A moral dilemma.

There's a girl at work I want to ask out.
I only see her at work maybe once or twice a month, so next time I see her I want to ask.

But the problem is, I leave to South America for 2 and a half months, in just over a month.

Is it wrong to ask her out, go on a few dates and then leave for 2 1/2 months?

I mean, she may hate me right from the start. But if all goes well, I'd feel kinda bad for leading her on then leaving for a couple months. I just don't want to come back next year and find I was too slow, and someone else took the initiative.

How would you feel if someone did it to you?

I say, ask her out. If she accepts, tell her right up front, that while you understand this is only one date, that should it turn into another and another, that you'll be leaving the country for a little while.

Just be honest with her from the start.

If you ask and she accepts and decides that she'd like to see you again, then go do what you have to do, she'll either be there when you get back or not... what do you have to lose ?

I say better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all.

Thanks elevated, thats what I was going for.
I just hope she turns up at work sooner rather than later.

You must take the risk of asking her out,
for cowardice will get you nowhere.

If a woman finds you attractive and wants to
keep seeing you, a few months away from you
will make her yearn even more for you. Plan
to write her frequent letters and emails and send
flowers while you're away.

I say ask her out, tell her, go on a few dates, then if she falls MADLY in love with you ask her if she wants to come to South AMERICA with you.



[Edited on 26-10-2004 by dreamlandmafia]

Originally posted by dreamlandmafia
I say ask her out, tell her, go on a few dates, then if she falls MADLY in love with you ask her if she wants to come to South Africe with you.

... then send her there, while you go to South America.

God and The Devil are in the detail.

I would ask her out if I were you. Rather that than spend two months in South America thinking about her only to find when you get back that someone else has butted in.

Originally posted by MaskedAvatar

Originally posted by dreamlandmafia
I say ask her out, tell her, go on a few dates, then if she falls MADLY in love with you ask her if she wants to come to South Africe with you.

... then send her there, while you go to South America.

God and The Devil are in the detail.

Oops...#!!

In my mind I abreviate things...SA...South Africa

Ask her out, and then ask for her email so the two of you can get to know each other better.

Thankyou for your thoughts everyone.

But it's not looking to good at the moment. Havn't seen her at work for over a month and have no other way of contact.

Alwell, we'll see what happens.