Jealous people are making life hard... htf to solve it ??

Time and time again through most of my life I have encountered all kinds of social disconnection , and it's not often my fault . It happens because other men are jealous of me , particularly because I am very good looking .

Today , yet another example happened , all in the blink of an eye , a lovely young lady's boyfriend called me 'what a loser' , in my earshot , after she cast me an admiring glance. I didn't ask for it , I didn't do or say anything , but I became an object of hate and derision for him , just like that .

Now , this wasn't a problem , they went their way , I went mine , but , I can describe all sorts of derision which has hurt , which I have had to get away from , or had to suffer , such as when I have had a job with someone who simply hated me just because the girls went coo.

I know I am not being paranoid , I don't have erotomantic delusions , in fact I've been told 'you look like David Beckham' in the past etc etc .
I could cite loads of examples , try this recent one - went to the hardware store , the guy greeting people at the door , said to me , "they're jealous" , even as I walked in the door . I was followed round the shop , and then at the pay counter , the guy with the laser scanner shot me in the eyes with it , accidentally on purpose . I told him he should be more careful , its a laser , and went away not really giving a toss , but having been warned , then I knew what it was about .

This kind of thing has happened again and again , and while I can't exactly explain to my friends what I am suffering and why , I am starting to have really had enough of it since today . Yes I am good looking , sometimes I wish I wasn't though , no you won't tell me I am arrogant or exaggerating , I am the one who has had to live with these experiences.

People do turn quite nasty if the girls they like make eyes at or want someone else , even if just for a few seconds ogling , nothing serious . I am left with not knowing what they are going to say or do about it , to the extent that I don't want to interact socially much anymore , I can't take having people treat me like some criminal who deserves no respect , because that is happens as well , I have in the past wondered why , but I know why these days. Its too too easy to quietly stab someone like me in the back , so good looking , kind and gentle or not , potential relationships are not happening .

The question is to ats , wtf am I going to do about this ??

a reply to: ZIPMATT

I feel your pain. I'm rich with a gigantic willy and a magnetic personality; it can be very difficult but I muddle through somehow....Usually when I'm swimming in my Olympic sized pool surrounded by naked models counting my money.

Chin up bruh.

Move to Hollywood. You'll fit right in.

a reply to: ZIPMATT

Hot girls we have problems too, we're just like you--except we're hot!

I tell you what you do...

Start eating bacon double cheeseburgers twice daily. Start smoking and drinking in excessive quantities. Find out what things you're allergic to by rubbing them on your face (if you have no allergies, try a steel wool pad and just scrub away once a week.)

Next is to stop washing your clothes, and cease all forms of grooming.

The women will finally be all over you. And the men will all want to be your buddy.

Good luck bro

a reply to: ZIPMATT

I sincerely apologize if anything I may have typed, read in such a way as to cause offense..trying to convey humour through text can be challenging...

If u had been sitting across the table from me u would have seen he nonthreatening tongue in cheek context..

Again my apologies OP..

Respectfully,
~meathead

a reply to: ZIPMATT

I found you a kindred spirit!

Woman says she was 'bullied' by fellow guests for wearing a revealing mini-dress... so is it appropriate?

She understands. She knows what unmitigated hell it is when the world can't accept your hottie mchotness.

originally posted by: ZIPMATT


The question is to ats , wtf am I going to do about this ??

My sincerest advice: quit whining and be an adult.

If you think it's 'difficult' being the good-looking center of attention, try being a disfigured forest troll like me. People will avert their eyes, trust me. You need not worry of any jealousy, drama, or acknowledgement to your existence.

a reply to: Mike Stivic

I didn't read it , was having my tea . Would have liked to though , its actually v hard to offend me , I've soaked up all sorts of jibes over time. 6 replies I'm still having to live with problems as described...

a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha

The fact is ; you ain't got an answer to it , just like me . I'm worried there isn't actually a solution ..

originally posted by: ZIPMATT
a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha

The fact is ; you ain't got an answer to it , just like me . I'm worried there isn't actually a solution ..

Perhaps I spoke too soon...yes there is definitely some Trollish blood in your veins.

wearing a tinfoil hat when in public will solve your problems.

I heard they make you invisible

originally posted by: NarcolepticBuddha

originally posted by: ZIPMATT


The question is to ats , wtf am I going to do about this ??

My sincerest advice: quit whining and be an adult.

If you think it's 'difficult' being the good-looking center of attention, try being a disfigured forest troll like me. People will avert their eyes, trust me. You need not worry of any jealousy, drama, or acknowledgement to your existence.

I can see your point , but try seeing mine - how would you like to 'not' answer false allegations , because the person making them up made sure no one would dare challenge you about them ? Lies masquerading as gossip or some kind of convoluted justice: I'd sooner live w being ugly , but you can't swap yr face scrub off yr sun tan or unmuscle yr arms . I am dealing w derision and hate from unknowns , like today

I just ugly myself up to deal with being born attractive..get into a brawl or mar your face..just kidding I look like a guy.
Stay above it all with polite and proper behavior
It is okay to be smart and look good
My dear buddy likes to work with mother vehicles and even though you can not tell through all the grease on his face, he is really quite nice to ''good looking'' fellows
Not everyone is truly jeoulous...even though when you look in mirror you might think that will be the case in public... just try to be happy, your self and don't expect everyone to notice you.
Keep your plight (kind, polite) smile for those you wish to notice you and for those that do... in a store or wherever...
I actually smiled at pretty woman crossing the road and she smiled back..what a great thing to experience!
In going into buildings remember there are working folks willing to help with what you are looking for...
Sometimes, at the door they are just crazy, mumbling things they are dealing with, so it is hard but don't take it too personally.
Great OP, hope your ok and that you find inner calm and well being.

a reply to: Boadicea

I am not out to show off , never really dress up , its not my fault . I guess there is not actually a solution to what other people do or say , it's their choice if I angry them or turn them on (on first impressions) . Just got to walk away again with no answers to it . Thanks for the light hearted p$ss takes , anyway .

It is difficult to tell what lady is with what man, just keep your eyes off other mans woman and smile, nod at the males... so then if you see a woman all alone p, wait to see if she is claimed at least 15 minutes before look king at her directly... you just never know
Reading body postures is a good idea to study.
I got yelled at by drunk man when I spoke to his wife asking if she was okay...I was worried she might have alcohol poisoning... she seemed a tiny bit grateful and that was all I needed.
She knew I wasn't judging her and simply concerned about if she needed food or water... the two drunks could take care of each other and they made this clear.
Op, this is in reference to ogling or looking at women flirting with you...
Stay safe, friend.

Please don't let guys like that bother you. My sons father does this crap all the time to any guy who so much as thinks of me. Forget about it if I want to be there friend, or was already their friend..... Some men are just so incredibly insecure, and it isn't your fault. You aren't a loser. He's wishing out loud for you to be how he sees himself.

a reply to: peppycat

Oh cheers for that , good advice . I suppose the guy today was actually angry with his girlfriend , not me so much , but I copped his immediate reaction . I am not a vain mirror looking type and certainly not a player - I'd lose again and again . If it came to fighting a different outcome would prevail , but I know violence never solves anything shame as that is as I'm well trained . I can't bring myself to offer out social hammerings like I've taken either though , that macho footballer behaviour makes me sick , just have to avoid it still then .

a reply to: ZIPMATT

I'm glad if it put a smile on your face -- even for a sec.

Haters are gonna hate for lots of reasons. It's just a sad fact of life. Just be your best awesome self and find a way to laugh it off -- maybe even laugh at yourself too. They already take themselves too seriously. Don't let them make you take yourself too seriously either.

Actually, that might be a way to approach it... at least some of it... to make others laugh with you. If you don't take it too seriously, others might take your cue and do the same.

Just a thought

If you're serious - grow a beard, wear heavy glasses, shave your head, or get an unsightly tattoo.

If you make the most of yourself every day then you'll get attention. Try dressing down in some shabby old hoodie.

Have you thought that perhaps your attitude is adding to your problems? Try being a bit more friendly to people, you'd be surprised what a smile or a quick word can do.

If some silly woman eyes you up in front of her boyfriend offer him a sympathetic look instead of basking in her attention.

if this thread is a prank most of the above is still good advice.