death( do you actually care?)

am i alone in not actually caring? may seem mcarbe but to me if it happens it happens and theres no point in worrying about it,my fiancee thinks i,m dead inside cause my attitude to death is its going to happen to us all so why get upset about it.

i lost my dad 15 years ago yesterday and she was still going on about are you not upset,i wasn,t cause its been 15 years and i,ve dealt with it,i know i,m in the driving seat towards it as well so why even worry? its going to hit us all.

she thinks i,m a freak cause i don,t seem to care about death, i ask am i a freak for just accepting the inevitable?

a reply to: sparky31

Its nothing to worry about because its not the end anyways...

Just the next step

a reply to: Akragon mite be a next step but we,ll just need to wait and see.

a reply to: sparky31

I think you should turn it around on her and ask why she wants to marry someone she feels is dead inside

a reply to: sparky31

Most folks casually want an easy answer to that question.

I stick with "it's all good".

Seeing more into something doesn't mean others do or care too, so why push?

I try to only push social things when I can see a real benefit to an individual....real as in they travel towards more inner peace as well, otherwise leave sleeping bears lye.

Cheers for your courage bringing the subject up.

a reply to: dogstar23 lol why didn,t i even think of that? so obvious.

originally posted by: sparky31
...my attitude to death is its going to happen to us all so why get upset about it.

4 out of 5 doctors may agree with you but I got the 5th one.

a reply to: sparky31

No I don't care but then I am old. Sometimes I wonder why I am still here?

However, there is one thing that does bother me. There is a philosophy that states some people live the same exact life over and over and over, till they get it right. That scares the holy s*#t out of me.

a reply to: sparky31

we humans may not always have a good reason for the feelings we have, but that doesnt mean its wise to neglect them, sometimes we want to ignore our feelings about something so we make up reasons and excuses. thats what your post sounds like. youve just grown old stubborn and cynical, typical old person behavior.

a reply to: sparky31

Death does not scare me.

The idea of loved ones feeling pain over my passing...that bothers me quite a bit.

The prospect of a prolonged ordeal, with pain...well, yes...that does...but the idea of death itself? I'm thinking... light switch.

What kills me are the studies going on into miracle fountain of youth treatments...even that one recently with the mice saying that scientist's have increased their lifespan by 35%.

No, I do not want an extra 35%.

originally posted by: Treespeaker
a reply to: sparky31

Most folks casually want an easy answer to that question.

I stick with "it's all good".

Seeing more into something doesn't mean others do or care too, so why push?

I try to only push social things when I can see a real benefit to an individual....real as in they travel towards more inner peace as well, otherwise leave sleeping bears lye.

Cheers for your courage bringing the subject up.

its the one thing everyone knows is going to happen, you can,t dodge it so no point in sugar coating it.

a reply to: liveandlearn i would hope that wasn,t true,actually i,m pretty sure 99% of people hope thats not true or most people will be in for the long run.

a reply to: sparky31

You have a fatalistic view of the world. Whatever we do in the end leads to our death. There isn't anything wrong with that view of the world, in fact, I respect it as a pragmatic view of our existence. Just keep in mind that it can also keep you from fully enjoying life.

death? well, I dont like the idea of being dead, as I will no doubt miss some epic games, movies, and other stuff.

But ultimately, I wont care..because I will be dead. Now, the act of dying on the other hand..that frightens me. there is no good way to exit, so I would rather not I think if possible.

And again, back to once dead, unable to go check out the latest stuff I find very annoying..especially now since VR is finally starting in full earnest. Can you imagine the tech developed over 100 years

I love that I seen the computer go from this nearly pointless hobbiest nerd device to a must have for most people in my life, but I feel the truely great stuff is about to start in about 20-30 years and from there shoot into the sky of awesomeness...and the people who it will benefit will be born into it so wont have the contrast of experiences to see how truely amazing it is that the old and dead generations would have.

Life should be a thousand years...at least.

a reply to: NobodiesNormal your whole reply i could just put a tick against everything you said,reading my mind.

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a reply to: liveandlearn

That scares the holy s*#t out of me.

Aaaw, man, don't be scared. No matter how many times your exact life has been repeated, you will only know of one. The pissah would be knowing about them all at the same time.

a reply to: Metallicus if i don,t care about dying then i fail to see how that keeps me from fully enjoying my life.

a reply to: SaturnFX gave you a star just for ultimately i won,t care because i,ll be dead, life being a thousand years? god no.

Not fearing death is not a bad thing, in fact it can be very empowering. However, if you also cease to care about experiencing pain then that is a most liberating experience as well.

The problems begin when you start suspending your self-preservation mechanisms. If you get to that point, make sure that's what you want to do.

-dex