Online gaming advice needed

When I was a child my parents got me an Atari 2600, '78/'79ish if I remember right. I was instantly hooked. I haven't been without a gaming console of some kind since. The thing is, I have always used my video games as a means to escape people in a way. Being social is a face to face thing.......games are a Billy only thing. Online gaming kind of defeats the purpose for me, so I almost completely avoided it. I have had a PS3 from launch, 0 people on my friends list, I have had a PS4 from launch, 0 people on my list. You get the point. I tried WOW and it just annoyed me, too many people. I tried Black Ops, too much smack talking from little kids...it just pissed me off. The thing is, I LOVE the Elder Scrolls games. Absolutely love them. So with ESO coming out for PS4 in April I really want to give this online game thing a good go this time. I was just wondering if any of you could give me some advice about how to approach online gaming in general. I have VERY little experience in the matter so any advice would be greatly appreciated. I really have my heart set on enjoying this game. Thanks

Edit: My PSN id is billy197300, add me if you want to try out ESO with me next month

You should go to elder scroll online and get yourself a beta key, beta is open until monday i think,game is cool, few bugs but you should go and try.

I havent made any friends online in a long time, i love mmos but cant find people to play with, i never take the games seriously and usually end up dying for lack of attention on the fights.

reply to post by dukeofjive696969


I tried to get a beta key but I think it is for PC only. My computer would probably catch on fire if it tried run a game. lol It's old.

reply to post by Holographicmeat


Trust me, you should not worry about online gaming at all... I have an XBox One and play numerous games online, Call of Duty Series, Forza 5, Fifa, soon Titan Fall, etc.. and many others...

First- you will always come across idiots when playing online gaming.. Idiots say stupid things, but thankfully, gaming systems have blessed us all with the Mute feature and then you can report the user

Second- you will always come across great players and not to great players. If you aren't playing well, don't get flustered, these things take time.. I play Call of Duty often and my KD ratio still stucks. KD is kills to death, btw... But its a game for entertainment and enjoyment..

Last- To my last part of my second point. Its a game, just let loose, forget bout real life problems for a brief moment and just enjoy/take in the awesome gaming world we see today.. From Atari to the graphics offered today, it is truly something else...

Well I think you should start with The Lord of The Rings Online. It's free to play now, and it has no PVP, which means a lot less drama and fight than any other mmo. Imo is the best mmorpg, however it's not that crowded anymore. The community is very good and I'm sure you will like it. The best way to start in an mmo is to join a clan/guild/ kinship, whatever the name in the game is. That way you get to know a lot of people and if u don't like them, u can just quit the guild and move to another until you find one that fits whatever it is you're looking for. Advice on approaching? Don't do anything you wouldn't do here. Don't be a drama queen and always be respectful. Online gaming is pretty much the same as real life in some aspects, so don't get carried away

reply to post by jhn7537


Thanks jhn7537. I will try to keep those things in mind. I assume people will have a different mind set when playing an online RPG than they would a FPS. That's what I am hoping anyway. The people I ran into on COD were adrenaline fueled maniacs lol. I guess maybe that is part of the charm for some people though.

reply to post by Holographicmeat


If I had a next gen console I'd def play elder scrolls online. If your looking for a fps with minimal # talking and little kids try battlefield 4. The # talking is what turned me away from cod for sure. Just my 2 cents. Also don't forget about titanfall.

reply to post by Lincourtz


Lord of the Rings online? Free sounds like a great starting place! I will try it although I am not sure my computer can run it. Maybe get a handle on my MMO etiquette before hand. Thank you, I will keep those things in mind.

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You know, I ALMOST bought an Xbox One simply because Titanfall looks amazing. BUT, kinect TOTALLY freaks me out. I had one on my 360 and someone actually hacked it. My exwife's mother, that's why she is my exwife now. Long story. I won't make that mistake twice lol. I still would get one if I wasn't forced to buy a kinect I would never use. Maybe one day they will release one without a kinect, I think it would be a great decision as far as sales are concerned.

GroidNificent
reply to post by Holographicmeat

 

If I had a next gen console I'd def play elder scrolls online. If your looking for a fps with minimal # talking and little kids try battlefield 4. The # talking is what turned me away from cod for sure. Just my 2 cents. Also don't forget about titanfall.

That's another reason why I gave up on COD and am all into BF4. Ive been playing BF4 on the PS4 for a few months now, and literally nobody talks. The only time when I used my mic was when me and a couple friends were in the same squad together. I believe you have to be in a "party" of sorts with friends in BF4 before you can actually talk to eachother.

ETA - I do get PMs for friend requests and such, but those are very minimal.

buni11687

GroidNificent
reply to post by Holographicmeat

 

If I had a next gen console I'd def play elder scrolls online. If your looking for a fps with minimal # talking and little kids try battlefield 4. The # talking is what turned me away from cod for sure. Just my 2 cents. Also don't forget about titanfall.

That's another reason why I gave up on COD and am all into BF4. Ive been playing BF4 on the PS4 for a few months now, and literally nobody talks. The only time when I used my mic was when me and a couple friends were in the same squad together. I believe you have to be in a "party" of sorts with friends in BF4 before you can actually talk to eachother.

ETA - I do get PMs for friend requests and such, but those are very minimal.

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Funny thing. I have had BF4 for a while now. i just tucked it away in my collection after finishing the solo campaign. I'm glad you brought this to my attention, I may give the MP a look now that I know I won't have to put up with a constant stream of @#$ talking. Thanks

Lincourtz
Well I think you should start with The Lord of The Rings Online. It's free to play now, and it has no PVP, which means a lot less drama and fight than any other mmo. Imo is the best mmorpg, however it's not that crowded anymore. The community is very good and I'm sure you will like it. The best way to start in an mmo is to join a clan/guild/ kinship, whatever the name in the game is. That way you get to know a lot of people and if u don't like them, u can just quit the guild and move to another until you find one that fits whatever it is you're looking for. Advice on approaching? Don't do anything you wouldn't do here. Don't be a drama queen and always be respectful. Online gaming is pretty much the same as real life in some aspects, so don't get carried away

^ Lincourtz is right.
All the cool kids are doing it.

...seriously though, I've been playing LOTRO for seven years now, and I still love it. The community are supportive and friendly, and you don't tend to get the "I LOVE THIS GAME SO MUCH I'VE LOCKED MY CHILDREN IN THE BASEMENT SO THAT I CAN PLAY MORE" types.
The vast majority of the people I've met on LOTRO are friendly, helpful and above all... pretty normal.
That's high praise.

The game itself is pretty great too - if you enjoyed the movies, or better still, the books, you'll love it. I'll never forget the first time I walked through Bree, or followed those stupid dwarves into Moria... or the first time I laid eyes on Galadhriel.
Try it. You'll love it.

reply to post by Holographicmeat


I feel you on the whole Kinect thing. I'm bro a big fan if it. From what I heard Microsoft pretty watches all your moves......don't know how much I belive that but...

reply to post by buni11687


I don't really like bf4 that much honestly. I think bf3 is so much better in all departments. I think dice kind of #ed bf in a way. Seems a little halfassed compared to bf3 I think.

My opinion as a long time gamer also whom avoids MMOs.

Well, first off, I love Elder Scrolls titles. They are my drug. (coming up to 1300 hours in skyrim...).
I recommend -not- getting ESO. It is...not a worthy title. It is a average to moderately good mmo, but far more expensive. If you for some reason love the lore of Tamriel, like...seriously love it, could read endless books on the subject, then maybe you would enjoy it simply from that perspective...otherwise...it is just a graphically weak mmo like the rest.
(beta tested, and they simply haven't changed it nor discussed the ability to mod its actual in game graphics).

I don't do consoles..they are limited, control like a brick, and ultimately are outdated within a year of the product. Get a gaming computer and be happy for years on end, not to mention endlessly modding your games.

I recommend highly however getting multiplayer games...1-4 player games you and a few close friends over the net play together. there are tons of titles that are fantastic. Left 4 dead stuff, anything that has coop campaigns, etc. mmo's are a wasteland of trolls and jerks. I will say however I did quite enjoy SWG back in the early days..but that's only because I immediately joined a fairly small guild (8 people total) and so it was a close knit group and we did occasionally help out larger groups, but for the most part, we were our own unit doing our own thing being left alone. I also enjoyed Planetside 2 for a long time, again, joined a guild thing immediately. that one however went from a smallish band of dedicated players to a giant, and I became a bit disinterested in it after awhile...wasn't a bad experience, just the close knit group feel was lost. Once a guild gets over like 30 people, it becomes less personal....
So, advice if you do the mmo thing. Seriously, find a guild asap..make it a decent and smallish one, and spend time building up the guild...that is the only real way to have enduring fun, but otherwise, just stick to singleplayer and small multiplayer games.

I like GTA online on the PS3. (Don't have a PS4 yet). There are untold jerks and trolls on that game but if they annoy you too much you can take real pleasure in killing them lol

I played Everquest back in the day and loved it. But swore I would never play another MMO-RPG again because it's such a time sink. It's easy to walk away from online PS3 games.

I adore the Elder Scrolls games and thus refuse to play them online. I will not have my favorite game ruined by trolls lol

reply to post by Holographicmeat


I'd say quit the game consoles, that's mostly for kids. Get a good computer. I've been playing "Sins of a Solar Empire" for years, the game has expansions and upgrades all the time, we are an small community but many of us are adult people and just want to enjoy playing without silly or offensive comments. The game is awesome and I also have a clan, we kick out any disrespectful player on spot.

hehe for me it is the same, 0 people on my friends list and when I tried WOW or GW I lost interested after playing alone.
I am really communicative and not shy in reallife, but socially awkward when it come to online games.
I only play league of legends and only alone or with my real life friends.
Basically I just dont want to play with people online that I dont know personally since it feels totally strange for me

reply to post by SaturnFX


Hey, I play league too, though the community ranges from either really Dahmer or really Buddha.

The only problem I see with multiplayer is how you react to people literally thinking of the worst possible insults to spew at you. Never play if you're having a bad day. If you still do, mute everyone, focus on you. and if you play bad, just stop until you're comfortable again.

SaturnFX
My opinion as a long time gamer also whom avoids MMOs.

Well, first off, I love Elder Scrolls titles. They are my drug. (coming up to 1300 hours in skyrim...).
I recommend -not- getting ESO. It is...not a worthy title. It is a average to moderately good mmo, but far more expensive. If you for some reason love the lore of Tamriel, like...seriously love it, could read endless books on the subject, then maybe you would enjoy it simply from that perspective...otherwise...it is just a graphically weak mmo like the rest.
(beta tested, and they simply haven't changed it nor discussed the ability to mod its actual in game graphics).

I don't do consoles..they are limited, control like a brick, and ultimately are outdated within a year of the product. Get a gaming computer and be happy for years on end, not to mention endlessly modding your games.

I recommend highly however getting multiplayer games...1-4 player games you and a few close friends over the net play together. there are tons of titles that are fantastic. Left 4 dead stuff, anything that has coop campaigns, etc. mmo's are a wasteland of trolls and jerks. I will say however I did quite enjoy SWG back in the early days..but that's only because I immediately joined a fairly small guild (8 people total) and so it was a close knit group and we did occasionally help out larger groups, but for the most part, we were our own unit doing our own thing being left alone. I also enjoyed Planetside 2 for a long time, again, joined a guild thing immediately. that one however went from a smallish band of dedicated players to a giant, and I became a bit disinterested in it after awhile...wasn't a bad experience, just the close knit group feel was lost. Once a guild gets over like 30 people, it becomes less personal....
So, advice if you do the mmo thing. Seriously, find a guild asap..make it a decent and smallish one, and spend time building up the guild...that is the only real way to have enduring fun, but otherwise, just stick to singleplayer and small multiplayer games.

The only thing I ever played on my computer was WOW. All the people and the keyboard.....playing games with a keyboard and mouse, my brain can't process it for some reason. lol Consoles are just a life long habit with me is all. That is AWFUL news that you did the beta and it wasn't great. Everyone else I have talked to loved it. Truth is I wouldn't know an terrible mmo from an amazing one. I will remain hopeful on this one, although your 1300 hours of Skyrim experience does give you alot more credit as an expert on the whole thing. So, immediately find a small guild of people and leave if it gets more than 30 members. Got it. Thank you.