Please, any safe way to contact dead? I lost my friend to cancer few days ago :(

a reply to: Mugly

i dont believe it

Lots of people don't.
A belief is a belief.

When you know, you know.

you may have some serious mental issues.

Truly an unnecessary comment.
Especially in a thread where someone is hurting.


As for the rest, you are entitled to your opinion.

Carry on non-believer!

A lot of people here have already addressed the most obvious courses of action, but I felt compelled to at least say something.

Unless their are still witches around who have ancient esoteric knowledge, there is no "reliable" way to contact the dead. The spiritual realm that we're privy to, is full of mischievous entities praying on our weakness and ignorance. The best thing you can do, is openly talk about your feelings in isolation, as someone here already suggested. Let every thought and impulse out. Your friend is at peace now, resting. All that is left, which is real, is your hurt.... your emptiness.... your unfinished business (so-to-speak). Express it all as deeply as you can, only then can you begin to heal.

For the sake of argument, let's assume you could contact the dead. What would be the benefit of postponing your life for this contact? Would one meeting solve all your desires? We tend to think that closure is when we've said our goodbye's, but if we had a tether to the realm of death, we wouldn't want to say goodbye, would we? We would keep coming back, over and over, possibly spending our entire life figuring how to better communicate with that person. I know of an individual who became a ghost investigator to try and communicate with his deceased daughter. His whole life is now consumed by it. He's not healed or moved on... Do you think his daughter wanted that for him?

Grief is an incredible motivator, but you only have two options... Express all that is in your heart, to start the healing process, or... Potentially spend a lifetime in grief, lost in a past long since gone away... The sad part is, most who become lost in that past, don't even realize it. It becomes their identity, as it did for this particular ghost hunter.

Death is tragic, not for the dead, but for the living...

I just wanted to say that I am so very sorry for your loss. Your friend is no longer suffering and he knows you care.

a reply to: Farnhold
Sorry, there is no safe way. The only way is to pray to God and talk about how you feel as though you still need to say goodby to this friend & then see what happens.

Do not go trying to speak with the dead. There is no way to know who you're really talking with--and know that the dead don't come back. So whatever you're talking to isn't them. Let the dead rest in peace.

Condolences for your loss.

Death is never easy. I know how hard it is to lose someone you love. No words can describe it. But please, your friend would want you live and be happy. You don't need to say goodbye--you kind of already did get the chance: two weeks before he passed. Just know that you'll see him again one day death isn't the end.

The few times that I've had contact with people 'on the other side' were always initiated by THEM. Any time I've tried, it's failed. They have to be able to make contact and they have to be wanting to. That's been my experience.

originally posted by: Darkblade71
a reply to: Mugly

i dont believe it

Lots of people don't.
A belief is a belief.

When you know, you know.

you may have some serious mental issues.

Truly an unnecessary comment.
Especially in a thread where someone is hurting.

As for the rest, you are entitled to your opinion.

Carry on non-believer!

what is unnecessary when someone is hurting is to give them any sort of false hope.
im just being honest.

again, just cause you believe you can or have made contact via a dream does not mean you have.

the OP asked a question and i answered honestly

a reply to: Mugly

Sure, and saying that people who do believe have serious mental issues is an honest answer?
You resorted to attacking an experience when it did not follow along with your personal reality.

Just think about that for a little while.

Just because it has not happened to you,
does not mean it does not happen.

I'm not here to argue, however,

what is unnecessary when someone is hurting is to give them any sort of false hope.

You might think it is false hope,
there are plenty of us out there and around here who do know it does happen.
I guess my point is that you shouldn't walk into a thread and start bashing on people when they have something different that what you understand to be the norm.

Telling someone they have mental issues when their view doesn't agree with yours is bashing,
just to clarify.
It is borderline trolling.

originally posted by: Darkblade71
a reply to: Mugly

Sure, and saying that people who do believe have serious mental issues is an honest answer?
You resorted to attacking an experience when it did not follow along with your personal reality.

Just think about that for a little while.

Just because it has not happened to you,
does not mean it does not happen.

I'm not here to argue, however,

what is unnecessary when someone is hurting is to give them any sort of false hope.

You might think it is false hope,
there are plenty of us out there and around here who do know it does happen.
I guess my point is that you shouldn't walk into a thread and start bashing on people when they have something different that what you understand to be the norm.

Telling someone they have mental issues when their view doesn't agree with yours is bashing,
just to clarify.
It is borderline trolling.

i am not attacking or bashing. certainly not trolling even if you 'believe' i am.

i stand by what i said.
living people can not contact dead people. there is no scientific proof of this at all. if there is and i missed it please show me and i will retract.

isnt this site supposed to be about finding the truth? we do this through proof and evidence of which you have none.

it is my opinion that if a person honestly thinks they contacted the dead then yes, there might be a mental issue there.
im not talking about having a dream and being tripped out because of how real it seemed.
im talking about if a person really thinks they made contact with the dead then they have an issue.

if you think that is trolling or attacking thats fine. youre welcome to feel that way.
i am welcome to feel how i feel and say what i am saying.

im not trying to argue and would gladly continue this. if you dont want to and want to ignore me, thats fine as well.

a reply to: Mugly

Well, at least you stand by what you believe.

And I will as well.

I guess we will just leave it as that.

Just know that in your definition, I am totally mental.

originally posted by: Mugly
it is my opinion that if a person honestly thinks they contacted the dead then yes, there might be a mental issue there.

As a person with a degree in psychology, I have to disagree. Belief in an afterlife and in those in the afterlife having contact with the living doesn't in of itself point to a mental health issue. If it did, then most people on the planet, including a surprising number of atheists, would be mentally ill. They are not.

living people can not contact the dead

Maybe. Maybe not. To definitive state that is an error.

There is very little that we know about the multiverse. We don't know much of anything about the different dimensions. There is a mountain of anecdotal evidence suggesting an afterlife (or 'next life')and even contacts made between this world and the next. None of it has been able to be confirmed by our current scientific methods. But that doesn't mean that an afterlife and interaction has been disproven. Not too long ago, scientists couldn't prove the existence of germs, but that didn't mean that the notion of germs was a myth.

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Sorry you missed your chance.

Death is like a one way light switch.
Once flipped it's over.
No going back.
Just remember he/she fondly.

a reply to: Farnhold

I am deeply sorry that you lost your friend. However, I don't believe there is any way to contact him, and trying could bring you into contact with something you don't want or need in your life. Give yourself time to grieve, and the closure will come.

I know the feeling! but please dont try to pursue this.

So much deceit and tricks for those on the other side that rule that "land"

Your friend mostly have continued his/her journey ..

The thing I'm trying to say is that the "person" you could contact may not be that person you want to talk to..

I had one friend who visited me in my dream ... he just stood there and gave me this hug and i felt that he wanted to forgive me and say goodbye..next day i got the news that he pasted.

not everyone remembers those goodbyes :/

but please dont try to contact the dead.. to much chaos on that side, totally different ethics to go by.

a reply to: Mugly

I agree with your posts. I have had some beautiful dreams myself, once or twice, of a picnic with the parents (both gone), and we talked and laughed, and it was rely nice. I know it wasn't real, though. I'll have to wait a while to see them again!

a reply to: FlyersFan

A belief in the afterlife isn't the same as a belief that you can contact the dead. I firmly believe that those I love, who were saved while here, are elsewhere, and that I will see them again. I don't believe, though, that I can contact them while still here. That is a very different belief. If I recall, you are a person of faith, so how would you reconcile contacting the dead with your faith?

originally posted by: LadyGreenEyes
A belief in the afterlife isn't the same as a belief that you can contact the dead.

1/2 of the Christians on the planet are Catholic (1 billion people). Catholics believe that the dead are very much alive and aware of what is happening with the living. The entire 'pray and ask a saint to help' thing is indeed an interplay between the living and the dead. The major religions and beliefs over in the Far East have the living making offerings to the dead ancestors and setting places for them at the table in full belief that the dead can see what is happening and will be pleased by the living honoring them.

Both Catholics and Protestants believe in scripture and in Revelation it clearly states that the dead who are 'under the altar' are very much aware of what is happening on Earth. They offer prayers for the church militant on earth.

I do not believe that the living can contact the dead. However, I do believe that there are sensitive people among us who can see or hear or feel the dead who are contacting or interplaying with us. THE DEAD do the contacting, not the other way around. I believe this because of my own experiences and not because of a religious dogma.

a reply to: FlyersFan

Thanks for clarifying.

I do believe that those already in Heaven might be able to know what is happening here, but that's a long way from being able to communicate with us. I haven't found any Biblical evidence that such a thing is possible, and tend to lean toward it not being so.

Sensitive, I can understand well, but again, I am very skeptical about the spirits of those already gone being able to be sensed from here. I have considered that some sort of "echo" is possible, or residual energy, that could be responsible for some types of "hauntings", such as the battle sounds heard around the Chickamauga Battlefield. The interactive sort, I lean heavily toward being impostors. The only time I have experienced anything that would make me wonder is after wwe lost a very special cat. For a couple of weeks, I would hear the sound he made when scratching at the window to come inside (an no other cat there), and now and then, it felt like he jumped on the bed. That faded, though, after a short while. Nothing creepy about it, either, and I know what the creepy sort feel like, so I can't really explain that one.

Close your eyes.

Quiet your mind of all passing thoughts.

Set the intent with all your will to communicate with your friend who passed. Feel their essence and their being.

Communicate.

I have communicated with loved ones who have passed this way before. It is much easier to communicate with them in the days following their passing due to the nature of the transition process. It is a subtle form of communication and requires the ability to sense and feel subtle energy and most of all...trust yourself and your intuition.

Enjoy

Dont try too hard, they'll communicate with you if they so desire.

originally posted by: Mugly
and to all those saying they have done it in a dream.
you have not.

maybe you dreamed up that you did. maybe when you woke up it felt real.
it wasnt.

When I was a little kid i had some stuff... one of those was astral travel during sleep and sometimes when I was awake.
My original parents divorced and my father brought us a stepmother. She was very obsessed of having a baby and she failed all times, the last one was nearly the days to come into this world! She always had high pressure, thyroid and her body killed the babies...
One night I found myself inside a dark pool. I couldn't see anything around me, just dark waters and dark everything in there. In a sudden I saw a little baby boy with black hair, praising me to help him and he also called "my brother". I tried to give my hand but the pool become like a vortex, the way we flush the toilet... It took us both down, I woke up in my bed and the stepmother was missing from home. 2 days later she came and the boy was drawn inside her... a little boy with black hair.
In my understanding I found my self inside her womb.
I could tell you more, if you want me to..

Another dream of my best friend, we've met in an astral plane in the duration of his death, I didnt made it to go and see him before he dies, I saw him driving with me and we spoke about the afterlife.. he said : You cannot imagine what there is in the other side, he start crying asking me to go with him, I told him that my task havent done yet and couldn't. He also told me that I wouldnt make it to find him alive because that moment he was dying. He said he would go up and then come to say goodbyes.. Anyway thats a short description of that dream, but the dream didnt end there. I saw me going back to my bed where I was sleeping and before that, I saw 1 entity like a child playing inside a living room communicating with my bedroom, but it was NOT MY living room.. I froze the time and I playback the dream backwards in my sleep! Just to take a look of that entity, it was not 1 but 2!!! They moved so fast I couldnt see they are 2 in a normal dream playback.

When I woke up my friend was dead I made it to his funeral, 40 days after another very close friend of his died/electrocuted. I knew it will be 2.

I would suggest you not to be so definite and that was just 2 dreams.

a reply to: FissionSurplus

So what exactly did you see ?

To the OP: Sorry for your loss but I agree, it's best to wait until he contacts you. And he will find a way. They always do. Perhaps he also feels that he left unfinished business with you and he will.. when the time is right.

Prayers to you ~