Why do some people say I am racist?

originally posted by: Mandroid7

originally posted by: IAMTAT
a reply to: Marcus069

This IS racist.
You are saying Blacks or Asians are unattractive. That is an absurd and derogatory generalization based on race alone.

How did you deduct this from the op?

He isn't remotely saying what you are quoting.

Or are you actually saying your sexual attractions need to span all races or your racist?

I guess he's saying gays choose not to be attracted to the opposite sex.
As far as I know, you don't get to choose that sort of thing.

S'ok. I figured. Look, I don't mean to attack you...to judge anything on race alone is, by definition, 'racist'. Having individual preferences based on features is not racist...saying all Asian or Black women are unattractive...is a racist statement. Period

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I never said black or asian woman are unattractive, thats a different statement to saying I am not attracted to them. Its like saying I said they are ugly. I can appreciate their beauty but their kind of beauty is not something I go for.

originally posted by: IAMTAT

originally posted by: Marcus069

originally posted by: IAMTAT

originally posted by: Marcus069

originally posted by: IAMTAT
a reply to: Marcus069

This IS racist.
You are saying Blacks or Asians are unattractive. That is an absurd and derogatory generalization based on race alone.

So you want me to force myself to be attractive to them and overcome my biological senses? You are an idiot.

Racism is not attractive...so I'm sure most women of ANY race would not find you to be "attractive to them".

Sorry I meant attracted to them. Edited the post.

S'ok. I figured.
Look, I don't mean to attack you...to judge anything on race alone is, by definition, 'racist'.
Having individual preferences based on features is not racist...saying all Asian or Black women are unattractive...is a racist statement. Period.

The OP didn't say they weren't attractive, he said he personally wasn't attracted TO THEM.

That's completely different from what you implied. I prefer brown or black hair on men. That doesn't mean I've never seen an attractive blonde woman, or a hot blonde guy. All it means I usually PREFER darker hair.

originally posted by: Marcus069
When I say I am not sexually attracted to black or asian women I am considered by some people to be racist. I mean seriously, how the f**k is this considered to be racist? Its a sexual preference. I cant help it if I am not attracted to them. Its just ridiculous.

Probably because they don't know the proper meaning. Racism is belief in the superiority or inferiority of a race. It has nothing to do with what you wish to do with your genitals unless it was because you thought their race inferior.

originally posted by: Marcus069

I never said black or asian woman are unattractive, thats a different statement to saying I am not attracted to them.

Analyze that statement a moment.
If you are not attracted to something...it means you consider it to be unattractive.
If you are not attracted to Black or Asian women...it means you find Black or Asian women unattractive.

Where does that logic fail?

originally posted by: IAMTAT

originally posted by: Marcus069

I never said black or asian woman are unattractive, thats a different statement to saying I am not attracted to them.

Analyze that statement a moment.
If you are not attracted to something...it means you consider it to be unattractive.
If you are not attracted to Black or Asian women...it means you find Black or Asian women unattractive.

Where does that logic fail?

It fails because he could also mean that he feels NOTHING towards them. Are you either attracted to, or not attracted to, every single person you have ever seen? Of course not. Sometimes it's neutral, you just don't care.

Well, racists tend to think one race is better than the other. Being attracted mostly to your own race is pretty much the default stance initially, mostly due to that being who you were raised by and have a natural comfort level with enough to consider mating.

In saying that, as you get older, typically a person will diversify a bit.

You dont have to date anyone but I would recommend work to diversify your crowd a bit if possible..go places you haven't been and talk to people who have different experiences. make friends.

Oh, and asian women are perhaps the most beautiful people on earth..sometimes annoyingly so. That and Scandinavian women. Brazilians however have shapes that...are simply not humanly possible.

a reply to: Marcus069

Personally, I know lots of people I am not attracted to sexually. I prefer dark haired white women under 35 with blue eyes. I have never been sexually attracted to men or black women, but every once in a while I am attracted to an Asian or Latino woman.

Honestly, personality is key once the pass the look test.

Analyze that statement a moment.
If you are not attracted to something...it means you consider it to be unattractive.
If you are not attracted to Black or Asian women...it means you find Black or Asian women unattractive.

Where does that logic fail?

Okay, so saying that if you are a white dude and found one asian or black woman unattractive then you have to consider yourself a racist too.

It fails because he could also mean that he feels NOTHING towards them. Are you either attracted to, or not attracted to, every single person you have ever seen? Of course not. Sometimes it's neutral, you just don't care.

Exactly, well said.

originally posted by: IAMTAT
Analyze that statement a moment.
If you are not attracted to something...it means you consider it to be unattractive.
If you are not attracted to Black or Asian women...it means you find Black or Asian women unattractive.

Where does that logic fail?

Saying you are not attracted to something is not saying you find something inherently unattractive.

I am not attracted to men, that doesn't mean I feel men cannot be attractive.
Attraction is a complex set of neurochemical responses. you got a lot going on here. comfort level is a huge part of that, and people are most comfortable with people who were protective over them in their formulative years (aka, mom and dad). Then you got other aspects of comfort and acceptability, etc.
Yes, you can train yourself out of this after time with intent, but it isn't necessary and most dont (of any race, black, asian, or white)

a reply to: Marcus069

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. However, is it important to publically tell everyone what or who you hate, or which politically party you belong to? i personally believe discussing these things are redundant and creates a pack mentality, and you know what pack mentality leads to in the history?

I mean, i dont date X women because of X, what limits you to attraction? what if you are a boss of the X women? maybe a persident of x people? can you control your dislike to attraction alone.

I liked and hated many people.. it has to do with features.... i actually find girls that are not of my race to be beautiful. i just dont hate any.

Ah, the PC phobic atmosphere anymore!
It would probably be better to say what you
ARE attracted to, rather than what you're not!

I have always been attracted to Polynesian,
Asian or Native American guys.
Probably because I grew up in a small town
that was 100% white & boring!

Did that mean I never found any other guys attractive...no! That's just what would catch my eye in a room full of people.

Just like flowers, everybody has their favorites.
That doesn't mean all the other kinds of flowers aren't pretty too!

Someday when there are aliens living on earth,
will we be considered spacist if we aren't attracted to them?! Ha, ha, ha!

WOQ

I'm not really looking anymore, as i haven't in 11 years 2 days ago.
But i'm open if magic happens.

I love them short, some round, some dark, some light.... perhaps tall. Rosario Dawson but not a Leslie Jones. Maybe a Megyn Kelly but OMG NO to Nancy Grace.
If you are a b!#ch, then get lost. So if you're not a shiny sports car, so what! You could be an older model Saturn that's warm and sweet with the curves.

I've dated asians, I quite love the beauty.
I have not dated an African American woman. I've wanted to on a couple of occasions, but the opportunity did not transpire. She was married... and I was a proper Co-worker. If my mind spoke aloud about her. ( blushing )

Latinas! I'm waiting for a chance.( 😙😚😗😘😍🙄 )
Middle eastern ladies... just beautiful.
Natives... absolutely.

Yes!

Oh Hell Yes!

If you butt ugly, I'll accept for a warm, smart and sweet personality. Being naturally funny scores high as well.

If you're mean. No chance.
I'm not exactly good looking, so who the hell am i to judge. ( I don't anyways )
I'm not racist, but i can't stand Kim Kardashian. Yes she may be attractive to some, but my god is she's UGLY on the inside!

This does not really help the Race argument by the OP. But perhaps the right opportunity has not come about yet.




Sorry...edit: Red Heads are my Achilles Heel.

Most humans are not xenophiles.

originally posted by: luciddream
a reply to: Marcus069

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. However, is it important to publically tell everyone what or who you hate, or which politically party you belong to? i personally believe discussing these things are redundant and creates a pack mentality, and you know what pack mentality leads to in the history?

I mean, i dont date X women because of X, what limits you to attraction? what if you are a boss of the X women? maybe a persident of x people? can you control your dislike to attraction alone.

I liked and hated many people.. it has to do with features.... i actually find girls that are not of my race to be beautiful. i just dont hate any.

Man you gotta turn this so political over a little sexual preference? Whats my party got to do with it? When did I mention I hate any race?

Okay, to clear things up.
I am not generally attracted to Asian women because I dont like their small petite frames and flat chests/flat butts. I am not attracted to black women because I dont like the pink cushion contrast and extra big butts.

You can call me shallow - thats fine. But stop calling me racist!

a reply to: Marcus069

Nobody cares if you are racist, just sayin'

a reply to: Marcus069

Haha im not trying to go down that road. like i mentioned, what do you gain by saying things you dont like? only to be joined by others that "hate" the same thing.

Shouldnt we appreicate what we like? instead of gathering around what we dont like?

a reply to: Marcus069

Not even these 2?
Mind you, asian is a wee bit broad.😊