"Have a Blessed Day"? No thanks....

a reply to: ManBehindTheMask
That's because you've got better sense than some of the folks I used to go to church with.

a reply to: ignorant_ape

Hahaha...thank you. "Thanks for the blessings, have a gay afternoon!"

that's epic...won't use that at work, but well done.

a reply to: Nowyouseeme

This is the thing, I truly don't believe that people who have to prove their joy by expressing it to others is truly happy.

Thats your BELIEF.........that doesnt mean they arent.......

And so what if they arent and they are just keeping their spirits up, looking to the bright side etc.......

I still think thats incredibly self centered to be upset at them because they are either happy or attempting to brighten their own perspective with their chosen belief system......

really who are you to decide the difference or tell them any different?

Seriously some introspection needs to be done here on your part

I do get annoyed when people put you in a situation to acknowledge their faith and beliefs when you don't share those beliefs and attempt to bring you into their reality.

LoL they didnt put you in any situation, they said "bless you" which is a form of well wishing (how the hell can you get upset over that?), or they have it on their status or they refer to it to themselves........

Perhaps you should spend less time being offended and take a page from their book and look to the brighter side of things (whatever you believe in) instead of condemning them for doing so

I dont think youre a bad person at all or anything like that OP , I just think maybe a different out look on it is in order.......

Im sure youre a wonderful person with some great attributes.......

Maybe just look at it at a different angle eh?

originally posted by: Klassified
a reply to: ManBehindTheMask
That's because you've got better sense than some of the folks I used to go to church with.

Well lol thank you for that, I sometimes wonder about myself, I dunno, I would like to think that the majority of christians are the same way........All of the ones I know or associate with are pretty much the same as I am, but I realize thats just in my little world..........

Anyway, I dont begrudge the OP I just am trying to get him to look at it from a different perspective

a reply to: butcherguy
I kindly ask my kids to cuss out people that think that way. It prooves my point twicem

a reply to: Nowyouseeme

It is your spirit that discerns how things make you feel. Have a long talk with yourself over why the anger rises when a so called non existant being is mentioned. It seems that you are getting upset over someone that you believe is not here so for all clinical reasons he is very much real in your mind and you are wanting him gone.

a reply to: Nowyouseeme
I understand your frustration...
Now - 'go funk yourself!'
How's that?

Yeah - my family (siblings, nieces, in-laws, mother, uncle, cousins... you get the picture) know that I no longer believe as they...and will, almost without fail, say "I'm praying for you" and/or "God has really layed you on my heart"...

I suppose I could respond with some dark humor, but rather simply say "thank you" or "cool" or something-else that doesn't cause their spidey senses to go all tingly...and spare them a few more minutes on their knees (as it's obvious their prayer-loads are pretty heavy).

S&F for your troubles!

a reply to: ManBehindTheMask

While I respect your right to believe what you like to believe, I'd appreciate if you would stop judging me and actually discuss the issue at hand.

We are talking about an idea and how I perceive things, there is no need to call me "Self Centered" or tell me repeated that I need to "look inside myself" to find some other truth or some problem with me.

Actually, you are kind of making my point for me...those who support this kind of blessing feel as if they have ultimate moral authority and truth and don't consider others when throwing around their words.

No, you aren't making me upset...but if you could please ADD to this conversation instead of focusing on what you feel is wrong with my perception and how I'm constructed, maybe I could see your intellectual point a bit better?

originally posted by: butcherguy
a reply to: Nowyouseeme

I would like 1) One person who says "Have a Blessed Day" at ABTS to explain why this is done and why I shouldn't be offended

It could be done because person saying it truly loves you and wants you to have a good day. That all depends on the individual saying it.

You shouldn't be offended because it isn't offensive. If they said screw you and your mother is ugly, now that is offensive.

This. If someone wishes you well, even if you don't believe in their god, just take it for what's it meant--good wishes. I swear, some people go out of their way to finds something to be offended about.

originally posted by: Blue Shift
I also prefer to think that I have more personal control over my day rather than leaving it up to the whims of some mystical force.

I don't use the term, have a blessed day, but It could be used without a deity involved,

So say I hope your day goes well, god or no god, this is silly

blesser n.
Word History: The verb bless comes from Old English bldsian, bldsian, bltsian, "to bless, wish happiness, consecrate." Although the Old English verb has no cognates in any other Germanic language, it can be shown to derive from the Germanic noun *bldan, "blood." Bldsian therefore literally means "to consecrate with blood, sprinkle with blood." The Angles, Saxons, and Jutes, the early Germanic migrants to Britain, used bldsian for their pagan sacrifices. After they converted to Christianity, bldsian acquired new meanings as a result of its use in translations of the Latin Bible, but it kept its pagan Germanic senses as well.

originally posted by: Iamthatbish
a reply to: butcherguy
I kindly ask my kids to cuss out people that think that way. It prooves my point twicem

Wow.
I guess.
How does that work out for them in school? (if they go to school)

a reply to: butcherguy
Time and place ...

Another point is that you have to consider the power of words. If the whole world goes around telling everyone to go screw themselves then we would never get anything done because we would all be doing just that. How many people can say that after being told to go screw themselves they did not at some point there after go screw themselves? I would have to say that until the debate over the power of words is over then it would be wise to wish good things for people and not bad.

a reply to: Nowyouseeme

Don't you have more important things to worry about?



but yes, self examination as to why this bothers you so much is in order.

I do understand the fake stuff, I can usually tell myself, and there are a few that really get sickly sweet, I don't like that either

originally posted by: Iamthatbish
a reply to: butcherguy
I kindly ask my kids to cuss out people that think that way. It prooves my point twicem

what?

Tell me you are not serious

a reply to: Stormdancer777

Of course I do, that's why I'm just posting this on a message board to start a discussion with random strangers. It's not a primary concern for me, but it is irritating and thought It'd make a good discussion.

Just because I don't believe what you do, doesn't mean I need to look inside myself to find out why...maybe it's just as simple as "I don't like when people make up belief systems that aren't true and then force me to be a part of their grand play when I don't consent". Sorry if that stings a bit, but if someone made up a story about turtles having magical powers to affect my bank balance and every time I spent money told me "Pray to the turtle that you shall me made whole"...it would be equally annoying and I'd make a thread about that.

Instead of judging my response to the christian story, tell me why you believe what you do and what you feel your obligation is to share it/convert others is. That's what I'm really interested in, not hearing from "believers" that I'm wrong...I already know you think that and believe I shouldn't be offended when you try to bless me.

a reply to: Stormdancer777
You'll figure it out.

I am not offended by someone saying "have a blessed day", but due to my career, I've been around a lot of different religious groups and I do get a bit uncomfortable when certain groups say "may God bless you" or ask me if I have "accepted Jesus in to my heart?.

It really depends on who is saying it and the situation.

I do not like being asked about my religion at work because they are our customers and I'd hate to offend them by saying no, I don't believe.

As far as "have a blessed day". Normally it doesn't bother me. But there are occasions where the person is saying it because they can tell I'm not a believer by my vague responses, or they are little kids that seem to be in a trance and say it because they are supposed to say it.

Otherwise, it doesn't bother me much.

a reply to: WanDash

I understand, when I was younger I didn't care for that either, I'm not sure why, but there is this old saying "under conviction"

Saul, Saul, why persecutest thou me? It is hard for thee to kick against the pricks”

I see this happening a lot,

a reply to: Nowyouseeme

I'm with you, Nowyouseeme. Looks like we're in the minority here judging by the other responses so far, but I do feel uncomfortable when someone tells me to have a blessed day, and even more so when they give me a hard look when I don't say "you too" in response.

Now on the one hand this is totally mountain out of a molehill; I don't think many people, if anyone, mean to make me uncomfortable by saying it. For some people it comes as naturally as "take care" does to me. I get that, and it really doesn't bother me at all.

But on the other hand you make a good point - there's an implicit assumption that I accept their belief by accepting their blessing, and that can feel aggressive sometimes.

More to the point, it should go both ways to ba acceptable in business communication, and it doesn't. Imagine the response if your work email signature included "enjoy your day, en'shalla" or "may the spaghetti monster keep you safe on your journey" or whatever. The only reason "have a blessed day" is acceptable is because people assume that Christianity is the norm.