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originally posted by: Skywatcher2011
originally posted by: ketsuko
a reply to: Skywatcher2011
It's not the money. It's the couple's willingness to work through it.
We've had our share of bad money times, and it just takes an understanding that the money is the money. You have to work on your priorities.
But is suppose if you place money on a pedestal and can't agree on things, then it will ruin your life. You can't be too materialistic and start chalking up who bought what for whom or you will go nuts.
Times and views are different for the Gen X/Y and Millenials...in today's age and economy it all comes down to money. Like it or not...lack of money TODAY ruins relationships. Everyone expects instant gratification these days. The days of past romancing ways are OVER. We all live very busy lives...and making money to support a healthy relationship is very important. Otherwise, a couple living together in a cardboard box is probably the way to go if money not an issue.
originally posted by: ketsuko
Again though, this is not the money. This is the problem of the people involved. If you are not willing to compromise and put the needs of the other person ahead of your own and understand that it isn't just you anymore but you and your partner ... well, of course, you're going to have problems. And that goes for both parties.
Marriage is about partnership as much as anything else, and you can't be a partner if everything is instantly and always about you and what you want and you are ready to give up on it just as soon as you can't instantly get it anymore.
If the kids have grown up to expect that, then I worry about my son's future and his ability to ever find a real partner for his life because he's growing up with a good example right in front of him. I hope he can find someone who was raised to think same herself.
If the kids have grown up to expect that, then I worry about my son's future and his ability to ever find a real partner for his life because he's growing up with a good example right in front of him. I hope he can find someone who was raised to think same herself.