March for Life - a pro-choice stance

I have a very personal story about why I could never abort. I decided not to abort after an incident most people would abort. I decided to deal with my actions, reluctantly went to my first ultrasound and shockingly cried at first sight of my child. From then on, i was pro-life...for myself. I don't know when it happened for me, the pee on the stick, just knowing it was in there...my priorities quickly changed. Before the double lines on the pee stick, i was the type of person that rolled my eyes when people googled over babies, I didnt get it. I partied 5 nights a week and slept till noon everyday, children annoyed me and I wanted to not be around them. I was also in my upper 20's, old enough for a mother instinct to kick in (if there was one). I had a wonderful pregnancy, i glowed, I felt different in a good way, I was single. I still, 5 yrs later, know I made the right decision and still feel different in a good way, more enlightened, I changed for the better and its bc of my child. Now I get it, I google over babies, I ache to hold them, I am the exact person I used to roll my eyes at, lol.

If anyone who is thinking about having an abortion talks with me...they may not do it based on my personal experience, which was and still is the best experience in my life.

However...that is how I believe for myself, I have no right to push that belief legally onto someone else. I had a great experience, however, I am pro-choice politically and would never march pro-life. All pro-lifers are selfish and narrow-minded. End of story. If you want to push your so-called beliefs onto someone else legally...you cray!

I do not understand why people want to push their beliefs onto someone else. I am sickened by this march. so much wrong with it, so much wrong with forcing your beliefs.

I am also a pro-choice person who couldn't see myself having an abortion. I got married when I was older and we decided we didn't want to have kids. We wanted to be free to live however we wanted and to travel without the responsibility of children. A year into our marriage, I found myself with an unplanned pregnancy.

It was never an option for me personally to have an abortion. My lovely daughter is 15 and is the joy of my life.
For some though, it is their best option. Who is anyone to tell me I shouldn't have carried that pregnancy to term at age 41? Who am I to tell anyone they are forced to carry a pregnancy to term?

Pro-choice. Not pro-abortion. Not anti-life. Pro-choice.

a reply to: kaylaluv

Thanks for your story.

I am watching the news and a lady said that she decided not to abort and her son is the best thing that ever happened to her...that is her reason for marching...for forcing her beliefs onto others.

Yeah, thats great that she had a positive experience with not aborting...but...(think deeper lady)...do you really think that bc it worked out for you that you have the right to force it onto strangers?

a reply to: veracity

Pro-lifers see abortion as murder.

The frustrating thing about all of this is that when people say, "I'm against abortion personally, but I would never ban it" is like saying "I'm against murder, but if other people want to kill people, then that is their right", at least to people who consider abortion "murder".

It's an argument that will never end, there is no compromise really.

Either abortions will continue and half the population will consider it murder.

Or abortions will be banned and half the population will consider it subjugation.

a reply to: DBCowboy

Exactly DC, Im against murder as well for myself, but if others want to kill...its their choice...good luck, don't get caught...i wouldn't do it if i were you...but i can't force you not to do it...

I know it will always be an issue and trust me, I can empathize why people see it as murder, i just think it is very selfish and close-minded. Its still pushing your beliefs onto others.

Why do you care so much what others do? Its a serious question.

a reply to: DBCowboy

I just don't consider it murdering a human being. I consider it preventing something from developing into a human being.

I always find it ironic when people who are pro-life don't seem to care much about the children once they are born into poverty, abuse, neglect, gangs, violence. They say stuff like "it's not my problem or responsibility."

But you are right. We are never going to change each other's minds.

a reply to: veracity

This is the most intelligent post on this topic I've seen here! Good on you!

I'm continually amazed how on this site, with a community of so many people so very passionate about personal freedom and liberty, that so many people argue for forcing women to do things with their body against their will.

originally posted by: veracity

Why do you care so much what others do? Its a serious question.

Why do I care about a society that condones murder of innocent beings?

My opinion, is that abortion is destroying the life of an innocent. We live in a society that encourages, condones it.

I can either accept it, fight it, leave it, ignore it.

I choose to speak out against it.

originally posted by: kaylaluv
a reply to: DBCowboy

I just don't consider it murdering a human being. I consider it preventing something from developing into a human being.

In a free society, everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

a reply to: kaylaluv

I think pro-lifers are very small-minded, they cannot see the bigger picture, what happens after the child is born into poverty.

They have a mission...to save lives...the end...whatever happens after it is born...out of sight, out of mind.

a reply to: DBCowboy


What is your stance on welfare and programs to help poor families with babies?

originally posted by: DBCowboy


I choose to speak out against it.

But I have never heard you speak out about parents neglecting their children by feeding them crap which will affect their health and eventually kill them. As a matter of fact, I seem to remember you saying something like "nunya business" regarding that very issue on another thread.

Nunya business.

a reply to: wheresthebody

It is astounding, twilight zone almost. There are levels to this issue and they are arguing on level 1 only...save lives!!! end murder!!!

a reply to: kaylaluv

Should murder be ""nunya business"?

a reply to: DBCowboy

In the case of a woman's choice to abort, if you call that murder...then yes, nunya...

Now please tell me your views on government money spent to help poor families and babies.

a reply to: veracity

Indeed, many here seem limited to 2 dimensional thinking on a complicated social subject like this.

originally posted by: veracity
a reply to: DBCowboy


What is your stance on welfare and programs to help poor families with babies?

If people would just take responsibility for their actions, perhaps there would be fewer unwanted pregnancies to begin with.

Your focus seems to be "after the fact" where I would concentrate on the behavior "prior to the fact".

As for welfare and assisting with unwanted children?

As a society we need to do more. Government should make it easier to adopt, we spend too much time on wasteful programs.

We don't live in a very enlightened society when killing life is the most appropriate solution.

a reply to: veracity

Then why should the state and society consider murder of anyone illegal?

a reply to: DBCowboy

thanks for your response, I agree with most of it.

That is another level to the pro-life argument," what to do after the baby is born", that pro-lifers seem to ignore, I really like your response.

Take responsibility for actions...does that mean perhaps birth control? Abortions went down after the ACA went into effect...Im primarily talking about the rule of free birth control.

Do you agree with that rule?

a reply to: DBCowboy

Should parents who feed their kids crap instead of real food, which will end up causing permanent health damage be "nunya business"?

Why do you not care enough about the kids who have actually developed into human beings and are suffering slow deaths?

Why do you care so much about an embryo that has no knowledge of hunger or neglect or violence?