My wife just had an ultrasound mamogram and has 4 spots.

I feel like a bus hit me this morning. My wife had an ultrasound mammogram last tues. and the doctor that read the initial films said she was good to go.
Then we get a call this morning from her OBGYN saying that the test showed 4 spots on her left breast.

My mind is just spinning at the moment. She has always been the healthy one. I am unsure how to deal with this at the moment.

We have an appointment with a specialist on June 18th. I have done some research this morning and I read that it does not necessarily mean cancer, but then again it could be.
Regardless of what is determined with this specialist, we will seek a second opinion.

I live near an awesome cancer center, Roswell Park in Buffalo. So after this initial assessment I will be making an appointment at Roswell.

I just feel sick, and I pray that HE will give me the strength to be the man my wife needs throughout this process.

I would appreciate any experience or words of wisdom my fellow ATS'ers could share with me. I just feel so helpless right now.
Thanks for reading,
Steve

a reply to: stosh64

They call them 'spots' because right now they don't know if benign or malignant. Don't assume the worst. You caught them early, thats the best scenario for diagnosis and treatment.

a reply to: stosh64

Spots definitely sounds better than lumps so stay positive. Praying for you and your wife at this time.

a reply to: stosh64

so sorry to hear what your going through my wife and i have been through two cancer scares luckely shes ok but i know how it feels spots could be anything though all i can say is try to be possitive i will pray for you both

I had breast cancer, actually two kinds of breast cancer and one was aggressive. That was 3 years ago. The waiting game drives you crazy. Everyone told me it was nothing and I would be fine, but I prepared myself just in case. If it's nothing, that's great, but if it is cancer, it doesn't mean it's a death sentence.

Just be there for her with extra hugs and hand holding and a soothing voice. It's really the little things that matter most. You will both get through this. If it turns out to be cancer, there is more I can say to help. If you have any questions in the meantime, feel free to ask. I will be here for you both every step of the way. A dear friend of mine just had her cancer operation and is now waiting to see if she will need chemo. Having been through it, I can help her by telling her what to expect. It isn't like some people make it out to be.

a reply to: intrptr

Thank you, and I am grateful it was found early, whatever it is.

a reply to: Rezlooper

Thanks Rezlooper, as the day goes along I am trying to stay more positive.

Thank you for the prayers.

Keep your head up..spots could be anything. My wife had a couple and they were nothing. We also took another step that is a bit on the outskirts of medicine, but have had great results, called thermography. Read up on it and it could be something you want to get done. We did and it let us rest a bit more at ease as well.

My wife and I had the same experience 8 months ago. It turned out to be nothing more than "dense breast tissue". Sending out positive vibes to you and your wife and hope your results are much the same.

a reply to: stosh64

I have nothing I could add to the others' comments other than you can see the support for you and your wife is here.
Fingers crossed it's nothing.

Don't assume the worst. Several years ago, after having a chest x ray, they saw spots on my lungs....turned out to be nothing but calcium deposits.

a reply to: Night Star

Thank you so much for your reply Night Star. Your words of wisdom and experience have helped me more than you can know.
The waiting game is messing with my mind. I have been the patient waiting for news many, many times. And I have to say that it was far easier for me. This feeling of helplessness dealing with my wife, my best friend, my soulmate is far worse than anything I have gone through physically myself, and I have quite the stack of medical records.

The extra hugs, hand holding and sweet whispers are a normal day before this. I still feel like the honeymoon and we have been married 22 years, together 26. And she tells me she feels the same way....and I know she does.
So making sure I pay a little more attention will be a pleasure and not a problem.

You are a special person, I cant thank you enough for your offer of help. I am so sorry you have suffered with this, but your generosity, experience and hope are priceless.
I will post more as we find out.
Funny, but I have grown to love our ATS family. Even as dysfunctional as it is, no matter what is brought up, there is always someone with similar experience willing to help out.
Love you guys,
Thank you!
Steve

a reply to: Vasa Croe

Thanks Vasa for sharing your experience.

I have never heard of thermography but I am going to read about it now.

Thank You

a reply to: LeatherNLace

Thanks LeatherNLace, I am glad to hear it worked out for the best with you and your wife!

I just hate the not knowing. I KNOW you know.

Thank you

a reply to: EA006
Thanks, ATS has some awesome people.

a reply to: stosh64

In 2013 I had 2 spots and they turned out to be benign. My heart and prayers go out to you and your wife. I think getting a second opinion is smart.

a reply to: stosh64

I did a lot of reading and sitting outside, watched good movies, shared time with family and friends while I played the waiting game. I know it's hard as hell. You just want to go on with your life like you always have and yet you can't. I too love our ATS family! You will have plenty of support and inspiration here. Your wife is blessed with a good and adoring husband and that will help her more than you know.

Thank you for the kind words!

Sending a special Angel to watch over your wife.

a reply to: DAVID64

I am consciously trying not to think negatively, it takes some effort though. Especially when it is quiet and there is nothing to do but think.

I am glad your scare turned out to be nothing. Since we are both 1964's I can relate but my scare was liver. I have HepC but it has not affected my liver yet. I have probably had it since about 1985. Blood transfusion during my 4th hip fusion attempt. Long story, LoL

Thanks for your words of encouragement

I am taking the wife out for dinner, so I will check back in when I get home later.

Thank you all for your encouragement, it has helped a lot.....

Give your loved ones a hug, life is too short.

a reply to: Night Star

Thanks for the Angel

originally posted by: stosh64
I would appreciate any experience or words of wisdom my fellow ATS'ers could share with me. I just feel so helpless right now. Steve

Hey Steve...message for you. As one who went through successful treatment for both prostate and skin cancers, I can tell you that the toughest part about both was trying to convince others that they were ''no big deal'. Of course they were to me, especially the former. Just keep it in mind when your wife is busy being brave for others, that she will be depending on you for your strength.