Why does everyone mysteriously hate/dislike me for no reason? Is the shadow gov behind it?

totallackey
In general, be nice. Remember, you're smack dab in the middle of a generation of instantaneous gratification seekers...

HEY LOOK!!!

There's a SQUIRREL!!!

What? Where? Did I miss it? NOOOO I did not see the SQUIRREL. Did someone get it on the phone? Tell me you got it. We need to youtube it.

wutdouthink
I would like to thank everyone for being friendly and helpful

I bet if I added them on facebook, the same pattern would happen within 60 days

There's the problem,where I've underlined it.Forget about all social networking sites as I bet that's the cause of some of your problems.Forget cyber friends and go out and get some real life flesh and blood friends.The likes of Faceache and Twatter cause more problems in this world than they solve.I had to sit through our works christmas meal with a load of people who only ever get together socially for about two hours every year.And guess what the most popular topic was..............yes of course poxy facebook.Every single person there except for me (I left my phone in the car because I didn't want to seem unsociable) spent more time texting and doing the Facebook status thing than they did talking to each other.
You can not build proper real world social intercourse skills without face to face contact.The more we rely on these websites,the quicker the communications skills we spent thousands of years honing to perfection will be lost for ever.

Switch your computer and phone off,go to your front door,open it,take a deep breath,start walking and say hello to the world.Despite what some people on here will have you believe,it really is a fantastic place!

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Teehee, there it is

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Did you say?

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It's one of the problems with Home-schoolers is that they are insulated from social development with their peers in learning from and with a social group, sharing discoveries, and learning things the hard way when they don't count as a child and teen as opposed to learning things the hard way as an adult and being devastated.

The only thing you will learn from public school development is how to become obediently institutionalised and that being a nasty person is ok cause the world is dog eat dog.
There is nothing wrong with Home-schoolers in fact that may therein lie the crux of the problem the OPs demeanour is too good, its too much of a standard that them dregits from the Public school system sold out on years ago, before their institutionalised fate devoured them.

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Hi again, well done you for being so brave.

I think you just need to relax and mix with people like yourself, get time away from parents and dont be so available to people. I prefer to be akward sometimes people are assholes.

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ill be nice to you

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Try this.
There's a quote that I'm not sure who the original author was, but I heard an internet marketer named Mike Dillard use it years ago and it has stuck with me ever since.

"You are not who you think you are. You are not who others think you are. You are who you think others think you are."

Ponder that for a bit.

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I found it.

But does anyone find it at least slightly bizarre that people ignore me in the exact same manor each time?

In fact it is like a never ending loop, in fact whenever I start hanging out with someone new, I always know how it is going to end... very disturbing knowing how it will end before it even starts you know.

I guess I am just feeling worse, because I actually thought there was some chemistry going. I should have known...

michael1888
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Hi again, well done you for being so brave.

I think you just need to relax and mix with people like yourself, get time away from parents and dont be so available to people. I prefer to be akward sometimes people are assholes.

Thanks for your reply. I should probably take your advice.

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You should try to be more positive

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Don't over think it, smile and jump on the squirrel bandwagon with the rest of us. As time goes by things will get better, and YOU will also start to feel better.

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No.

People tend to act in a similar manner all the time. It's just the way they are.

The key is to figure out what you are doing that provokes that similar response from them.

michael1888
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You should try to be more positive

I should, but it is impossible.

wutdouthink

michael1888
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You should try to be more positive

I should, but it is impossible.

Could be your problem there. You can't make your self happy no one else can. And worry about making yourself happy is what will attract others. There is a glow about people when they are happy that attracts others who want the same thing. Find that hobby or sport that you enjoy and be happy some one will want to know what makes you so cheerful and happy and want to be friends.

wutdouthink
But does anyone find it at least slightly bizarre that people ignore me in the exact same manor each time?

In fact it is like a never ending loop, in fact whenever I start hanging out with someone new, I always know how it is going to end... very disturbing knowing how it will end before it even starts you know.

I guess I am just feeling worse, because I actually thought there was some chemistry going. I should have known...

Maybe you are manifesting it in some way or choosing people who are going to give you the same experience.

Break that thought pattern and start over. What if you test talking to people without the need inside to make friends. Just connect with them and be happy for a temporary connection.

Do you have any kind of animal you like? Maybe you should get an animal to connect with so that you do not feel lonely.

Being liked is an art form. I would read "How to win friends and influence people" should get you started. Also analyze your body language , posture and general way of moving. I have met many girls that dont move like women, and its a huge turnoff for many men. Its really subtle. Watch some "L Word" and notice how the masculine women move act versus the feminine women.

Everyone likes "nice" but look it up in an etymology dictionary.

Really nice people that smile all the time are like dogs wagging their tails at me. Your just around. You need to have a little mystery and edge about you. Pick on people in a clever way. You want them to like you because your trust worthy and occasionally witty.

wutdouthink
But does anyone find it at least slightly bizarre that people ignore me in the exact same manor each time?

In fact it is like a never ending loop, in fact whenever I start hanging out with someone new, I always know how it is going to end... very disturbing knowing how it will end before it even starts you know.

I guess I am just feeling worse, because I actually thought there was some chemistry going. I should have known...

No because people are very much alike in many ways, it is like peas you get the same ole from each until you find something special...but even then.

A few dates...well here is life. I was married 22 years and loved my husband to death, even he said that I was a great wife. We built a business we had children, I was beautiful to him and yet.

Well guess what I found out, that over the years while I was living in love lala land he was dating and even engaged to numerous women some who knew about me and many who did not, many for whom he provided homes and treated their children as his own (Vasectomy or they would have been) while our children never saw him because he was "working" out of town jobs.

Life does not lead one to trust that things will go well even after 'knowing" a loved one 22 years.

I have been married to my new husband 20 years and trust him as much as i am able.

A question for the people on this thread.

How would you think people would react to the OP if she instead of seeking people out started instead to listen to her music in headphones, smiling to her self and just groove to the music on campus? Maybe sing along a little bit and just be happy about the great tune she is listening to.