It's official, can't stand even being in a city anymore

Nope, can't do it much longer. Need to be in a more rural area. Going to start planning to move out and away from any area with more then 10k people.

I just can't stand how people think and watching the rat race and our culture slowly degrading and peoples general attitude towards each other.

On top of it all I just love being in nature. It's more relaxing. It feels better.

Anyone else been starting to feel this way?

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I live in a small town of about 3-4k. I love going downtown to do my shopping and bumping into people I know constantly. Lots of conversation and people are kind even when you don't know them. Definitely get out of the city. Life is great away from the hustle and bustle of the city.

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I fully understand. I was raised in a very small town of about 600, actually about a mile outside of it on 6 acres. After high school, I moved to a much larger town for a few years of liberal arts school as a music major. Afterwards, moved to the biggest metro area in state, Oklahoma City. After about 3 years, the excitement started wearing off, and I became homesick. Moved back home in Feb. 2013, and its honestly the best choice I could have made. Only wish I would have swallowed my pride sooner.

I'm now learning how to garden fruits and vegetables from my Grandfather, soaking up his decades of knowledge in the matter of how to be more self-sufficent. As I am the sole heir to our bit of property, I'm trying to learn as much as I can to carry on their way of life for when the inevitable comes.

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Pick me!
I live in a town of less than three hundred people, and the traffic/citizen congestion is taking its' toll on my nerves!

Once a month I go to the nearest 'big city' of 10,00 for supplies. It takes another thirty days to work up the nerve to go back and fight the traffic for another month's supplies.

The older I get, the less malleable I am to the more relaxed 'rules of etiquette' nowadays - if that's what they're still called. Seems the 'Time and place for everything' has become 'Anytime, anyplace'!

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I would advise caution. Living rural is a whole 'nother reality. Most folks can't handle it and regret what it costs them in the long run.

Yes. Living away from it all has advantages. Doing so permanently has distinct disadvantages. If you can find a getaway that's affordable, I'd go that route on a temporary basis if possible.

I absolutely agree with you, especially now with an empty nest. The only problem is that as I have gotten older I have lost some of the physical stamina that may be needed for a more rural lifestyle.

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YES!!! I feel this way all the time.

I like where I live but it's too much. People are always in a hurry, rude and it's just hectic. I love nature and want to see wild animals in my yard not people. I want to look out my window and see the stars not lights from other buildings or street lights. I want to hike in the mountains and swim in ponds and lakes, not the beach. I am not a beach person by any means. I want to have seasons and grow my own fruits and veggies and have an herb garden and rose garden.

My aunt lives in the middle of no where Virginia. We lived there when I was 13 and I hated it. It was torture for me then. I mean there were only 184 kids in the ENTIRE school! My sister and I were immediately popular because we were twins and played woodwind instruments. The band was highly excited because all they had before were brass players. It was rough but NOW I'd LOVE to live where she is! So beautiful and peaceful. The people are so warm and friendly.

Ahhh one day...

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Humans aren't meant to live in cities. The hectic and cramped lifestyle isn't conducive to good living. Cities are bubbles of non-reality and insanity.
We're meant to see the stars at night and breathe clean air.

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The only way to escape it, is to be a hermit/recluse like me!

I live in a very small rural area, and let me tell you, I hate being around people! Sure, living in a city just compounds the fact that you will run into more insane lemmings than in a less populated area. But the ONLY way to escape the insanity is to be isolated from everyone!

Until you are prepared to do that, it doesn't matter where you move too. People have become.............I don't know the word to use at the moment...........

EDIT: Just be prepared though! To be like me gets you labeled with the illness of "Anti Social Behavioral Disorder"!

originally posted by: ItCameFromOuterSpace
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Humans aren't meant to live in cities. The hectic and cramped lifestyle isn't conducive to good living. Cities are bubbles of non-reality and insanity.
We're meant to see the stars at night and breathe clean air.

Also the peace and quiet. When re-adjusting back to the rural lifestyle, I'd forgotten all about it, compared to apartment doors slamming all hours of the night, the constant rumble of traffic, etc. Now, if anyone is driving within about a half mile, I'll hear it.

Nugget1, I'm in a somewhat similar spot as you. About ten miles out from the county seat, pop. of 23,000. Go in about once every other week to stock up. We have one stoplight, a gas station and a grocery store here in the "town" I'm about a mile out from. Where two 2-lane state highways cross. And tons of great fishing ponds and creeks.

I want to get back to the woods. Lived there all my life till I moved to this desert hell hole.

I like a mix of both. I'm in a rural area but live near a major city to go to events.
I'm as rural as I'd like to be though. Pretty boring when your town doesn't have much. No public transportation. That's what I like about a city. At least I used to. Not too safe these days. Mind you I think my little town was voted most murders in canada a few years ago. Let's face it everyone is on crack. If they aren't, they will be. I can't leave my doors unlocked. Too many crackhead thieves on the loose.

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I left Miami because nobody speaks english anymore and I dont like the socialist influence from the Central Americans. Im bi-lingual, but I shouldnt have to speak a foreign language in my own country. I moved to the Blue Ridge Mountains, and guess what...mountain people cant speak english either. They speak mountain, and they think mountain. I dont know which is worse.

I live in a small town in the middle of a National Forest in central Arizona. I know, 80% of people think Arizona is flat, sand and cactus.....nope.

Anyways, I go to phoenix maybe 3 times a year and can't stand it and can't get home soon enough.

Besides the extremely heavy traffic, the lunatic drivers and too many rude people the city stinks to me.

Sometimes it makes me nauseous. It seems like a cross of car exhaust, garbage, rubber and 1000 other smells I can't even identify.

I smoke and I find it somewhat funny people will bitch about that but yet they live in a place you can't even see the sky most times.

You can keep the cities, I'll live out here in the middle of nowhere.

Am trying to get further away from it all. It's over 10 k where I'm at but not over 40k or 50k overall. It's nicer than where I came from in the past, with a population of millions down to 400k in the whole area upon moving away, but there's a lot of congestion in a small city area.
I'll tell ya one thing though, living in a town of about 500 people, still had issues. You have to be a certain distance from neighbors or it really doesn't matter as much if neighbors are a main issue. Though, you have to deal with the "everyone knows everyone" or "small town attitude", it can be a gossip haven as any tight-knit neighborhood.

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And Phoenix is a relatively peaceful clean city.

There was a time when I intentionally thrust myself into thousands and thousands of people -- runs, bike races, concerts, life in the city. ......... and I loved it. Then I aged a bit, and longed for that elusive constant called "quiet". My darlin' and me live in such a place, where the only din that sounds is usually the crow of wild roosters.

We're not antisocial, we just don't like people. Individuals, couples, even family on occasion are fun. Hordes are complicated unpredictable creatures that tend toward the individuality of schooling fish.

Nature is beautiful and often brutal. There is no 'fairness', it just is. PERfect.

originally posted by: argentus
There was a time when I intentionally thrust myself into thousands and thousands of people -- runs, bike races, concerts, life in the city. ......... and I loved it. Then I aged a bit, and longed for that elusive constant called "quiet". My darlin' and me live in such a place, where the only din that sounds is usually the crow of wild roosters.

We're not antisocial, we just don't like people.

Individuals, couples, even family on occasion are fun. Hordes are complicated unpredictable creatures that tend toward the individuality of schooling fish.

Nature is beautiful and often brutal. There is no 'fairness', it just is. PERfect.

Eloquently put!

I made my move 8 months ago onequestion, I couldn't be happier, I am only 140 some kms away from a major city which takes me 1.5 hours to drive there, in a sense I have the best of both worlds, the best part is leaving the BS of the City behind and heading home.

A bit of advise, don't over think the move, just do it.

Take a bit of time picking the town you want to move to though, take the time to visit the town, always go to the local pub, you will find out all the info you need about a town and it's people in a pub.

Good luck.


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Having trouble deciding just how far to get away---Montana? or Chile? Yeah we know the feeling. Love reading about peoples's success in smaller towns, gives us hope. But its hard to leave the city, or even suburbs, once you're there. Purposefully, of course. They want us in these crap cities struggling to make ends meet to pay for an apartment you can't afford to spend any time in. The wife has panic attacks about how she can never do anything simply for her benefit here---we're stuck in a one-bedroom apt in a suburb (with a year-and-a-half year old!), so it's pretty much Work, Clean, Cook, Sleep, and Repeat. For everyone.