Why do I have handicaps that others don't have?

Here are some odd things about me that I can't explain.

I have weird handicaps that others don't have. I cannot get on a ski lift, or on one of those cable cars hanging from a black cable high up in the air either. Those are terrifying to me and I cannot tolerate them at all. Period. To me, those things are death. They feel very unsafe and extremely dangerous and are the equivalent of suicide to me. Yet most normal people get on them like a routine with no fear. I don't get that. I also don't like ferris wheels. I simply feel like I'm in great danger whenever I am high up in the air. But I can fly on airlines though.

Also, I can't hop between rocks in a river or cave as easily as others can. The sloping wet rocks look dangerous and slippery. It takes me a long time to make every step because every step feels dangerous so I have to be extra careful with every step. Wet rocks are not safe to step on, of course. That's obvious. But again, everyone else seems to be able to jump across them easily, and much faster than me. Even dumb people can hop through wet slippery rocks at a normal pace and leave me in the dust, making me feel handicapped. Why is that? How can something unnatural and unsafe be so easy for everyone else except me?

Do you have any explanation for that? Is it cause I lack coordination, athleticism, or spatial ability that average people have?

I think I must be impaired athletically, cause even when I was skinny and thin, I was always the last person behind in hiking groups or in PE class when we had to jog several laps as part of our warm up exercise. Only chubby kids were as far behind as me, yet I was skinny and had no endurance in jogging at all, whereas everyone else was ahead of me. Perhaps I lack endurance or drain more easily than others for some reason.

I also notice that some people don't have to concentrate when they drive or get nervous/anxious about other cars near them. Many guys are able to change lanes without even turning their heads to look at their side mirror or the lane next to them. How can they know that they won't hit another car when they change lanes so quickly without even looking? When I drive, I have to turn my head to the side to see that the lane is open before I change lanes. So it takes me extra time to do it. It is even harder to do on a highway where the road is curving. But many guys change lanes without looking. How do they do that safely? I don't think the rear view mirror can tell you if there's a car right next to you or not. Plus I don't trust mirrors either. I only trust my own eyes when I'm changing lanes.

It seems that there are things that average people have no problem with, that I have a huge problem with. Yet I have talents and abilities that few people have. And I am far more accurate than others too.

Did you know I always got a D in biology class cause I could not memorize tons of vocabulary words? I have a good IQ of 120 yet I cannot memorize raw data for tests. Even if I tried, it would just go in one ear and out the other. My mind kept wandering in school. I could not force it to concentrate. Instead, I felt sleepy or my mind turned to sexual fantasies for escape. I only did well in English and History, or humanities type classes. And I did well in math up to Algebra too, since it only required basic logic and accuracy in arithmetic. But I was terrible in Calculus cause it involved memorizing too many boring formulas.

I also lose to average people in the simple card game called Concentration or Memory - you know, that game where you flip over two cards to try to get matching numbers, and whoever gets the most pairs wins, etc. It's a game of raw memory. Chinese/Asian people are especially good at that game, since they have photographic memories of cards for some reason. I don't know why. But any average person can beat me at that game. I have a horrible memory of raw card numbers and data. But in Chess and Scrabble, I can beat over 99 percent of people (in America that is, Europe is another story). Why is that? Have you known anyone else like that before?

It's weird being different from everyone, isn't it?

Instead of focusing on want you can't do, focus on what you can do.

Take the things you are good at, work on them until you are master of them.

We are all handicapped in some way or another. Forget the "I can't" and hone your true skills.

Impaired? Handicapped? Nope doesn’t sound like it, you probably just have a bunch of phobias or are not very brave no offence. Nothing you said I would say is a handicap though I am not a doctor.

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You ain't weird. You're human. The phrase, "You think to much." comes to mind here.

A long time ago my Pops told me that, "We are all born to die, it's the journey in between that makes life precious." (I would also add fun and adventurous.)

As for body mass in athletic undertakings, being skinny can be a hindrance and affect your stamina. Check out your BMI…Body mass index. I have always been described as a troll (Not the interwebs type) for much of my life. I can’t run fast…but I can carry a ruck for miles in good time.

Once you accept that life is life, you can start to enjoy things a bit more. You have a mind….use it.

Originally posted by WWu777
Here are some odd things about me that I can't explain.

I have weird handicaps that others don't have. I cannot get on a ski lift, or on one of those cable cars hanging from a black cable high up in the air either. Those are terrifying to me and I cannot tolerate them at all. Period. To me, those things are death.

Also, I can't hop between rocks in a river or cave as easily as others can. The sloping wet rocks look dangerous and slippery. It takes me a long time to make every step because every step feels dangerous so I have to be extra careful with every step. Wet rocks are not safe to step on, of course.

Seriously? Alright, I'll take a crack at the OP.

You have psychological hangups about being hurt, harmed, or killed. You simply subconsciously don't want to risk damaging your precious payload: your brain. You have these feelings because you're more evolved than others and are cautious. I really don't know what you're missing out on.

Originally posted by WWu777
I think I must be impaired athletically, cause even when I was skinny and thin, I was always the last person behind in hiking groups or in PE class when we had to jog several laps as part of our warm up exercise.

Well if you want endurance then you have to work at it. If you don't, then don't - it's not a big deal. Our bodies adapt to certain situations in our lives. If all you do is sit around on your computer, your body will be adapted to that. If you want to have endurance, run a couple miles everyday.

Originally posted by WWu777
I also notice that some people don't have to concentrate when they drive or get nervous/anxious about other cars near them. Many guys are able to change lanes without even turning their heads to look at their side mirror or the lane next to them.

Again, you're just being cautious. Statistically the most likely place you will die is in a car. Changing lanes should worry you because it's dangerous. Driving is dangerous. These "many guys" are suicidal idiots.

Originally posted by WWu777
Did you know I always got a D in biology class cause I could not memorize tons of vocabulary words? I have a good IQ of 120 yet I cannot memorize raw data for tests. Even if I tried, it would just go in one ear and out the other. My mind kept wandering in school. I could not force it to concentrate. Instead, I felt sleepy or my mind turned to sexual fantasies for escape. I only did well in English and History, or humanities type classes.

It's weird being different from everyone, isn't it?

Not really amazing... You're clearly just right-brained and excel in creative fields. I'm the same way, 'cept I Aced Bio Seriously just concentrate on things you're good at. Why would you want to do things you're bad at or take no pleasure in doing?
And no it's not weird being different. It's normal being different. Everyone is.

Balls.

2nd line.

Actually, I will elaborate..

You need the confidence to just go ahead and try,

I don't mean take life threatening challenges,

but don't be afraid of a scratch.

A lot of the things you face in this life are best handled straight on, got no time for fear,

a bully in school comes to mind,

first time one tried that crap with me, I headbutted him in the gut for all I was worth..

he didn't mess with me anymore..

Maybe I helped you,,

of course, I wouldn't take my advice. Ever.

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You sound human to me. Unique in your own way.
You do not sound disabled to me...
Maybe self-conscious though....we all have our quirks...trust me!

Can anyone explain how most people are able to hop onto wet slippery rocks quickly without falling? They are obviously dangerous, especially those sloping ones. But I've seen people do it on slippers and they were fine. How come I'm not able to do that?

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balance..

second line

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Balance?

Confidence, or over confidence. I've slipped off the rocks and hurt myself before, but it has only temporarily slowed me down.

And then there are times that people just don't think....they just do.

ermm... Why is it you post this again?

Why do I have handicaps others don't have?

Did you time slip?

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Probably because you decided what tools, talents etc you needed to have in this life, in order to learn the lessons you set for yourself in this life, before you were born.

I have a new question.

Why is it that in high school, people picked on me for having no dress style, as though I were some kind of slob? All I did was wear simple decent shirts from Ross and Marshalls. But here's the kicker. There were other teens in high school that dressed even worse. One guy wore the same checkered button flannel shirt everyday and baseball cap, and he smelled bad too. Yet he never got picked on or told he was dressed badly. When I asked my friend "Is that guy's dress style better than mine too?", surprisingly he nodded. WTF?! So a bum like that who smells and wears the same stupid shirt everyday has better "style" than me? WTF?! At least I didn't smell.

This doesn't make any logical sense. Doesn't this demonstrate once again, that I must have some "victim vibe" that causes people to gang up on me, even for irrational reasons that don't make sense? How can you logically explain this?

Plus, if my clothes came from bargain stores like Ross and Marshall's, which have chains all across the US, then logically I could not be the worst dressed person right? I mean if I was the only one who bought clothes there, then those chains would be out of business. So it logically follows that many others must buy clothes there too right? If so, then why am I always told that I am the worst dressed and have no style, no matter what I wear? Even if others dress the same as me or even worse, they aren't picked on, like I am!

WHY?! GOD DAMN IT! WHY?!

There must be something about me that triggers people to group together to pick on me. It happens all the time, even for no logical reason. Even if I'm with group of friends that like me, they tend to naturally gravitate toward picking on me anyway. Even though they do it in a lighthearted playful manner, still, they always choose to make fun of ME as a group and NOT someone else. What is it about me that causes that?

Isn't that conclusive proof that there is something about my personality or vibe that causes others to group together (even if they are my friends) and make fun of me?

If so, what is it? Can this be logically explained? Or is it a mystery?

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I think a lot of people on this site may have been treated the same way. But people on /b/ might be a tad more similar.

Fashion isn't really a logical thing... Just be verrrry particular about what you wear. Don't just put on any old thing because it's a logical, functional piece of clothes. Dressing is a visual art. Nothing can be a mistake and everything must be deliberate, exhaustive, yet simple. You can get away with simplicity so long as nothing clashes.

Or you could just let me dress you. We artists know what we're doing.