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Originally posted by daryllyn
[color=mediumorchid]For the record, there was no infidelity or physical abuse.
Psychological abuse? I would say yes.
Constant guilt tripping. Bad mouthing. Rubbing things in my face. Expecting me to do everything, all the time, no matter what---even if I am sick or had surgery. Threatening to cheat (even if those threats were empty). Undermining me in front of my children. Cussing. Etc.
Originally posted by daryllyn
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The relationship started out okay (we were on our best behavior in those days though) but has been super disfunctional and rocky for the last three years.
To quote Bob Marley: "The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
The question you gotta ask, putting your kids, family, etc aside is..How much does he really mean to you?
Originally posted by daryllyn
reply to post by SmoKeyHaZe
I am not really sure
Thanks for the input.
Originally posted by daryllyn
[color=mediumorchid]For the record, there was no infidelity or physical abuse.
Psychological abuse? I would say yes.
Constant guilt tripping. Bad mouthing. Rubbing things in my face. Expecting me to do everything, all the time, no matter what---even if I am sick or had surgery. Threatening to cheat (even if those threats were empty). Undermining me in front of my children. Cussing. Etc.
Originally posted by wlord
2 simple choices that's what it comes down to folks..
1. stay with the guy just to be financially secured and pretend to have a nice "family structure" at the cost of your own happiness
2. bust your ass to be come independent and seek happiness
the real lazy person looks for number 1
Psychological abuse? I would say yes. Constant guilt tripping. Bad mouthing. Rubbing things in my face. Expecting me to do everything, all the time, no matter what---even if I am sick or had surgery. Threatening to cheat (even if those threats were empty). Undermining me in front of my children. Cussing. Etc.
Originally posted by daryllyn
[color=dodgerblue]I am just wondering...
I recently let him know that I am not happy at all. He seemed completely shocked by this and has asked for a second chance but I feel like the damage has been done and I don't know if it is repairable and honestly am not sure that I even want to try anymore.
He is a jerk, plain and simple. Not that I am always easy to get along with either.... for the record.
He says he wants to change and I am like... why now? Why does it matter when you think I am leaving when it hasn't mattered for at least the last 3 years? In my experience, people really don't change. I am sure that there are some out there but I in my experience they are the exception and not the rule.
The five top regrets of dying people
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.