Horrible dream! Any interpreters here???

So I woke up really shaken up by this dream I had last night. I wouldn't normally post about dreams, but this one was awful for me personally. No, it's not about a comet or 2012, or anything.

In the dream I got cancer. It was bad and I had to go to a treatment center for 2 months. I don't recall anything about the two months...next thing I know it's been 2 months and I'm in remission.

I come home to see my kids and my husband. No one picked me up. I took a taxi.

When I got home I was told that there would be a welcome home party for me at a restaraunt that night. Then my husband told me that he'd been seeing someone else and loved her, and that she would be at my party. That's when the dream got surreal. You know those dreams when something awful is happening, but everyone that you love in the dream acts like it's no big deal, and that's the scary part?? That's what this was.

So next thing I can remember is we're at the party and the new girl has shown up. No one seems upset by this but me. I'm screaming at her and my husband when my sister-inlaw offers to take me out to a bar to get away. I then ask my husband for some money for drinks and he looks at me like I'm crazy!

That's the end. I know what the money part is about. I never have "my own" money because I'm a stay at home mom.

I want to call my husband and scream at him for hurting my feelings so bad in the dream. lol. But, that would make me a crazy wife! Haha!

Just wondering if anyone that knows something about interpereting dreams could shed some light on this.

Mods, please move if in the wrong category. Thank you.

Without knowing you personally, the dream you describe is one of a housewife who feels powerless and that her only worth is in her health and her ability to do housewifing and mothering. Cancer would certainly inhibit that ability.

Not being picked up after you are better is indicative that you feel you can be easily dismissed and ignored by your loved ones. You fear that nobody really loves you or cares about you.

The part about your husband taking a new girlfriend and treating you like garbage by rubbing it in your face is your deep-seated fear of being replaced easily. This is not necessarily a silly fear, as plenty of men do this.

Your dream highlights the issues that all stay-at-home mothers have: We have no economic pull, we have to ask our husbands for every dime, and since hubby is gone at work for many hours, we don't know what he is up to. We fear that we are worthless and easy to replace.

These are all valid issues, painful issues, and if you continue to have these types of dreams, I would suggest some counseling, along with taking up a hobby or something that gives your life more meaning and gives you more time to grow and develop as your own unique person.

reply to post by FissionSurplus


Thank you for answering. This is also what I thought, but you put it into word so much better than I could have. Suddenly I have the strong urge to go to school when the kids go back to preschool next year. Thanks.

You have everything right to a tee. I think if I had a job, I wouldn't be so easily replaced and my confidence would be much higher.

If you and I had identical dreams, it would still mean something different. So, take that in consideration with my response please. Also, my list is not in chronological order with your dream.

If I had, had that dream it would have meant:

I feel something is wrong with me. (cancer)

Edit note: The cancer could also mean "I feel my relationship or marraige is dying or seriously diseased/compromised."

This is something that started two months ago.

My sister-in-law is keeping secrets from me. (Blood is thicker than water.)

Everybody expects or ( X, Y, Z ) men to cheat on their wives. (The double standard.)

I suspect my husband of infidelity. (Whether rightfully or in error, the dream doesn't tell me.)

He is rubbing it in. (The party - salt in a wound idea.)

My husband thinks I drink too much and/or spend too much money.

If I don't change my ways, I will lose him.

First a question. Has anyone you know, had or been diagnosed lately with cancer? I know when my dad died 7 years ago with lung cancer, I went straight to my doctor and had a complete physical. It was my worst fear for months. But, sometimes, a dream is just a dream.

reply to post by DAVID64


I should have mentioned, I'm a huge fan of the show The Big C. It's on Showtime and is about a woman with cancer. The main thing that bothered me in the dream was everything following my treatment period.

I think had cancer on the brain anyway. I don't know anyone that's been recently diagnosed, but I watched that show yesterday.

Probably because of your watching that show, cancer became a powerful personal symbol to you on a subconscious level. We all have our own private symbolism that plays in our minds and our dreams, it really comes down to the themes of the relationships in your dreams as they play out that lend meaning. FissionSurplus nailed it, in my opinion.

If you were married to Newt Gingrich, I wouldn't be surprised if you had that dream every night!

I wouldn't worry about the cancer. That's just the focal point of the dream. The attention grabber that the dream gets built around. The real question is why you husband was with someone else in the dream. Was the connection to that outcome made emotional baggage of you worrying about that kind of situation? Or was it the result of repetition from exposure to those horrible women's shows, movies and books? Most of the time it's the cultural repetition that is responsible for the formation of our dreams, so really there's no point in looking into things too deeply.

Originally posted by BrittanyLea
So I woke up really shaken up by this dream I had last night. I wouldn't normally post about dreams, but this one was awful for me personally. No, it's not about a comet or 2012, or anything.

In the dream I got cancer. It was bad and I had to go to a treatment center for 2 months. I don't recall anything about the two months...next thing I know it's been 2 months and I'm in remission.

I come home to see my kids and my husband. No one picked me up. I took a taxi.

When I got home I was told that there would be a welcome home party for me at a restaraunt that night. Then my husband told me that he'd been seeing someone else and loved her, and that she would be at my party. That's when the dream got surreal. You know those dreams when something awful is happening, but everyone that you love in the dream acts like it's no big deal, and that's the scary part?? That's what this was.

So next thing I can remember is we're at the party and the new girl has shown up. No one seems upset by this but me. I'm screaming at her and my husband when my sister-inlaw offers to take me out to a bar to get away. I then ask my husband for some money for drinks and he looks at me like I'm crazy!

That's the end. I know what the money part is about. I never have "my own" money because I'm a stay at home mom.

I want to call my husband and scream at him for hurting my feelings so bad in the dream. lol. But, that would make me a crazy wife! Haha!

Just wondering if anyone that knows something about interpereting dreams could shed some light on this.

Mods, please move if in the wrong category. Thank you.

edit on 14-4-2012 by BrittanyLea because: (no reason given)

The part of the dream where you were diagnosed with cancer. Which part of the body? Could mean that you need to take some time to take care of yourself, (focus your attention to your body) You've been surrounded by some stress and issues that have been going on lately. I think your body is wanting to change and start something new. Which is not a bad thing.

Now for your husband, has there been some fighting, or any trust issues? Doesn't seem that you see him very much, he's always at work all the time. But I'm sure you love him very much. But I think you worry too much of losing him. But fear not just keep in touch with him. Or when he comes home set up something romantic for the both of you.

After seeing the movie 50/50 it almost brought tears to my eyes. But the story line seems to almost fit with your dream.

Just with the fact that your loved ones see other people to avoid "the sad atmosphere" around the one that was daignosed with cancer. Well somewhat true, I don't tend to hang around with ones that feel always sorry for themselves it's depressing.

reply to post by Shrukin89


No, no specific part that I can remember. You know how jumpy dreams are. But, how could you tell that I don't see my husband much? You are right. He works across the state for 2 weeks at a time and gets every other weekend off.

FissionSurplus- I agree with being in that situation. Then you have the ones who don't care about their money and like to spoil their wives or husbands.

Now that I think about stay at home mom's how many stay at home mom's are there really? I'd be very suprised and mention that there's probably millions of them. All fearing the same thing, losing their husbands. lol just get a hobby and you'll forget about that kind of silly fear. Don't underestimate the will of a guy.

Originally posted by BrittanyLea
reply to post by Shrukin89

 

But, how could you tell that I don't see my husband much? You are right. He works across the state for 2 weeks at a time and gets every other weekend off.

It was more of a feeling that I had, I narrowed some options down that described you as being "lonely" in the dream and I figured it might've been a big key in the part of your actual life too. This gave it away too "I want to call my husband." I take it that your husband is the only one making the money, while you're taking care of the kids and the house. I have a strong feelings that your husband misses you just as much as you. He wishes that he can take the time off and see you as much as he could. But to pay the bills he needs to rely on his job. As his job requires a bit of travel. His job must be very high paying, at the same time he must be enjoying what he does too.

If I had a job that pays you $120,000 plus a year that requires travelling. I would honestly never give up that job. But the unfortunate thing is the travel part, working long hours,
and not spending enough time with family. I think a family vacation is something to talk about, "if" your husband can take some time off work.