Female/Male Sexuality

a reply to: reldra

100x a day for a female? I don't find that odd. I thought men were supposed to think about sex 100x in an hour.

Most do , lol.

Girls like it almost as much as men, they are just stigmatized not to show it as much. What they are allowed to show is their need for a fulfilling relationship to go along with it (in my day).

Where men just want to have sex. Men are more cretins, in that regard.

Hey baby, I provide for you, what else you want? Louts

a reply to: Cobaltic1978

Yeah most Men like to exaggerate their conquests, whilst most women down play theirs.

Not amongst themselves. You ever get to be a bug on the wall during those girl to girl conversations?

Women love to talk about sex.

Again, imo.

a reply to: Klassified

I understand this completely. A bunch of dudes wer trying to convince me not to go out with her cause she used to mess around with so and so. That they saw her make out with johnny smith at a party or some bullcrap. Like i honestly cared about something that happened 1 year ago.

originally posted by: intrptr
a reply to: Cobaltic1978

Yeah most Men like to exaggerate their conquests, whilst most women down play theirs.

Not amongst themselves. You ever get to be a bug on the wall during those girl to girl conversations?

Women love to talk about sex.

Again, imo.

Yeah totally agree and I thought I made that clear in the rest of my post?

i would say (my opinion only)

What's up ATS this is a topic i found very surprising to say the least. So yesterday i was at my friend's apartment. We were hanging out drinking a couple beers with his roommates(who happen to be girls). We were conversating having a good time when my friend made a remark. He was telling us about his coworker. He works as a server. He said he went to the back of the kitchen and he saw one of his coworkers looking visibly distressed. He asked her what was wrong. She replied that she couldn't stop thinking about sex. She wasn't hitting on him lets make this clear. She was genuinely distressed. She opened up to him and started telling him very personal info. She told him that she thinks about sex constantly more than 100 times a day and that she has been like that since the age of THIRTEEN! I've never heard of something like this.

I knew one too

Hyper sexuality
The exact causes of overactive sex drive are unknown, but research shows there may be links between hypersexuality and other mental and physical health problems.

And the words: genuinely distress should be in bold letters you even said it twice

Hypersexuality can have serious consequences that go well beyond threatening your sexual health. These include:

* Relationship/interpersonal issues
* Difficulties at work
* Trouble with the law
* A loss of interest in things not sexual
* Low self-esteem and despair

www.everydayhealth.com...

I was always taught to think that men were the horny little bastards and women were less likely to think about it. I found it kind of amusing and laughed it off and said maybe she should find some hobbies to take her mind off sex. He was telling me that it was a genuine problem she had.

This bit I would put down to hormones in females (testosterone higher then oestrogen, or high dopamine, adrenaline also menstrual cycle)

I noticed that the girls we were with were quiet. I asked them what they thought. They told us they could relate to the girl because they had the same problem too.

Upbringing/personality some female will talk some want because they either want or don't want (get it ?! You won't cause you can't think as any other person but yourself)

All this came to a shock for me.

dot dot dot be happy if that is good news that great be happy boyo

They also started explaining how A LOT of girls they know are like this.

Can't say/judge my personal experience I only know of two females that say that

These are nice respectable girls that go to good schools.

I get that you sound like a well a good kiddo/guy/man(?) yourself

But i was so surprised I never knew!

Dot dot dot

They also told us that women were definitely more promiscuous than men.

For some reason I want to say yes that's true but because they are emotionally unsatisfied not sexually. I would say guys are motivated sexually but emotional security remains priority after they satisfied that "area"

I don't know maybe it is cause we are young(21 yrs old) and our bodies are in overdrive with pheromones. Who knows..

Maybe who knows

So what do you guys think i would definitely love opinions from other girls in this subject as well as what guys think.

You don't want opinion but confirmation in my opinion

To me it was kinda obvious that this may have been the case.

Quoting you

I've never heard of something like this

When i was in high school the percentage of dudes not having sex was definitely greater than those that were.

Girls mature sexually faster and yes I agree with your high school stats

Then there was the percentage who were monogamous with just one partner.

Then the smallest percentage of guys who were having sex with anything that walks HA!.

the first reply here is probably the only appropriate one

- is between two people in a relationship of what ever kind it was also funny

Me personally: nothing here applies none of the responses are even tiny bit close to what I would say I won't comment further so my answer (only) is :

The mind is the key organ dot dot (so far in my life I only met one person who is/was capable) to drive it (indescribable)

No time to spell check sorry

originally posted by: Cobaltic1978

originally posted by: intrptr
a reply to: Cobaltic1978

Yeah most Men like to exaggerate their conquests, whilst most women down play theirs.

Not amongst themselves. You ever get to be a bug on the wall during those girl to girl conversations?

Women love to talk about sex.

Again, imo.

Yeah totally agree and I thought I made that clear in the rest of my post?

Sorry, now I re read it. I had the same experience when I was 20ish… sizzling.

Whats that American Pie rule again, for guys that give the amount of partners, divide by three, and for girls multiply by three. Also, males are more sexually active from puberty till onto thirty, and the testosterone level start to decrease, but females on the other become more sexually active when the males sex drive decrease if they were at the same age.

God is ether one cruel mofo, or a very fair creator when it came to the the Garden of Eve.

I mean, women can have a much easier time of finding sexual partners in most cases, where they are the bait and trap or the prey, while males have to actively hunt, peacock, or compete against other males for the activity. But then again, females can never be happy by themselves like males can, I mean they have to use a replicas due to lack the size of appendages and the way they are built. Even when it to lesbians having intercourse, they still use a male component for that rubix cube.

Males, well, we are simple carbon based life forms...Really, it not that difficult to get into the mind of one.

In my experience females, are the more dominant sex...But it doesnt make them the smartest one.

Maybe the woman neds to change careers and become a high class call girl? Or find a outlet for her feelings. Might need to see about hormone blockers and seek therapy instead. OR th eOP can send her my way and ill provide what sh e thinks about anytime she wants it lol.

originally posted by: reldra


As for promiscuity, men always claim more sexual partners in their lives than females. That has never made any sense to me. If men have an average amount of partners in their lives, women should have the same amount. Whatever that number is.

It's the old "rule of 3s".

If you ask a girl how many sexual partners they have had, multiply their answer by 3 for the actual number.

If you ask a bloke, divide it by 3.

I found this out the hard way when I asked my ex-wife and she gave the same number as me...

There are 7.12 billion people on earth. All descended from a population of as little as a thousand.

Someone's getting horny.

a reply to: SgtHamsandwich

I am so glad I didn't have beer in my mouth when I read that.I hear you,bud.

Anyhoo,I asked my wife how many and she "thinks" it's about ten.I think I was at twenty-five but I was drunk for ten years after my fifteenth birthday.Ladies aren't keen on drunk boys.

Thing is,as I understand it,the ladies are driven by the same amount if hormones as we men so they're probably as horny as us.They have more class,though.

Just don't accidentally overhear women talk.Even I almost blush...they are SO candid.

originally posted by: PaddyInf

originally posted by: reldra


As for promiscuity, men always claim more sexual partners in their lives than females. That has never made any sense to me. If men have an average amount of partners in their lives, women should have the same amount. Whatever that number is.

I found this out the hard way when I asked my ex-wife and she gave the same number as me...

LOL, you were lucky to find an experienced wife.

a reply to: christophoros

No it is a known fact that women are just as obsessed with sex as men are. However, it would not be normal to act on it every time you feel the urge.

a reply to: christophoros

You said you're 21 years old. I was hoping that whoever wrote this was on the younger side. But yeah, many women are very sexual. But just as with men, you have your not so sexual people too. As a woman, I find the assumption that men are more sexual to be a little insulting. Sex is for women too!

Even if someone is sexually frustrated, it seems strange to vent to one's co-worker about it. At least, I wouldn't. I don't think it's that big of a crisis that it causes problems at work. Women can think about sex a lot but to me it seems like she was looking for attention.

Do you think this is a conspiracy? haha

a reply to: christophoros

Women didn't talk that way 30-40 years ago. It must be all the hormone injections to increase animal production and the genetically modified foods we're consuming, LOL.

originally posted by: reldra
I am also not sure what this 'respectable girls from good schools ' thing is. That is an outdated idea.

Well, "good girls are bad girls who have never got caught", as the saying goes.

I remember being young once! People paint sexuality as some great complex issue, but it ain't. It's the bodies biological driver. It's what we do.

a reply to: [post=20558388]christophoros[/pI

I'm female and I've had the same issue since a young age! Although I didn't start having sex until 15 I realized that I thought about sex too much. I would masturbate 5 times a day or more everyday. I only recently cut back a few months ago. I did it so I wouldn't act on my urges. I have great self control, but it's difficult. I think men don't try to suppress it like women and just act on it more.

a reply to: christophoros

It’s perfectly normal to think about sex hundreds of times a day, especially if you’re young and the sap is flowing.

Women and men are no different in this.

Don’t you?

a reply to: Klassified

I was once in a serious relationship with a very attractive young lady, who couldn't even tell you how many partners she had been with.

Well, it’s a hell of a compliment. All that experience and she was still willing to go the distance with you.

How did it work out? I bet it was interesting — if not necessarily good for you.

a reply to: christophoros

If this is true, their presentation is not normal under sober circumstances. First off, they were drinking alcohol. Secondly, there are massive amounts of people who take mind altering drugs now. People who take prescription drugs such as SSRI's, Prozac and pain killers while drinking alcohol can become sexually promiscuous, which includes promiscuous in speech. Same goes for folks who smoke weed or take any kind of amphetamine type of drug including coke. Combine that with vast amounts of pornographic imagry available on tv and the internet and there you have artificially induced sexual expressions.

A guy brought the subject up with talking about the chick at work. I call BS on his story. He was drinking and was using a technique, as lame as it was, to make himself look appealling and easy to talk to in front of some good looking young women. I think he totally embellished on the story he told you all, hoping to create dialogue, and he did; the chicks fell for it, in turn embellishing on their personal story regarding how much they think about sex to look cool. It's pure BS that women think about sex that much if their minds are free and clear being sober, and is part of the reason why drugs are pushed on people, more so women, because they are not normally sexually receptive until some kind of emotional bond has been created first. Which then continues on through their life and is why they easily lose their sex drive (not horny) when their partner withdraws emotionally from them, as the two normally come hand in hand being hard wired into them.

If what these young women are saying IS true, they've under gone similar programming that sex workers receive to get them to stay and keep playing that role using manipulation that does not include the typical fear factor with telling them if they leave they will hurt them, and all done under the guise of free love where no emotional commitment is given, which emotional comitment being over-rode when it comes to sex creates mental illness in females. Enter the drugs being pushed from the street and big pharma - most mental illness centers on unmet emotional needs and not a chemical imbalance. Doctors prescribe mind altering meds based on info the patient gives them, no brain scan or blood work is done on them to see if it is a true chemical imbalance.