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Respect is a 2 Way Street in any Relationship
(Honesty + Trust)
Is having a Skype video relationship considered cheating? Do you have to physically be with someone for it to be considered cheating on your spouse?
Does texting or emailing someone constitute cheating?
Cheating to me implies a relationship with sex involved, is it still cheating if there is no physical contact? Technically, not really, but there is
a deeper issue involved when you are in a committed relationship, isn't there?
Being secretive and having any kind of relationship with someone other than the person you are supposed to be committed to does not necessarily
constitute cheating, but it certainly undermines the relationship and the trust involved.
If you are in need of other stimulus then being committed to a monogamous relationship may not be for you, unless the stimulus is shared with that
person.
Being honest is paramount for a relationship to last, the trust factor must stay intact for there to be the bond necessary for a healthy relationship.
So, as long as you tell your significant other what it is you do for extra attention or share your other relationships you will maintain that trust
factor. If you don't then you must not value that relationship as much as you should.
My spouse knows everything about me and I have no secrets, but that does not mean I volunteer all information. If they ask me a specific question
they get the truth whatever the question is. We are all entitled to privacy and to have individual relationships independent of the committed
relationship, but honesty and trust have to be forthcoming and expected for the committed relationship to work.
Insecurities play a huge role in how we feel about other peoples actions concerning us and how we deal with those insecurities also requires honesty
with ourselves about the relationship itself. If we want out then we sometimes create the friction necessary to force the issue. Sometimes we
sabotage the relationship on purpose because it is actually easier than confronting the obvious lack of trust and honesty involved.
Relationships are not easy and overcoming trust, honesty and insecurity issues make them even more difficult.
Cheaters are crying out for attention and affection when there is a lack of that in the relationship they are in, so, rather than cheating be honest
with your partner, tell them how you feel, share your insecurities, tell them how much they mean to you and that you really don't want to look
elsewhere for validation. Or be honest with yourself and recognize that you are in a relationship you no longer want.
Just ask yourself that one important question, you know the one, "How would I want to be treated?", the answer is if you are being honest with
yourself, "I want to be treated with respect!" Do unto others....of course, right?
Respect is a 2 way street, to get it you have to give it.
originally posted by: soulpowertothendegree
a reply to: DAVID64
In your opinion, I do not feel having a relationship with another person is cheating if there is no sexual activity involved, the cheating only occurs when the need to hide it is evident.
originally posted by: soulpowertothendegree
...the cheating only occurs when the need to hide it is evident.
I disagree with your psychological analysis, I've known plenty people who cheat just solely because they like sex.
originally posted by: soulpowertothendegree
Cheaters are crying out for attention and affection when there is a lack of that in the relationship they are in
What I should clarify and say is that if you are seeking romantic/emotional attachment with another without telling your partner because you know it would hurt them then it is cheating