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[edit on 5-5-2006 by Termite197]

She doesn't need to press charges....if the police can see evidence that she is being abused, they will charge him. Call the cops!!!! Immediately.

And smarten her up! Why the hell would she stay with him???

Originally posted by sensfan
She doesn't need to press charges....if the police can see evidence that she is being abused, they will charge him. Call the cops!!!! Immediately.

And smarten her up! Why the hell would she stay with him???

Agreed. Call the cops on this loser, ASTAT. He's very lucky I don't know who he is.............

You can't help those that won't accept help. It is up to that woman to decide for herself that she is not going to put up with that abuse. Once she has made the decision to get out of the situation, there are more options than one would think, but she has to actually make that choice. You or your wife can't do it for her. Only she can do that.

You could report the abuse to the authorities, but if as you say she will not confirm it or complain about it, all that will do is piss the loser off and get her beaten more.

Personally, I think that anyone who witnesses a man beating a woman should be allowed by law to put a stop to it, using whatever means are required, including violence.

This has happened to a friend of mine. Although it was his mother who was the victim. I wouldn't suggest this, but he got a few friends, and they showed up at his Mothers boyfriends house with baseball bats. Broke his jaw, 2 black eyes, and broke quite a few of his ribs.

There is a chance of getting charged with assault. But I feel it is better to give him his own medacine then make him pay a fine. So i say, get a nice heavy oak bat, and knock him out.

But its not your style, so I'm not sure, you would have to get her to go to the police.

[edit on 27-1-2005 by _BLiND_]

Originally posted by Ambient Sound
You can't help those that won't accept help. It is up to that woman to decide for herself that she is not going to put up with that abuse. Once she has made the decision to get out of the situation, there are more options than one would think, but she has to actually make that choice. You or your wife can't do it for her. Only she can do that.

You could report the abuse to the authorities, but if as you say she will not confirm it or complain about it, all that will do is piss the loser off and get her beaten more.

Personally, I think that anyone who witnesses a man beating a woman should be allowed by law to put a stop to it, using whatever means are required, including violence.

Thats exactly why I am hesitant about anything, because that is exactly the way he is. If I solve it in anyway, I really think he will hurt her worse, I mean I KNOW he will hurt her worse. He is a real piece of work im telling ya. The thing that tops the cake is she is an all around sweet person, very beautiful and very nice. I can't even imagine how a man could bring himself to do this.

But hey, I love to hear the opinions and ideas of the members on this site!

I would agree with ' blind ' give this piece of garbage a taste of his own medicine...................sounds like this jerk has a serious problem.

I remember being out with a friend of mine one night and hearing this girl screaming and shouting and saw her being hit by this guy.......so my mate went over to stop this guy hitting her and she turned around told my mate to go away..............being polite here...........then picked up a bottle and hit him with it !!

So much for helping out there !!

You need to talk to her, be there for her,

There will come a day when she will feel the need to get away,

Note down the date and the injurys,

Has she got children?

The most important thing you can do is to listen without judging, respect her decisions, and help her to find ways to become stronger and safer.

Tell her about the services available, Remind her that if she calls a service, she can just get support and information, they won't pressure her to leave if she doesn't want to.
Find out about Intervention Orders and other legal options available and pass this information on to her if she wants it.

Maintain some level of regular contact with her. Having an opportunity to talk regularly to a supportive friend can be very important

Help her to understand that the abuse is not her fault and that no-one deserves to be abused, no matter what they do. Let her know you think that the way her partner is treating her is wrong. For example, 'No-one, not even your husband, has the right to mistreat you'.
Take the abuse seriously. Abuse can be damaging both physically and emotionally. Don't underestimate the danger she may be in.

read up a little on it also.

www.helpguide.org...

Asala is correct. I was going to suggest you suggest to her that she called the Samaritans, but you don't have such an organisation in the US do you ?

This is exactly why we do not need laws for domestic violence or assault - they do not prevent anyone harming someone like this, and it ties up everyone elses hands to really doing anything about it in a meaningful way. Some of you would disagree, and of course we are all entitled to our opinions. Without these laws, this P.O.S. would come to grips with a lot of sympathetic people who would be more than happy to cripple this scum for a long long time (me being one of them). I bet he would think twice about abusing someone if he had his teeth knocked out permanently.

well i hate to say it , but this lady needs alot of mental help if she hasn't called the cops on this piece of filth, To take a beating like that on a regular basis and not do anything is showing serious signs of mental abuse/coditioning by her boyfriend. Maybe you should talk to her family and thell them. Help her to see a psychiatrist or see if there is a program for poor woman like her. If action isn't taken she might commit suicide one day or become as abusive as he is. And I bet that he has full control over her. Asala gave some great advice ,She needs to see that she is better than that. I hope it works out.

i agree, by her not wanting to tell the police she is screaming "there's mental abuse too!" if worst comes 2 worst, have her file for a restraining order agianst him. u need 2 call the cops 4 her tho. there r hospital records proving the abuse. my dad used 2 choke me, it wasn't as bad as what ur describing, but i got fed up 1 day & called CYS. just ask & i'll get u any # u need...

i freaking hate men who hit women....but i did 6 months supended sentance for breaking a guys nose who i saw punching his girlfriend repeatedley in the face outside a nightclub......she even backed him up in court and denied he'd hit her....she said i pushed her over and she fell on her face and loads more stuff besides!
it can be hard to do whats right sometimes but be carefull with what you get involved in....its quite common for both men and women to put up with violent relationships.........personally id drag the cowardly looser out of his bed in the early hours of the morning and pistol whip him! until he promised on pain of death to never contact this women again.....
but thats just me.

This is domestic abuse and should not be tolerated. She probably has battered wife's sydrome which is why she doesn't want to go to the police to press charges, she may feel she deserves it because her self esteem and spirit has been broken by the skidmark of a human being.


What she needs more then anything right now is lot's of nurturing and love.
Her spirit needs to be repaired and only her closest of friends and family who have a positive influence over her can help.

This guy will get his, what goes around comes around, things will take care of themselves, there is nothing you "should" do.

But if you "choose" to, well then, i'd be the one to bait him into an argument which could lead to physical abuse... Just never be the one stupid enough to make the first move because your ass will be on the line.

Once she regains her strength she will be able to see the big picture and realise she doesn't deserve that and hopefully she'll be able to put on her ass kicking boots.