Think you're an unhappy lover? Read this topic.

Originally posted by sweatmonicaIdo
I'm turning 19 this year an I still haven't had my first kiss yet.

Look at my previous post.
This sort of thing starts even at age of 13, mostly happens at 14-15, not later that 16 (apart from me and maybe a few others). I already said that. And time is important to me.

Originally posted by AtheiX
All of you people forgot that the purpose of this topic was NOT asking anybody for advice - I don't need it, I'm 16 year old and I've already experienced enough concerning the sort of thing mentioned by me in this topic.

16?
Still a puppy.

Rubbish. I'm no kid, at least at life-knowing, and I even behave more maturely than other people at my age.
Anyway, I think I strongly exaggerated, those were in fact only a few females, though it all has lasted for very long.

If you did not seek advice, why post? No matter how "mature" you feel, until you have to work and provide for a family and really feel like what you are doing is for others and not yourself, you have not lived life.

At 16, I felt like I was the most mature person in the world. I was a "Who's Who in America" and traveled the world. It did not, however, prepare me for the real world. You can be a genius in all matters of the world but love is nothing you can master, especially at 16. Don't kid yourself. You may be mature, but you are not mature in love. Enjoy this time. Learn to drive. Vote. Be old enough to see a rated R movie. You'll eventually meet a girl (I mean woman) who loves you. Until then, live YOUR life. Do what you want to do. Once you are married, you will have responsibilities you can't imagine.

Originally posted by dcgolf

If you did not seek advice, why post?

The point of setting up this thread was showing all those people who think they're unhappy lovers that it is possible to be more unhappy.

Atheix, I gather you are from Germany? And in Germany you can purchase alcohol from the age of 15, true?

My advice to you is, stop dreaming about girls you're never going to get - 3 and a half years is a long time to spend feeling sorry for yourself. Get over her, drag yourself away from your computer for a few hours, go out, get drunk and start kissing people you've never met before. Love doesn't happen like it does on TV when you're 16. You have to make the best of your situation and take what you can get.

You'll meet the right girl if you make yourself available.

The point of setting up this thread was showing all those people who think they're unhappy lovers that it is possible to be more unhappy.

The purpose of this topic was to show people who thin they're unhappy lovers who/what REALLY an unhappy lover is.

I don't understand how you think you're such an unhappy lover... So there doesn't happen to be a woman in your life right now, is that really so bad??? It could be much worse- You could actually be and unhappy lover, stuck in an unhealthy relationship with someone who doesn't care about you or abuses you, etc, etc... Single life is not a bad life, especially if you're 16-- I'm 16 as well, and though I happen to have a boyfriend at the present moment, I wasn't unhappy with single life. You have to enjoy that too. If you convince yourself you have to be with someone to be happy, you're going to be unhappy... Don't worry-- We've got lots of time to find people to be with...

[edit on 1-8-2005 by Alcor]

Stop complaining. I'm 21 years old and I'm still a virgin. I didn't have my first girlfriend or my first kiss until I was 20. I just recently found a girl who wants to have sex with me, like in the past month, but I've chosen not to for various reasons. She's leaving town in 2 weeks and I won't see her again until next summer. I still don't think I've got it bad, I don't think life is being unfair or cruel to me, and I'm not complaining.

If anyone trys to tell you what love is odds are they have no idea or are wrong.

I get fustrated all the time when I'm talking and I say "love" and then people go "YOU CANT USE THAT WORD!!" Why or they say "You have no idea what love is, you don't really love them" All I can do is scream.. "BULLL" What some poor depressed kid who was never in a relationship before one day decided to ponder one of life's greatest questions "What is love" and then they decide that it is an incredibly sacred thing that should be reserved for the utmost specail of people. When in fact they have never cared about anyone. so BS If I want to say I LOVE KATIE I am gona. And if you have something against it thats your problem....

( why I did that uh... I duno anyway)

All I know is that for me the word "love" means nothing. I show my affection through actions. When you fear the loss of someone in a ligitmate way, when you are willing to give everything for their safety, whewn you are worried abot your actions and how they are going to effect them, when you constantly say "How can I help make thier life better", when you resolve to ensure that through you their life becomes better.

When you decide to leave your comfort zone. Comfort being the area that you are known. COmfort is literally means in the fort. When you are willing to your circle of protection to give it all. to stand up and say it or to live your life for them then you still do not have the oh most sought out love. For love takes two and they need to be the same as that and through them and you life is complete and two become one. ( that was not a sexual enuendo)


wow talk about being a hypocrite