Older ladies. Some/Most guys don't get it.

older ladies

This is so fitting for me and perhaps others. If you don't love me for who I am inside...it doesn't matter how pretty I am/was.

Told this to the only guy I went with and loved after my divorce 12 years ago. Not in those word but similar. Left me for a younger ex girlfrind who slept around and left him for a younger man. Now we are both going to grow old alone. But ladies, it is all about who you are inside.

a reply to: liveandlearn

Sorry about your heartbreaking story, but that song in your link was hilarious!

a reply to: Bone75

Thanks for posting the vid....guess you can relate?

I've tried both ends of the spectrum. The younger women are nice for a good time, but for the most part they have been more trouble than they were worth to me.
The gal I'm seeing now is in her mid 40's. She is beautiful to me plus she's not dull as a pound of wet leather.
I think my days of chasing young tail may be coming to an end.

a reply to: liveandlearn

Was that a rhetorical question?

a reply to: Bone75

Not at all, merely an assumption. Perhaps it should not have been spoken. Perhaps I was wishfully thinking someone could relate.

I'm an older lady now, and my husband said the other day he loves me more than ever.
I'm not needy like I was when young- i have more to offer in terms of personality, affection, security.
As he is getting older, he is feeling more in need of that, and glad he can depend upon me.

Love it. I've always liked 'em a little older. They know things!

When a whole lot of Decembers
Are showin' in your face
Your auburn hair has faded
And silver takes it's place

You'll be just as lovely
And I'll still be around
And if I can I know that
I'd still love to lay you down

I love country music.

a reply to: skunkape23

Good for you ape. But let me tell you, I'm so old now I just might be happy WITH dull pound of wet leather.

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There was a time in my younger days when my thoughts were geared towards sex more than any type of meaningful commitment. Through my interactions with older women over the years I've come to mature myself, and aside from the thoughts of physical contact I do get, I've learned to connect on deeper levels through communication.

One of my best friends is an older woman, and what makes us such good friends is that we can have the most real conversations I've ever had..by real I mean no topic is off limits. I've told her more things about me than I've told anyone else, we are a perfect match for each other, but yet as it always is..I'm too young and "she could be my mother". I'm 25 and she's 48.

This type of thing has happened with other women aswell, and there was nothing more than very thought provoking, true and honest conversation that lead to meaningful friendships.

I've nothing more to say, than a woman is like wine, they get better with age.

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For me, I always liked men my age or a little older...never wanted to raise another child.

There really is something to be said for maturity, male or female....when you are wise enough to see it. Looks to me like you are there.

a reply to: Bluesma

Needy when young relates. Good you could both hang in there and still be there for each other. Something I would love to have.

originally posted by: liveandlearn
a reply to: Bluesma

Needy when young relates. Good you could both hang in there and still be there for each other. Something I would love to have.

I didn't expect him to get needy later on... but when you start to get those aches and pains, and some things get difficult to do,
Or you start to see those abdos melting and becoming a soft blob that doesn't respond to a few sit ups in the morning anymore,
or see your hair disappearing more each day,
even with cute young women around, he says he fears how needy they would be- he doesn't feel the energy or capability to respond to the crap that would go along with a roll in the hay. He doesn't feel they have the wisdom or insight for a meaningful discussion. He just doesn't feel up to the challenges a young woman would pose. His bad knees would make him sit and watch while she skis, for example. This way, he has a woman that will forego the skiing and sit bundled up on the porch with him and laugh and have interesting conversation!

a reply to: threeeyesopen

All I can say is that you are older than you years. Older people, man or women, have so much wisdom to offer, to me, it seems a rare person who is aware enough to realize that.

a reply to: liveandlearn

I was about to read about microsoft hololens before I saw your post. Why do you think you are alone? I promise I am on a desolate mountain and my most human attention comes from ats at the moment. I know this feeling. I wish you happiness above my own

Let me elaborate I am 29 yrs old, I am in the green mountain range close to Mt. Equinox VT I busted my right leg, I lost my job and damn near everything I own cause with a broken leg Couldn't do much welding. I lost my girl, and she lost our baby after 5 months. After 6 years of the Marine corps two fiancees, I learned I don't have many feelings except for those types of feelings that are human and are so close by, I really wish i could trade yo a piece of your sadness for a piece of content from me, your probably a pretty rad lady and he is a selfish or mid life crisis type. I wish I could give you happiness above my own lady

a reply to: Bluesma

You know, my ex got that way as the years went by. But the memory of the abuse became , tho less it was still present, became too much. With or without the abuse I lived with, there becomes a bound.

a reply to: liveandlearn

Thank you, my best friend I referenced says I'm an old soul, and I strongly feel the same.

The only thing I can say is that I've had my eyes open to this experience we call life, and I've absorbed so much from the people I've met, who have a way of telling me their life story, and also the countless experiences I've been through myself. Through all of that, what I value over all other things is wisdom. it's what I really want from life and what I appreciate the most in people.

a reply to: Brotherman
What a sweet post. I don't think I said I am alone...but, yes I am alone and I feel alone. And yes, like you, ATS, is my only contact where I can feel or hope others relate. I, like many here, have family that are in a different world. You are left with ATS.

a reply to: liveandlearn

I am sorry I edited my last post before checking for a reply, if it wasn't alone why be appealed to piece of art as an avatar that fills the ocean with tears?

II may read mean sometimes to people sometimes, the truth is, I really wish I wish people around me were happier. One day I realized I don't have anyone around me. For awhile I didnt until I had a teenager crash through the front door of my house I tried and tried kept him alive flatlined in my house twice. I have a hard time accepting people that throw away people, I cannot say I am good but I really do wish you a better position in emotional and partnership. Life is phucking crazy

a reply to: liveandlearn



That is my favourite "Lonely" song. That's for you from a bleary eyed UK person who's just woke up.

Loneliness is a state of mind. Just because we are single we do not have to be alone.

Also, what aspect is it of loneliness that does our brains in? Is it the longing for all the delicacies of partnership and companionship or loneliness on a more "sensual" level. The latter can be fixed in our liberal societies, but the former I guess is hard to bring about because it relies on that rare chemistry thing and a little thing called trust.

I have felt all those kind of blues before. After walking that gauntlet for some years I found a place where I am not so alone. These days I have to be cajoled to bother poking my head out. I look at this world and see little that interests me.

"I'm still sitting here watching the wheels go round and round
I really love to watch them roll
No longer riding on the merry go round
I just had to let it go" (John Lennon).