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That is not always the case. For instance, if one happens to be stood outside a bar, smoking a cigarette, and notices a female failing to be able to light her own smoke, one merely proffers ones lighter to them, and thusly a conversation can come about, despite the fact that one would ordinarily do the same for anyone, regardless of the contents of their underwear.
Similarly, if one is ahead of a lady in a queue, one can stand aside and allow her to jump a space. This also can begin a conversation, without the necessity of invading their minds without invitation. Making space at a bar, letting a lady board a bus ahead of you, despite your having been waiting longer, common courtesy, politeness and empathy... They may be old fashioned ideas, but I find myself much more comfortable with such things, than the idea of making unwanted intrusions into a persons headspace, without permission.
No, it's not feigned. It's a turn-off to me. But we are not the same age...not the same background...not even in the same country.
Your experiences have helped to mold your perspective. Sometimes....people are actually being truthful, lol. I have no reason to lie...just telling you how "I" alone feel. You don't have to believe me. I'm okay with that.
My son is 29...keep that in mind. I'm not a girl, I'm a woman.
I know how detail-oriented you are)
TrueBrit
reply to post by FancyName
In the case of asking "do you need a light", it is not even necessary to ask. Just extend the lighter toward the lady, and smile in an accommodating fashion. There is no need to insert an agenda into it by speaking the words attached to the action.
The difference between you and the guy that asks "Do you need a light?" and you is one has an interest in talking to me and the other is just being a servant. Servants get ignored.
angelchemuel
reply to post by KeliOnyx
The difference between you and the guy that asks "Do you need a light?" and you is one has an interest in talking to me and the other is just being a servant. Servants get ignored.
Ooooooooooooooo.....now that's a bit uncalled for and insulting!
On the other hand...maybe you just don't get 'subtle' and eloquent, and you need things hitting you like a brick when it comes to men's intentions?
edit on 12-4-2014 by angelchemuel because: (no reason given)
KeliOnyx
TrueBrit
reply to post by FancyName
In the case of asking "do you need a light", it is not even necessary to ask. Just extend the lighter toward the lady, and smile in an accommodating fashion. There is no need to insert an agenda into it by speaking the words attached to the action.
But you still haven't done anything to distinguish yourself from most men. Polite yes, one could even say flattering but to just do it and not say a word will get you a polite thank you and that is about it. When I go out I can reasonably expect that if a man is anywhere nearby doors will be held open, when in crowded spaces they will let me pass first and if it looks like I can't find my lighter my cigarette will be lit for me. I have even on several occasions had men just randomly pump my gas for me. They will be given a polite thank you for their trouble and I will move on and not think twice about it. The difference between you and the guy that asks "Do you need a light?" and you is one has an interest in talking to me and the other is just being a servant. Servants get ignored.