Neurotic ramblings of a feminist...

So I was looking around at some engagement articles, mostly on kinds of rings, traditions, etc. And I was struck with a curiosity, what happens if your bride to be loses her ring before you get married? Do you buy two identical settings and switch out a cubic zirconia for everyday wear and not tell her? (knowing she's lost another ring in the past), is it a bad omen? Do you have shell out for another down payment on a house simply to replace it? etc, etc.

And then I came on a blog.

About a girl losing a ring.

And it made me feel sorry for her husband...

I barely made it through the whole article but around halfway down certain lines just popped out at me.

I lost my engagement ring. I mean, really lost it. I haven’t seen it in a month, maybe more.

....

And I’m probably not supposed to say this, but I don’t miss it.

And while I’m talking about my ring, I should say that I’m defensive only because people keep writing these pieces about how stupid it is to have a diamond engagement ring. How wasteful and bad and selfish and outmoded and generally super duper hugely lame.

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And also, you’re a bad feminist if you have one.

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I don’t wear it much anymore. I mean, I wasn’t wearing it much before I lost it. Now I have a wedding band, and that says what I want the second finger of my left hand to say, and the diamond feels excessive. The diamond feels like a special occasion, the wedding band feels pleasantly mundane.

But all the same, I get annoyed and huffy when someone talks about how ridiculous diamond rings are. How we should all be past this. How it’s sexist. It’s uncool. It’s a cliché. It’s too expensive to be justified.

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I should never have gotten a diamond ring or had a big white wedding. Maybe I shouldn’t even have gotten married, actually. Especially not so young.

www.thefrisky.com...


Back and forth back and forth... Dear lord.

"I don't wanna conform, but when I conform it feels good, but I shouldn't feel good, blah blah blah"

reply to post by boncho


Feminism just goes way too far these days, just like most 'isms'.

Don't get me wrong, I am an avid supporter for equal rights amongst all human being, regardless of colour, creed, or sex. However, saying a girl is not being a feminist by being girly, that's stupid, by saying a girl is not a feminist because she gets with guys, also stupid etc etc

To deny that there are physical differences between men and women, is stupid! It's blatant denial of differences between men and women. Now obviously there are plenty of women out there who can kick my arse, but men NATURALLY have a hormone that increases muscle growth, women have one that increase the size of the hips.

I think it should just be equal rights across the board, stop trying to make men and women the same sex, no one wants that.

reply to post by iRoyalty


I think you highlight exactly what I saw wrong with her ramblings. She feels guilty doing things that are traditional, whether it be certain types of jewelry or costume. Why does she even think it's wrong to enjoy something traditionally for women, and of celebration no less?

There are plenty of feminine things a guy might like too, but I don't see any of the guys I know going for spa treatments incorporating it into their lives, saying "We can go to the spa too!!!!!" "I'm an equal, I nair my balls!"

It's just part of what they do, doesn't define them.

Though they may get some trash talk in the locker room when some others notice the shiny mani&pedi nails...

Woman are not going to like this but each polarity manifestation has a rightful place.
The kings will be kings and the queens never will be. Otherwise they would have enlarged Adams apples like men.

The way I see it is that the Woman are the muse potential for the men to manifest with strength. Once to woman start trying to be like men we got big problems. We may be equal but 5+5 is the same as 3+7 and different.

So if women treat their men like kings, men treat them like queens. It doesn't work the other way around where men have to be subservient to a manipulating muse, in fact that is asking to chase your tail until full burnout.

Men 'want' woman
Woman 'need' men

Now the kicker is we can all be whatever polarity and even change our energetic polarity regardless, but your suit, the gender, that's how the universe has decided your role.

Now my pimp hand is ready for a flaming haha, but its the truth pill hard, to swallow I know.

thats why theres rule # 35 - NEVER date or marry a feminist ..

I hate feminists.....they ruin things for the rest of us, never ever listen to the nonsense they spout.

Not all woman care if it is real or not but if you have one of the women who does care...do not...I repeat...do not give her a fake ring.

Why don't you ask her what her true ring size is? Get one that fits perfect and they would be very difficult to lose.

My third wife would only marry me If I got her a diamond ring....cost me over 1500 quid and I didn't even get it back after the divorce....grrrrr.
Just don't get wed folks, cost me everything.

boymonkey74
My third wife would only marry me If I got her a diamond ring....cost me over 1500 quid and I didn't even get it back after the divorce....grrrrr.
Just don't get wed folks, cost me everything.

Not to mention the power involved in actually signing your free will over on paper and in reality.
Hookers exist for this reason haha

reply to post by boncho


Haha exactly, if they want to be involved in everything guys are, then they should have guy mates that they are willing to receive a wedgie off, or just a random rugby tackle to the ground!

There are just something you know not to do with a girl, like don't play too rough unless in a professional competition!

reply to post by boncho

You know you're supposed to buy her a diamond ring ... so you damn well better do it ... or you'll always regret not doing it. Spade!

If she loses it ... let it go, it was just a ring. She's more important than the ring. If you don't lose site of that, it's not gonna be a big deal when she wrecks your car. Am I coming through Lima Charlie?

It's good to see you in a quandary. At least one of the two of you are ready for this.

I am happy for you, brother!!

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I got the diamond, then realized how much a decent titanium setting is, and then the additional diamonds for the band, oh and the pave... Oh and I haven't even thought about all the crap that comes after.

May as well just dump a wheelbarrow full of cash on the roulette table. Same odds. Either it's gonna be fantastic, or it's gonna be the same as flushing that money down the toilet.

Casino - Marriage...

??

clear case of DFS : deranged feminist < cencored >

reply to post by boncho

Startin' to sound like a Vegas wedding to me!!

-Cheers

Snarl
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Startin' to sound like a Vegas wedding to me!!

-Cheers

Midget Elvis wedding.....

UltraverseMaximus

Snarl
reply to post by boncho

 

Startin' to sound like a Vegas wedding to me!!

-Cheers

Midget Elvis wedding.....

You do know you can't mention "E" by name on this site without starting a conspiracy thread, right?

reply to post by boncho


Many people buy insurance for wedding rings if you own a house you can get a rider on your home owners insurance.

Snarl

UltraverseMaximus

Snarl
reply to post by boncho

 

Startin' to sound like a Vegas wedding to me!!

-Cheers

Midget Elvis wedding.....

You do know you can't mention "E" by name on this site without starting a conspiracy thread, right?

But Hitler has only just died on the moon. Conspiracy you say lol

The only feminine aspect i like is in a women.

Feminist on the other hand are not feminine at all.

They try to be something else that does not even seem attractive while spouting hypocrisy,


Doesn't diamond ring make men go broke even before the couple lifer get started? Its ridiculous!

In response to feminism, we should start, demasuclinism. Where we all stop acting manly and start acting girly all the time.

See how long it takes for all the women to get so turned off by all the 'men' that they give up the stupid gender meshing idea.

reply to post by luciddream

Doesn't diamond ring make men go broke even before the couple lifer get started? Its ridiculous!

But it's what it symbolizes.

I know I jest a lot. And I will even rationalize, with the ring, the wedding, the honeymoon, for a lot of people you could use the same bit of money and buy a house, car and be set. But you aren't doing the thing that symbolizes the love you have for the person.

Even if you're poor, or from a poor family (that'd be me on the second part), we used to invite people over for parties and get togethers even when we barely had enough to get by. Symbolizing friendship.

So when you get out of that life, feel like you are decent financially, but then realize something like this is going to be taxing, and the money could be more useful in an investment, you think to yourself... Nah, I'm just making that extra bowl of spaghetti, cooking those buns and cracking the wine we've been saving. I'm just feeding my best friend I have, a good night's dinner.