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Most Americans now know the feeling of typing something into a social media input box, thinking again, and deciding against posting whatever it was. But while it certainly seemed like a widespread phenomenon, no one had actually quantified the extent of this "self-censorship."
But now, new research based on a sample of 3.9 million Facebook users reveals precisely how widespread this activity is.
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71 percent of all the users surveyed engaged in some self-censorship either on new posts or in comments, and the median self-censorer did so multiple times.
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originally posted by: Profusion
I've had mixed results with 'online friendships' with the opposite sex. None of them worked for too long for me. In my experience, 'online friendships' with the opposite sex tend not to work for the following reasons:
1. You don't know what you're dealing with.
I've often thought that a 30-minute conversation on the phone could do more in terms of getting to know someone than months of sending private messages back and forth. And, that's in a best-case scenario where everyone is completely candid.
However, when you realize that almost everyone is self-censoring on the Internet to varying degrees, you can't even be certain who you're chatting with.
Do you engage in self-censorship on this forum?
Most Americans now know the feeling of typing something into a social media input box, thinking again, and deciding against posting whatever it was. But while it certainly seemed like a widespread phenomenon, no one had actually quantified the extent of this "self-censorship."
But now, new research based on a sample of 3.9 million Facebook users reveals precisely how widespread this activity is.
...
71 percent of all the users surveyed engaged in some self-censorship either on new posts or in comments, and the median self-censorer did so multiple times.
LINK
2. Emotions frequently get in the way.
When it comes to an 'online friendship' with the opposite sex, in my experience, it usually turns into something semi-romantic on one side or the other.
3. There is constant questioning of motives.
This may vary widely, but, in my experience, one side or the other always seems cautious about whether the other person is trying to make the relationship romantic.
Those are the reasons why I believe an 'online friendship' with the opposite sex generally isn't feasible.
originally posted by: Quantum12
This person knew what I looked like because of MySpace photo. I thought I knew too. Wrong. Turned out to be a person of the same sex. I looked the person in the eyes and said ok now we are going to talk. I said I am sorry but I am not gay. You fooled me. I forgive you. We became kinda friends but I lost trust. The person went to the bathroom and I never saw him again.
originally posted by: JoshuaCox
I think you can apply all the same logic to RL opposite sex friendships as well.
originally posted by: Parafitt
You will die
I am dead.
thankfully my life was saved by a woman *(not little girl)* I met online.
the right one saves you, on or offline.
originally posted by: bbarkow
Talking exclusively through messages where one has time to think about the response naturally leads to pushing each others' pleasure buttons. Over a short period of time, this can start to feel like an actual emotional attachment when it's only a Skinner box.
originally posted by: LadyGreenEyes
a reply to: Profusion
Sure, why not?
originally posted by: GoofingOff
Just practice a little caution and common sense and you should be good to go.
'Online friendships' with the opposite sex, are they feasible?
I've often thought that a 30-minute conversation on the phone could do more in terms of getting to know someone than months of sending private messages back and forth.
originally posted by: lavatrance
a reply to: Profusion
married couples are always trying to cheat. Glad I never got married