The Shed 17

a reply to: JinMI

Great names! Do you have any pics?

a reply to: Night Star

Good morning (?) everyone and thanks for all the cheerful posts!

A synchronicity thing happened while i was catching up here. Night Star mentioned that we should focus in the present time, not the past or future. I thought of a reply that would have a coffee example, and next 2 posts were about coffee

Back in 2009, after i had a hospital episode i stayed for extra 6 months because i wanted to. Wasn't ready to go home and try to regain back control of my life yet. It was ok, we were allowed to come and go, we just needed to tell that we are going out. We had our own clothes, music players and everything.

So there i took this course that combined cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness and teachings of zen. The thing i learned and has been a great benefit, was doing whatever you are doing, with focus. If you are making coffee, see the water flow. Measure the coffee with a sharp mind. Not letting mind wander in how do i pay the electric bill or what should i buy from the store. Just make coffee, consciously.

I have understood (but it took a long time) that the past has already happened and can not be changed. The future has not happened yet, but the actions we take in the present time creates our future.

a reply to: JinMI

Cute!

Hmm... How can you tell who is who?

a reply to: Finspiracy

I have understood (but it took a long time) that the past has already happened and can not be changed. The future has not happened yet, but the actions we take in the present time creates our future.

Bravo Sir!

I would add if I may,

"The past has already happened and can not be changed but ... understanding the past and why it was so ... leads to growth as you go into your future."

P

a reply to: Finspiracy

Today is the tomorrow I was thinking about yesterday.


ETA That wasn't meant to sound flippant but it probably did.

a reply to: Finspiracy

Initially? Their size. Also their tails. The lil one, Tifa has a curly Q tail. Guenn has a straight tail. Normally by temperament.

a reply to: JinMI

The one on the left looks like she is up to something, or thinking about it. LOL
The one on the right looks sweeter. Many years ago I had two all black cats.

a reply to: Night Star

In reality it's the opposite. Tifa on the left is wondering if it's time to eat and Guenn on the right is eyeing the window.

Sneaky beasts.

a reply to: JinMI

Sneaky indeed! My cat is like an Angel, never knocks over plants or eats any, uses his scratching post and even listens sometimes. LOL
But...do not leave chicken bones in a garbage bag in the house. We have to keep them in the fridge until it's time to bring the garbage out. The other night Mark forgot and it's like 4 AM or so and I hear the cat rustling through a bag. I was so pissed. I had finally gotten comfortable enough to fall asleep and had to get up and pick up the trail of bones. LOL

a reply to: Night Star

It's like they know when you're comfortable.

Yo!

Drank a few beers with a friend. (Practically in Finland, "a few" means 2-4 but when it comes to beer, it is 8+)

Now just relaaaaaaaaaaaaxing!

originally posted by: Finspiracy
Yo!

Drank a few beers with a friend. (Practically in Finland, "a few" means 2-4 but when it comes to beer, it is 8+)

Now just relaaaaaaaaaaaaxing!

Just curious ? Does your doctor know how much you drink ? I have some similiar diagnosis as yours and my doctors tell me to refrain from too much alcohol. Alcohol is a terrible depressant.

Take care of your health Finn ... the best you can ... you have decades to go yet, in your young life 😕

originally posted by: Sheye
Just curious ? Does your doctor know how much you drink ? I have some similiar diagnosis as yours and my doctors tell me to refrain from too much alcohol. Alcohol is a terrible depressant.

Take care of your health Finn ... the best you can ... you have decades to go yet, in your young life 😕

Being curious is fine! My doctors keep changing all the time but i have been honest with them. About drinking, about the things i remember. I look at it this way, if i am seeing a mental health specialist, i will gain most benefit by being truly honest.

"English song by the Finnish band Apulanta."

Apulanta - Human desert

originally posted by: Finspiracy

originally posted by: Sheye
Just curious ? Does your doctor know how much you drink ? I have some similiar diagnosis as yours and my doctors tell me to refrain from too much alcohol. Alcohol is a terrible depressant.

Take care of your health Finn ... the best you can ... you have decades to go yet, in your young life 😕

Being curious is fine! My doctors keep changing all the time but i have been honest with them. About drinking, about the things i remember. I look at it this way, if i am seeing a mental health specialist, i will gain most benefit by being truly honest.

I agree... honesty is the best way to go when dealing with health professionals and your health.

Which is why one doctor sternly told me to lay off the booze at some point. Was using it as an escape to not have to deal with those deep feelings and issues. Only problem is that it was often like throwing gasoline unto a fire. It was a tempory solution at best , and not all the time. It had a way of compounding problems at worst, and I still regret my very drunken rants when I was bruised and hurting emotionally.

originally posted by: Sheye

I agree... honesty is the best way to go when dealing with health professionals and your health.

Which is why one doctor sternly told me to lay off the booze at some point. Was using it as an escape to not have to deal with those deep feelings and issues. Only problem is that it was often like throwing gasoline unto a fire. It was a tempory solution at best , and not all the time. It had a way of compounding problems at worst, and I still regret my very drunken rants when I was bruised and hurting emotionally.

Oh my god...! I can relate to that so much, that i could have written the same thing myself here!

I think i will rest or sleep for a while. Thanks for the good talk!

Ok... I have a huge confession to make . My New Year’s resolution was to be more honest with myself as well as others, but in as graceful and kind of a way as possible.

So here goes an honest confession...

I came to the Shed because of the people here. Real people with real problems. Problems you can’t shake pixie dust at and make them disappear.

I’m not into elves, fairies, magical forests , or dragons, but if others care for that sort of thing... so be it.
The caring attitude of some of the sheddites and reading the real problems of some is what attracted me to the Shed.

Hope you don’t judge me too harshly for not being into all the “ magical lore” of it, but that just isn’t my thing. Real people struggling with real issues is, and I’ve seen plenty of that in the Shed.

Hopefully I haven’t offended anyone with my honesty... but I need to keep it real for the New Year.
( if you want to kick me outa dah Shed now , please do so 😉)

Please don’t let me be misunderstood

a reply to: Sheye

You are totally not offensive. You are a gentle soul. I'm just offended by the fact that you think you offend people when you don't. It's very offensive and now I'm offended!

As for dragons and fairies and pixies, it's just a backdrop. A vehicle for the odd joke and a theme. You can change the theme in an instant with a post though.

Perhaps some of us here long for a little more nature and a little less stress in our lives. I could stare at a fire all night long even while sober. Instead the city here pumps warm water to many households to warm them. A little less ambience and I ain't got no candles.

Kick you out of the Shed? Whaaat? But your name is on the toilet cleaning roster for tomorrow!

Night Star! Help me restrain Sheye....

ETA

a reply to: LightSpeedDriver

Awww ... you mean to say I don’t need to clean my own toilet anymore ? How sweet... but I can’ have you clean it. That just wouldn’t fly for me.

Thanks for posting one of my fav songs 😜... and also for being kind as well as a good sport. Your quick wit and playfulness is always a pleasure in the Shed.