I'm ok with nothing

I turn 60 later this year and my wife thinks it's a big deal.

She wants to go on a cruise or go to Alaska or take a trip somewhere to celebrate my 6 decades on this planet and the thing is....

I don't want to. Birthdays are just not important to me. For a long time now, I've been perfectly fine with "Happy Birthday" and that's it.

I don't need a cake or presents or go to dinner or make a big deal out of it. Just say "Happy Birthday" and let it go.

I get presents and cake or take my wife or kids to dinner if it's their birthday, but mine is just "meh" "ok, made another trip around the Sun"

My milestones were : 16 - I can get my driver's license.

21 - I can drink in a bar [ legally ]

Everything after that was just another year.

Just if you are going to travel do it sooner rather than later. You'll end up being too old and tired to enjoy yourself in a few years if you do go anywhere.

a reply to: DAVID64

It's sounds like your wife might want to do some travelling. I'd take her somewhere just to be on the safe side.

originally posted by: tamusan
a reply to: DAVID64

It's sounds like your wife might want to do some travelling. I'd take her somewhere just to be on the safe side.

No. Don't "Simp" for the wife, it's YOUR birthday David, not hers.

You and I are the same age right now so I get the fact that travelling this many times around the sun can be enough and sometimes it's just good enough to still be around to do absolutely nothing. It takes practice to be free enough to do so.

"Happy Birthday" from me to you for when it comes just in case this place disappears in a couple of weeks for good. I will sneak in a pretty pic of mine for you though.

a reply to: DAVID64

I’m with ya.
I turn 42 this year.
Other than not being a fan of my age, I honestly couldn’t care less.
However, my youngest daughter’s bday is next month.
She’s turning 16.
I’ve been hearing about her birthday plans since Christmas lol

originally posted by: DAVID64
I turn 60 later this year and my wife thinks it's a big deal.

She wants to go on a cruise or go to Alaska or take a trip somewhere to celebrate my 6 decades on this planet and the thing is....

I don't want to. Birthdays are just not important to me. For a long time now, I've been perfectly fine with "Happy Birthday" and that's it.

I don't need a cake or presents or go to dinner or make a big deal out of it. Just say "Happy Birthday" and let it go.

I get presents and cake or take my wife or kids to dinner if it's their birthday, but mine is just "meh" "ok, made another trip around the Sun"

My milestones were : 16 - I can get my driver's license.

21 - I can drink in a bar [ legally ]

Everything after that was just another year.

Well happy birthday David. I understand where you’re coming from. You were born the same year as my car lol. Cheers brother.

a reply to: DAVID64

So forget it's your birthday and take the wife and go somewhere for cripes sake.

She likely just wants you to get away from ATS for a couple days.

You can ketch up when you get back partner. I doubt you miss much.

The wife and I don't care to travel anymore, we haven't gone much anywhere for the last eight or more years. We used to go travel around, but usually it was to either go visit an old relative before they died of old age, or to get supplies of food or stuff for the house. Over the years, we now have bigger stores here locally that we can get stuff from. And of course, once you buy light fixtures for your house that last decades, you do not need to get them again. Being in the U.P. we had limited selection of things to choose from years ago.

We used to go camping a lot, usually to county parks that were free, but we built a house in the woods, so now we just go cook on the firepit and look at the sky at night around the fire. There are streams and lakes to fish in here, and we have my kids here locally and the whole family is here now. So there is no incentive to go traveling around.

My Cousin who used to be a homebody most times except for going out and eat occasionally till he and his wife retired are constantly traveling in their older age...they are not old yet either, just getting older just like us. They go visit his brothers and sisters all over the country and go on cruises quite often. Some wait till after they retire to go out and have fun, We did all that before we were forty. I was an extravert, now I have broke that obsession. I would rather just talk to family and a few friends we meet in the restaurant or store sometimes. The wife goes to more social functions for seniors, I don't feel old, those people make me feel old. So she goes out to lunch about three times a week.

I was already in Alaska when I was eighteen, I went up to Juneau with my mother, brother, stepfather, and stepbrother to visit my uncle in seventy four. We took the AlCAN highway up and visited for a week, then came back on a ferry and went down to montana to visit my cousin and his wife. It was interesting, but I no longer have a desire to go North anymore, in Juneau, there is way less snow than the U.P. of Michigan.

I know other Seniors that are taking trips to Europe and other parts of the world on Senior trips through the Senior center. They have quite a bit of fun, but are wiped out for a month or two after they get back. Both the wife and I aren't interested in that anymore, we did a lot when we were younger. It is nice now to just chill at home and go visit a few friends and go shopping. We are going to start back with the Ancient Artifact Preservation society again this year, with the Covid restrictions and uncertainties, we just layed back for two years but it is fun and not that expensive, about eight hundred bucks for meals, the motel room, and the conference. That also includes gas costs and about a hundred bucks gambling money at the Casino while we are there for the conference.

It is real expensive to fish in Alaska, and then you have to take all the fish home with you like we did. I know people who go elk hunting in Montana and Canada, and others that go fishing in Canada, which costs a bundle when they rent a camp for a week. The fish they get is worth a tenth of what they spend on their trip.

It is up to you what you want to do, everyone is different, everyone has different desires. But tell her if you aren't interested in going right away, otherwise it just gets harder to say you do not feel like it. She is trying to please you with what she thinks you still want....Wants change over the years.

Dave, I turn 63 this year and I have nothing but regret in my heart that I missed so many things. BUT!. just like you, I feel pretty good about just being me and going on with my life without all the things people think are things we should do

Just be you my brother. love ya man. peace!

originally posted by: nerbot

originally posted by: tamusan
a reply to: DAVID64

It's sounds like your wife might want to do some travelling. I'd take her somewhere just to be on the safe side.

No. Don't "Simp" for the wife, it's YOUR birthday David, not hers.

You and I are the same age right now so I get the fact that travelling this many times around the sun can be enough and sometimes it's just good enough to still be around to do absolutely nothing. It takes practice to be free enough to do so.

"Happy Birthday" from me to you for when it comes just in case this place disappears in a couple of weeks for good. I will sneak in a pretty pic of mine for you though.

A simp gets nothing out of it. I move on to the next ho when I get nothing out of it.

originally posted by: DAVID64
I turn 60 later this year and my wife thinks it's a big deal.

She wants to go on a cruise or go to Alaska or take a trip somewhere to celebrate my 6 decades on this planet and the thing is....

I don't want to. Birthdays are just not important to me. For a long time now, I've been perfectly fine with "Happy Birthday" and that's it.

I don't need a cake or presents or go to dinner or make a big deal out of it. Just say "Happy Birthday" and let it go.

I get presents and cake or take my wife or kids to dinner if it's their birthday, but mine is just "meh" "ok, made another trip around the Sun"

My milestones were : 16 - I can get my driver's license.

21 - I can drink in a bar [ legally ]

Everything after that was just another year.

Speaking as a younger gent.

A: The wife wants to travel under your milestone as an event/ excuse to travel.
B: She honestly likes you, and would like to see some of the world you have not seen together.

I get your cynicism celebrating your own birthday. (I think 35 was when I stopped having parties, but kids, and Covid, etc. ) makes me unsure.

Why not enjoy some time visiting other grounds with your wife and creating memories?

originally posted by: DAVID64

My milestones were : 16 - I can get my driver's license.

21 - I can drink in a bar [ legally ]

Everything after that was just another year.

There are still milestones left. Social Security, Medicare, etc.

Me thinks maybe your wife is just looking for an excuse for you guys to spend quality time together. It’s easier to justify the expenses with occasions.

But like others have said it’s your birthday so your call. But I am sure she just wants to make you happy and perhaps thought doing something a little different would do it.

a reply to: DAVID64

originally posted by: tamusan
A simp gets nothing out of it. I move on to the next ho when I get nothing out of it.

You get nothing out of it because of the friends you keep perhaps?

originally posted by: nerbot

originally posted by: tamusan
A simp gets nothing out of it. I move on to the next ho when I get nothing out of it.

You get nothing out of it because of the friends you keep perhaps?

Where did I say that I was getting nothing out of my current relationships?

I used to HATE my birthday, but then unlike you at 50 I realized it was a time to get together with friends and family and that this time on Earth is precious. That it wasn't just about me if I have people who want to celebrate it. I have been loosing a lot of friends lately and unfortunately as we age this doesn't change and time only goes by faster!

You mentioned doing presents and celebrating others. So doesn't it make you happy to see them and celebrate them?

You can say hey can we make this low-key or no presents but I don't know about you in this busy world if people want to get together I say YES!

a reply to: DAVID64
I just turned 60 on March 8th....My husband (we're retired) just returned from a month long trip to New Zealand -

- best..birthday..present..ever!!

My husband and I are now in our 60s.

We used to travel a lot.

Now we just really don't care to. And it's all so EXPENSIVE!!

But it sounds like your wife is a bit restless.

So be a good husband and take her somewhere that's easy to travel to and inexpensive.

Compromise. It's what marriage is all about.

a reply to: DAVID64

I am in the same place as you I hate all the fuss , I hate getting cards for birthdays of Christmas , just send a text .

I have been like this since i was a kid it really bugs me the way some people go overboard to celebrate a date in the calendar.

Don't even start me on Christmas dude or I quickly turn into the grinch

a reply to: DAVID64

I'm with you.. almost 53 and I can't really think of a reason to celebrate not dying.