The Step Child

Yep. Spider eyes and Im in its eyes. BECAUSE I am goddess Advantage, she who rains crickets from the heavens. I breed arachnids for hobbyists. Thats supposed to be a Cobalt Blue.. avatar made by Agarta.

WOW you so shouldn't have started a relationship with a person who had a kid then! It's your fault!!

Just my experience with friends and their "Evil" step kids....They treated like a step kid and it showed! If you aren't willing to love a child as if it were your own then DONT get involved. It's a child!!!

If you raised this kid then some blame can be on you then for how this kid acts, ever think of that instead of blaming a kid?

Originally posted by mblahnikluver
WOW you so shouldn't have started a relationship with a person who had a kid then! It's your fault!!

Just my experience with friends and their "Evil" step kids....They treated like a step kid and it showed! If you aren't willing to love a child as if it were your own then DONT get involved. It's a child!!!

If you raised this kid then some blame can be on you then for how this kid acts, ever think of that instead of blaming a kid?

Well said Mblah Gonna make a fantastic mamma !!

My oldest broke up with a guy here relatively recently due to a child and baby mamma drama. SHe knows what she does and doesnt want to deal with.. and what she is and isnt capable of dealing with. Its a package deal when kids are involved. SOme folks are smart enough to inspect the package. wait... that didnt come out right..

reply to post by abeverage


Well I'm 21 and live with my mom and stepdad...we have a pretty tense relationship, although he's helped me out/given me a few things (like my "husband": The Star Wars Vault book)

We go to school together, but I just mainly shut down and keep to my room so they won't be bothered by my presence. Sure I get the occasional bitch about finding my own place/job/what have you, but I try to contribute the best I can.

OP: I've seen this happen, my step brother snapped on my dad once and took him a while to calm him down, but these days they're cool with eachother. It just takes time...try to find something you have in common with, like NASCAR, sports, fishing, hunting, guns...whatever.

I can't imagine navigating my childhood while keenly aware my mom, my dad, and then the woman he married, didn't want me. The pain and rage would be blinding. OP, if you always made her aware that she wasn't yours, you didn't choose her, and she wasn't wanted, please get her out of your house right now. She may make an attempt on your life. I would have. And the sentence would have been lenient.

Originally posted by TheToastmanCometh
reply to post by abeverage

 

Well I'm 21 and live with my mom and stepdad...we have a pretty tense relationship, although he's helped me out/given me a few things (like my "husband": The Star Wars Vault book)

We go to school together, but I just mainly shut down and keep to my room so they won't be bothered by my presence. Sure I get the occasional bitch about finding my own place/job/what have you, but I try to contribute the best I can.

OP: I've seen this happen, my step brother snapped on my dad once and took him a while to calm him down, but these days they're cool with eachother. It just takes time...try to find something you have in common with, like NASCAR, sports, fishing, hunting, guns...whatever.

Agreed they need to find common ground!

reply to post by LastProphet527


I didn't realize she was 21 or know what the situation was...it does change things up a bit. She is an adult, should be able to respect your home and rules. Sorry if I was harsh in my previous post...I thought you were talking about younger children. The 21 year old needs to just figure it out for herself. Best of luck to you!

Originally posted by LastProphet527

How do you cope with an evil child that’s not yours, a child that the other father didn’t want, the child that you have basically raised and cared for?

I finally realized the meaning of ‘treat them like a step child‘, or, ‘I get treated like a step child‘. I think step kids are evil, and come from the abyss of hell. I think having step kids is a curse for the woman or men you didn’t stay with, and should have been with before you acquired the woman or man with the extra evil baggage from hell.

Step kids are a headache ,and they need to be treated how they act.

edit on 5-11-2012 by LastProphet527 because: (no reason given)

Funny, my step kid turned out right and always respected me and never caused or got into any trouble and it was the same deal, the real father wanted nothing to do with him. My chid'n both are holy terrors and cause all sorts of trouble and find trouble wherever it is. They scare me! I have to avoid them at all costs of they will beat the crap out of me for the pure sport of it.

It's really bad. I have to keep locked in my room anytime I'm home as they have taken over my house. They don't pay a dime, but they have squatter rights so I can't evict them.

My point is, if you aren't living under the conditions I am you don't know what evil is, Nephew.

Originally posted by LilDudeissocool

Originally posted by LastProphet527

How do you cope with an evil child that’s not yours, a child that the other father didn’t want, the child that you have basically raised and cared for?

I finally realized the meaning of ‘treat them like a step child‘, or, ‘I get treated like a step child‘. I think step kids are evil, and come from the abyss of hell. I think having step kids is a curse for the woman or men you didn’t stay with, and should have been with before you acquired the woman or man with the extra evil baggage from hell.

Step kids are a headache ,and they need to be treated how they act.

edit on 5-11-2012 by LastProphet527 because: (no reason given)

Funny, my step kid turned out right and always respected me and never caused or got into any trouble and it was the same deal, the real father wanted nothing to do with him. My chid'n both are holy terrors and cause all sorts of trouble and find trouble wherever it is. They scare me! I have to avoid them at all costs of they will beat the crap out of me for the pure sport of it.

It's really bad. I have to keep locked in my room anytime I'm home as they have taken over my house. They don't pay a dime, but they have squatter rights so I can't evict them.

My point is, if you aren't living under the conditions I am you don't know what evil is, Nephew.

edit on 6-11-2012 by LilDudeissocool because: of typo.

Loll and lmaf.... and still loll. When you told me certain events happened in the past I thought you was playing, but after a person keeps saying the same thing ....you kind to start to believe it,I don’t mean to ,lol,hahahhhahahah,laugh but,lolllllll,the sh is funny as lol…like im really laughing the the freak out loud.h

reply to post by LastProphet527


When I told you I had to lock myself in my bedroom because my kids were out of control, I was not blowing smoke, it was for real.