My parents don't approve of me pursuing my music career

It's really heartbreaking that I don't have their support. They thought I was joking every time I told them...

They finally realized I wasn't joking and voiced their disapproval.

Here's a song I wrote for them...

www.youtube.com...

Lyrics:
I'm sorry,
I'm not the son you always wanted
I go my way, but damn your wishes they just haunt me, yeah they haunt me

I'm sorry,
but let me live my life
I just ask that you wish for my success
And that I do my best
You have no idea what's weighing on my chest

You don't understand
You don't even try
I was born with wings
But you won't let me fly

I wasn't ever meant to
Do a 9 to 5
This world's a stage
But I'm stuck on a page
Cannot reach from the cage
Call it minimum wage
I've been dreaming up ways
Planning out my escape
From the disappointment on your face

And I can't face you
If I don't make it
I know..

I'm sorry
I'm not the son that you envisioned
I have my dreams, and I'm going on my mission, yeah it's my mission

I'm sorry
but let me be happy
Why do you think that I am gonna fall
The tools I've got it all
It doesn't matter if you put up a thousand walls

'Cause I'll break them down
Yeah I'll take them down
Yeah I'll stand my ground

And I can't face you
If I don't make it
I know

But I can't fall now
I've put it all down
My soul

reply to post by Ptenjakin


You seem quite talented to me.

Just be careful of the "industry" which chews up & spits out talent every day.

Wishin' you well

reply to post by Ptenjakin


Your parents are DEAD WRONG, go for it!!!

That song was a amazing, you have wonderful vocals and song writing ability. Don't let them stiffle your dreams, my mom basically ran my life until I was 24, and I have so many regrets today. You don't need to go that route my friend!

reply to post by chr0naut


Thanks. I'd like to think I'm tough as nails. They can try to chew me up all they want.

I appreciate the warning and support man.

You're actually pretty talented tbh.
Don't let things like that get you down though, I know how it feels. Use it as motivation, gain confidence by breaking the barriers people say you can't.
Maybe you should try writing a song and sending it to a local radio station? Talk with them and get them to play it.

reply to post by kat2684


Thanks. Yeah, I'm definitely going for it no matter what they say. I just hate being in that conflict with people that are suppose to support my dreams.

I understand I spent so much time and effort in school, but in the end, it should be my decision on what to pursue. I spent 4 years studying...Shouldn't that be enough for me to decide whether or not its something I want to devote the rest my life to? They don't understand that, but I hope they do soon.

I'm incredibly serious about what I'm doing.

reply to post by Grynch


It's definitely a source of motivation. However, I think I'd be more motivated if I had their support behind me. It's not fun working off negative motivation you know what I mean?

I'm in the works in mastering some songs and doing some studio work. Once I get something really clean and set I'm going to be sending it to local radio stations and hope for the best!

reply to post by Ptenjakin


I don't think they don't believe in you, I think they just don't know how to take it. They are probably used the the cookie cutter idea. You know the go to college, get a job, get married, have kids, and so on.

Have your song played on the radio and let them see how serious you are and I guarantee you'll have their support.

reply to post by Ptenjakin


First: Dude, this reads like a suicide note. So don't do anything stupid.

Second: Ask any musician in the world. 8 out of 10, their parents objected. It's the nature of the beast. They probably have it in their minds that being a musician is a crummy way to make money, build a life, and stay the person you are through it all. They are right. For the vast majority of people who go down that path, it's path thickly covered in weeds. The ball is in your court now, and you need to make a decision that will serve you. Not them. What do you want to do? What are you capable of? Take that and run with it. Just remember that this is a responsibility that you are taking on yourself.

Parents are people too. People have a tendency to speak before thinking. Maybe it's too fresh.

I think that if this is what you want to do, then you won't let a small thing like parental approval stop you. Your job can be to change their minds. Some people do get through all the weeds, but it would be a lie to suggest it happens to a lot of the people who try.

Keep that in mind, and make your own choice.

your parents want the best for you. and they can see the music industry is a very fickle business.
theyre just trying to help you out.

reply to post by CrikeyMagnet


Haha I had no intention of making it read like a suicide note. I'm no where near suicidal. My mindset right now though is that of defiance and heartbreak.

But yeah, It's definitely the idea of the safe life that gets to them. But you only live this life once. If you spent your whole life doing the same thing everyday, you've wasted it.

Everyday, I try to enjoy and spend time with my friends. Go out and do something new. Write a song with someone. Meet another musician.

Ever since I was little I've had this dream to be famous and be a singer. Something about me.. is all of my childhood wishes have come true. I'm extremely motivated for this.

reply to post by Ptenjakin


Some parents are not supportive and never will be, don't worry about seeking their approval because its a waste of time. I followed 100% what my family wanted and when I crashed and burned, they would rub salt in the wounds. I'm glad to hear you're persistant, independent and so amazingly talented, you will do fine in life with or without their support.

reply to post by Kino321


Yeah, I understand that. But they've got to understand the best way to help me right now is to support me instead of oppose me. I'm already on the path and they're not gonna stop me. Any obstruction is just going to make it unnecessarily harder for me and more painful for me.

I've seen a bunch of people and met a bunch of people whose parents give them their complete support. I guess its just something I wished I had.

To post the lyrics would be helpful (yes, I could listen & write them down, but I'm lazy!)

Good news - an excellent song; well performed. I love the piano intro.
Bad news - don't play it to your parents, I think it would antagonize them! - For example the line, "you don't understand, you don't even try..." - Do you know that they 'don't even try' for SURE? Maybe they've tried, failed and just need to try again!

I also listened to your 'Famous', which IMO has 'nicer' lyrics but a less melodic tune (the 'hook' not so good)

I note you've based both songs on your relationship with your parents. Perhaps you could adust the lyrics (of the 1st song especially) to fit a LOVER who doesn't approve of you pursuing your music career - E.G., "The Song You Never Wanted".

I've been in the music industry for over 35 years and my parents never saw me perform or listened to my music. If you want it, you gotta go get it... and Kino's right, the business will break you if you're not careful.

reply to post by Mcmawstech


Haha yeah, I've gotta work on that song still.

All of my youtube stuff is still WIP, I just put it up there as a form of critiquing and getting feedback, which i really thank you for!

I've never been one to hide behind hidden messages. A lot of my stuff is pretty blunt. I've talked to them, and maybe they have tried to understand. But the fact that they don't offer me their support is what gets me.

It's funny... because when I was younger, my mom pushed me to learn piano and get into music. Now that I really enjoy it and want to make it my life, she's opposed to it.

reply to post by Kino321


What's half way though?

Get a job in the engineering field?

Honestly, I'd love to if that were the answer. But I've seen a lot of friends plan on doing a 9-5 and then the rest of the day go to music...and they end up being able to do their music because their just so burnt out. In the end they have to put it down.

I'm already meeting them halfway as I'm completely providing for myself.

reply to post by Ptenjakin

You got skills man, keep on singing. Maybe try to convey to your parents that there is more than one path to being a successful(as in earning a living) musician, and a mega rock star is just the far end of the scale. There are many bands and musicians that do well without being hugely known. Medeski Martin & Wood is an example of a group that does well but are not mega stars.

I would imagine your folks assume that a musical path may take you through a few dens of iniquities, where no parent really wants to envision their child. Maybe find some examples of musicians that make a living as professional musicians without all the hype. Perhaps you do wanna be a rock star, and that is fine too, but be prepared for some distance and detachment from them. But if you maintain faith in yourself and work hard at your craft, everything will come together and one day they will be amazed and grateful.
You could also consider getting an opinion from someone your parents may value their opinion to chime in on your skills.

Best wishes,
spec

reply to post by Mcmawstech


lyrics up btw.