Im sorry, I'm not your father: After Christmas Update.

Mroning ATS. I hope you all's Christmas was a great one with family & friends. I and my family had the best Christmas in years. The man who thought I was his dad and his family spent most of the day with us celebrating Christmas and new found friends. I presented him and his wife & daughter with the things I spoke of in the original thread. I gave him a ton of pics of his real dad. No time to get a video made, but the pics seemed to do the trick.

I ended up giving him two $50 US Savings bonds for him to keep for his daughters future education. We gave him & his wife a gift card or two!. They gave me, a daylong smile, that has ended up lasting three days now!! They meet my family, my son & daughter and one of my step-sons and my granddaughter. Everybody became fast friends. And everybody laughed at the pics of me when I was a lil lad in my baseball uniform. I was given pics I never knew existed. Pics of me and his mom, me and hid dad, his dad & mom, his grandparents. There were laughs & tears..way more laughs than tears.

While they were here they got to meet some of my families friends. My son's BFF came by ( he is of a bi-racial marriage) Then Alejandro ( Alex ) came by. A mexican friend of my step-sons. He actually lived with us a while as he needed some help getting his life back on a track of straight & narrow. It was a wonderful day indeed. After a while I had a chance to be one on one with him. I told him about his dad, as much as I knew. He has spoken to the Uncle, and let's me know, they still want nothing to do with him. They also poured the hate out for me for pointing the man in their direction. I could care less how they feel or angst toward me.

I was asked if I knew where his dad was buried. I told him I did and we took a ride there. I walked him right up to his dad's grave. As he stood and stared. I sort of drifted away over to where my mom & dad are buried. Let him be alone withh his thoughts. As we left the cemetary, he told me " your parents must have been proud of you" I said " They still are" I am a reflection of the two of them". I could tell he was emotional as hell, but I tried to keep the mood light and upbeat. On the ride back I out right told him, " I know I'm not your dad, but if you are willing I'm certainly open to that position. He said to me," that would be great, but I have a dad" I now know who I am, and how I became to be, and you gave me that, which is the greatest gift I have ever received as a man. You filled a hole that was growing inside me. You should me what being a real man is all about. ( That my ATS friends was the greatest present I could have ever gotten for Christmas).

As the day came to an end, we all agreed that this needed to happen on a regular basis. So in the spring the wife & I plan on making a trip to Wilmington and pay a visit. His wife was telling my wife when we were gone that she had never meet a family like ours, so tight so close knit. My wife let her know I keep everybody close to the vest, like a big papa bear. Yes ATS I had the best Christmas of my adult life. I gained lifelong Friends/family, to add to the brood. As they left I gave him a simple Christmas card, told him read it later on when you get home, comfortable in your own chair. I simply told him, " Your a damn fine young man, any man that ever meets you would be proud to call you son"
Keep up with the things your mother taught you, she did a fine, fine job of getting you to manhood. I signed it " A friend for life"........ I certainly hope so. Have a great New Year ATS. I 'm pretty sure I will.

I hope all end well for you sir but i have to say some scammers really takes their time to reel the bait, be carefull

Great ending (although really just the beginning) to a great story.
I'm so glad it worked out the way it did.

BTW you may want to link to your original thread for the folks who missed it.

*sniffs and reaches for a Kleenex*

No offense meant but this could be a Lifetime movie.

Thanks for sharing...

Thanks for caring...

S&F

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I just finished reading your other thread after I looked through this one. Wow. What a wonderful story. People like you give me a shred of hope for the world. Unfortunately, a shred of hope isn't nearly enough to save us. I'm not sure a dozen tankers full of hope are enough to do that. I'm just glad there are people like you out there. I wish you and your family and that kid the best of luck in the coming years.

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What a beautiful story of caring, sharing ,and healing.

Thank you for sharing with us. Pass me some kleenex too, please...sniff sniff....

Des

Indigent
I hope all end well for you sir but i have to say some scammers really takes their time to reel the bait, be carefull

I understand your sentiment but I feel sorry for you, must suck to go through life as cynical as you come across

Hope you had a great Xmas and have a happy new year

To the OP

What a wonderful experience, you and this young man both are very lucky

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after you get scammed you dont trust people its nothing else

Indigent
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after you get scammed you dont trust people its nothing else

Apologies for being rude

I thought you were just raining on the OPs parade.

I think thats enough posting for me tonight, I appear to be in a confrontational frame of mind lol

Wonderful and inspiring story. Happy Holidays to you and yours...
MS

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So glad you followed up on how the holidays went. I'm happy they went well for the both of you and your families! Although some parts of the story are sad, he is very blessed to meet a warm soul such as yourself to point him along to his next chapter. Thanks for sharing with the rest of us.

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Right On!
Happy New Year to You
and your(s) new members
to your family.

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Your Avatar and Descriptions are
hilarious! LMAO!
Thanks for the HooHaa
gold star

I got all teary eyed. What a beautiful story and what wonderful memories you are making! Much love to you and your family, have an awesome New Year!!

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Touching story mate. I have to admit it did bring a tear to my eye ..... cheers

what a christmas story.

thanks for sharing.

Bravo. Most excellent.

Merry Christmas.