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Originally posted by nikkij
You find it hard to believe? So did I ten years ago! In the beginning I offered him 50/50 and said child support wouldn't be involved.Obviously that didn't happen. It's fine if it is unbelievable to you that's a lot of what this site is about right?
Originally posted by nikkij
I could post a link to my many emails I have saved or my actual child support account, but I'm pretty sure my SSN would be on there! Thanks for your view on things. I know the truth and that's all that matters to me.
Why only 50/50? because while I may not have wanted to get pregnant I do love my daughter and want to be in her life. I am responsible for 50% dont you think? Although, I do 100%. She is the greatest little girl. The moment I felt her move in my womb I knew I was her mother and her father was there with his hand on my belly and a smile on his face! How was I supposed to know things would change? And although his feelings for her diminished mine GREW!!edit on 30-6-2011 by nikkij because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by nixie_nox
reply to post by navy_vet_stg3
I personally know about ten single mothers right now struggling because of dead beat dads. I know of only one father who is struggling without the mother.
Yes there are dead beat mothers, but the numbers for dead beat fathers is much higher.
Originally posted by nixie_nox
Yes I have read those reports, what you have to do is look at the actual numbers. The percentage is higher for mothers not paying child support, but the number of deadbeat mothers versus deadbeat fathers is much much lower.
Originally posted by nixie_nox
People need to stop looking at it from personal perceptions. Yes you go thte short end of the stick and got an absentee mother. That doesnt' make the courts biased.
Originally posted by nixie_nox
But we see many women who come into social services who will not name a father, who refuse to come up with a name. Because that man has abused them and scared them so much, they are not willing to tell a neutral agency who they are because they are scared of being found.
Originally posted by nixie_nox
The number of women who don't claim child support is high, 30%.
Originally posted by nixie_nox
I am in the group of women who have not claimed child support. Because the men use the court systems to their advantage and financially break the mother in the process of disputing child support, or custody.
Originally posted by nixie_nox
Instead of crying that the courts are biased, maybe the courts are accurate.