery.

I don't even regret saying that because my brain was shut off. Humans have limitations.

Here Are 5 Reasons Why Meeting Face-to-Face is Best:

Body Langauge is Communication 

Ensures Engagement 

Clarifies Meaning

Drives Participation

More Efficient


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a reply to: Profusion

Next time, just grab her by the pussy lol.

a reply to: Profusion



I thought you had big plans for getting back with an EX?

How do you keep up with yourself!!

originally posted by: eletheia
a reply to: Profusion



I thought you had big plans for getting back with an EX?

How do you keep up with yourself!!

That is a long shot. That could happen, but I'm not counting on it at all. That's the romantic equivalent of a Hail Mary pass.

Going on a date with the woman I met today would be inconsequential unless it turned into something more. I would call that a long shot with someone who looks like that.

You and your weird relationship threads. You're unique.

So she was "too busy" to have a real convo?

a reply to: Profusion

There is no substitute to getting off the PC and living life

a reply to: Profusion

May I ask how old you are?

originally posted by: Dumbass
So she was "too busy" to have a real convo?

Her dog was running away. There was no doubt that she wasn't making an excuse to get away. She seemed interested in chatting with me, but I don't know if that's the case. When I commented on her name, she immediately left.

originally posted by: knowledgehunter0986
a reply to: Profusion

May I ask how old you are?

What would the relevance of that be? Would you be making use of the genetic logical fallacy or the ad hominem logical fallacy or something else? If you want to talk about the issues that I raised in the original post, that's fine. Those issues are valid.

a reply to: and14263

You and your weird relationship threads. You're unique.

Maybe if he didnt over analyze every single interaction or presumption when it comes to his daily interaction with the opposite sex he may start enjoying life. There comes a point where you stop asking for advice and get on with it.

a reply to: Profusion

I wasn't trying to be rude, I was actually being serious because I'm trying to make an accurate assessment of you based on a your recent posts. I wanted to give you my input.

originally posted by: knowledgehunter0986
a reply to: Profusion

I wasn't trying to be rude, I was actually being serious because I'm trying to make an accurate assessment of you based on a your recent posts. I wanted to give you my input.

You may enjoy the following thread:

Is it possible to make accurate psychological diagnoses based on forum posts?

"I'm trying to make an accurate assessment of you based on a your recent posts"?

You're dealing with fragments of things. That's not possible.

Why is everyone turning this thread into a discussion of me? This is thread is about a serious issue:

The importance of the face-to-face meeting

I just happened to post the thread, but the topic of the thread is not me at all.

a reply to: Profusion

I actually already participated in that thread if you actually looked. I've been following your recent posts and regardless if you can or cannot make an accurate assessment. I sure have one of you , and by your response you just gave me, I have even more insight on you.. I actually changed my mind about wanting to give you my input becuase it's clear you don't want to hear it. I hope you find yourself and find peace for yourself.

ETA: btw, face to face is not a "serious issue" and only opens more insight into who you are and how you think.. And the fact you are too nervous or embarrassed to tell me your age tells me a lot also..

originally posted by: knowledgehunter0986
I actually changed my mind about wanting to give you my input becuase it's clear you don't want to hear it.

I met a very gifted remote viewer on this forum who actually did have accurate information about me. You may be that type, or you may be a gifted psychic or some such thing.

If you're making your evaluation based strictly on posts on a forum, that's an illusion.

You should definitely ask her out, good luck dude.

originally posted by: DarkvsLight29
You should definitely ask her out, good luck dude.

I saw her today, and I asked her out. She said yes, and she gave me her phone number. I'm ecstatic about this. I haven't had this good of a feeling about a first date in a long time.

I asked her about her dog, and she told me how her dog's barking bothered her. I recommended that she have the dog's vocal cords cut. She said she had never heard of that, but she would look into it. So, here I was trying to sell the idea of having her dog's vocal cords cut when I don't even know her at all. I tried to explain the advantages of it. That took up almost the entire conversation while we spent a few sentences on our coming date.

That's a little window into how my life often goes for some reason. Cutting a dog's vocal cords is not the stuff of romance. We were both in a hurry to go, so the entire conversation only lasted a few minutes.

I have to thank everyone at ATS. Some people think these threads are a waste of time, but look at this one. I wouldn't have asked this woman out if it weren't for this thread. There have been other examples where threads like this have changed my life.

What have I learned from this?

I sent a text message to this woman about our date. We set it up, and she wrote that she was looking forward to seeing me. This is a person that I've spoken to twice for a total of a few minutes. When I think of the phrase "looking forward to seeing someone", I think of good friends and family. I don't think of brief acquaintances when I use that phrase. I think our few minutes together must have really impacted her.

I'm starting to think that I have a bigger impact on people than I ever imagined. I've written about some examples of that on this forum. My ex-girlfriend (whom I broke up with last summer) described me breaking up with her as being a personal tragedy, a woman I had very brief (just over a week) online relationship with last summer told me I broke her heart, a woman I knew from a past job whom I was never friends with (and whom I haven't seen in almost five years) replied to my friend request on an instant messaging program by getting me in touch with the CEO of an organization I used to work with (it's the only realistic explanation), I know of at least three women I've known who have cried as a direct result of my communications with them in the last nine months (none of them are those I've mentioned above), a pen pal I have (not mentioned above) described my communications with her as "the desecration of my soul" (I'll never forget those words)...

That may not sound like a lot, but I'm a person who stays away from people as much as possible. I have very little contact with people in a personal sense, so those few examples represent a large proportion of the women that I have personal contact with. I would say that every single woman that has gotten to know me personally online in the last nine months has flipped out in one way or another over our communications (in both positive and negative ways). It's six different people in total. One of those times was not as overt as the others, and it only involved a sudden change of avatar, writing style, and tone toward me and our "friendship", not to mention getting me banned from a forum for no reason (I hadn't made a post in over a week, and there was nothing in our PMs that was the slightest bit offensive or inappropriate except on her part in my opinion. She had a horrific past, and she told me about it in gruesome detail. I had committed the sin of complaining to her about another woman, that's when it all changed immediately, I'm talking about suddenly PM after that.), but all of that happening simultaneously adds up to flipping out a bit in my opinion.

I need to reevaluate where I actually stand in the universe a little, and I have to adjust. I think of myself as being completely unimportant, but that's obviously wrong.