Father's Day: A dad wonders, does anyone ever get this job right?

originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: homeskillet

Bandwagon much?

How about you actually read the comments I wrote on this thread in context.

Any excuse for hatred from your sort huh?

You saw hatred in me making a statement reminding you it's about fathers today?

I love my mom and know the hardwork she's done (and still does) but today isn't about her and she knows that so please.....

originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: bigfatfurrytexan

I call BS on your call of BS and accusation.

Did you have the responsibility of carrying your children in your womb?

How about giving birth to them?

Breastfeeding them?

Men cannot do that.

Therefore mother = more responsibility. FACT.

Casual uneducated misplaced accusations are still uneducated misplaced accusations, just saying!

Let's not start an e-peen contest here.

I couldn't do it without my husband and all he does to help with our son.

Fact.

a reply to: DAVID64

Indeed. Well written.

I don't think there is a user manual on this...if anyone has one, and can make a copy, PM me.

Indeed, a very Happy Father's day to all of you Father's out there!

a reply to: Shamrock6

You got upset, not me. Ludicrous it is.

Clearly ATS forgot the 'male perspective only circle jerk' filter.

These accusations are the same stuff as the idiots calling all women feminazis and all white people racists.

Those agendas are old hat, they were sprung a long time ago, they failed.

a reply to: ketsuko

Go read the comment it was responding to instead of jumping on a bandwagon.

I was accused of misandry for having the perspective of a mother.

You think that is okay do you?

I do not. It isn't.

Also moderators should behave better than making unfounded and offensive accusations against members. They know a horde of sheep will follow their attack.

At least I know reality is on my side.

Go fool yourselves if you want, your loss.

a reply to: theabsolutetruth

And yet you're the one talking about agendas and "male perspective circle jerk filters" and on and on.

Your comment wasn't empathic. Your comment would've been empathic had you not felt the need to continue it with "moms have it harder."

If you want to say that we're all a bunch of misanthropic circle jerk dudes, go for it. It shows who's upset and who isn't.

Mother's Day was last month.

a reply to: homeskillet

You saw hatred in me having the perspective of a mother?

a reply to: Shamrock6

Again, things I neither said nor implied.

But go, join the hate bandwagon if you must. It is all I expect of ATS these days. Shallow reactionary hate from those that cannot or do not want to see the reality, context and truth of anything that doesn't suit their own prejudices and agendas.

ETA

Hating me on ATS brings stars and approval of certain moderators, oh looks like you figured that already.

a reply to: theabsolutetruth

Those are actually direct quotes of you.

It's okay. You win. The Father's Day thread is yours now. Moms have it harder than dads. More responsibility.

All you dads, call your mom and wish her a happy Father's Day!

a reply to: Shamrock6

Playing the victim when you know you are wrong is typical bullying behaviour.

Go show those quotes you lied about.

originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: Shamrock6

Playing the victim when you know you are wrong is typical bullying behaviour.

Go show those quotes you lied about.

You remember last time we talked?
Well when you think everyone is after you, check the mirror.
From my angle you were quite rude sounding. Without that your point would have been fine.

Could I ask about your dad?
Get you back on topic at least?

a reply to: theabsolutetruth

Victim? Not playing the victim. Just don't care to keep wasting my time.

You continually accuse people of things. And now you're playing the bully card. I normally like what you have to say in threads but the behavior here is shocking.

You say you were empathic when you weren't. You say you didn't say things when they are direct quotes of you. You then have the audacity to say others are bullying you. This after your "circle jerk" line. And you continue to browbeat everybody about it in an effort to prove just what big meany pants we all are. In your effort to be "right" you continually do the very things you're accusing everybody else of.

Again, ludicrous.

a reply to: KnightLight

Perhaps you would like the accusations and attacks on this thread that were aimed at me for simply having the perspective of a mother.

Some people are clearly out for attacking just because a moderator showed some hate, it's called gang mentality, you joined it.

As such neither the opinion of you or the other gang mentality people are of any interest or relevance to me.

a reply to: Shamrock6

You accused me of saying things but expected no defensive response. Presumably you do not believe in self defense?

Stop goading and at least try to read things properly.

As for lying about things I said, it is expected of bullies.

a reply to: theabsolutetruth

Ahhh. The age old "lie enough times and it becomes truth" tactic.

Enjoy your Father's Day.

a reply to: theabsolutetruth

I am not in a gang.
Remember I am the nice guy.

tried to get you back in the topic.
Don't take your anger out on me.
Could make a girl look weak you know.
Handle your own stuff.

And I'm still smiling.
Thinking about seeing my dad soon. Should be interesting.

a reply to: KnightLight

Accusing me of being rude when defending myself against lies and attacks is not ''nice''.

How about you go read my first comment on this thread and see if you find it so terrible.

Then see if you think of a moderators accusations of ''BS and misandry'' were unfounded and rude.

Then go read my reply to that accusation and you will see it mirrors the language used in the accusation. If you think it wasn't nice then you think the moderator accusation post wasn't nice.

Then you will see that a bunch of people attacked me for my reply to the moderator, even though it was in the same style.

Irony. Much.

originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: KnightLight

Accusing me of being rude when defending myself against lies and attacks is not ''nice''.

Rude in original post.
I said your point would have been fine without that.

originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: homeskillet

You saw hatred in me having the perspective of a mother?

Now you're just swinging back at anything huh? I never said anything of the sort.

All I was doing was trying to give you a gentle reminder that maybe it's not the time and place to get into this debate.

learn to walk away

Today is both good and difficult in our home.
My S.O. and I adopted our nephews (3). They miss their Dad. They wait for him to call. He doesn't. They look to the driveway if a car pulls in and I know they are secretly hoping it could be him. My S.O. has taken on the role of "Father Figure" and he is still an Uncle. It's not an easy job. He / We do the best we can. It can be difficult at times to work through the occasional feelings of jealousy from our birth daughters that they can sometimes feel he's spending more time with the boys and from the boys that "we'll never be your REAL children".
He does a wonderful job. He has tried to pick up the pieces of their little broken lives and guide them to become really independent, responsible, and strong young men so far. They are 16, 15, and 12.
Their birth Father gave up on them and himself. He was not strong enough to resist alcohol and drugs. They don't understand that. Why would they? One is never sure if they are "doing it right". You have to just hold on to the fact that you are trying. So many are not. You do all that you can, learn from mistakes, and move on.
Love really will find a way!

Happy Fathers Day to all of you!