Dating is overrated!

I cannot be the only person in the world who is happy being single. Yes, I do feel lonely many times. I just cannot date someone who I have nothing in common with. In the past I have dated many different girls. All of them with different personalities. God knows myself and my ex girlfriends had are share of drama. As I'm maturing and getting older. I feel that I should fall in love with someone who shares many of my personal beliefs. I know you can never pick your friends but you have to find standing ground if you want to be happy as a couple. Maybe I'm over estimating my views on dating. Do any of you feel or agree with what I'm talking about or do you disagree?

The worst problem is when chics try to be something that they think you want, omg it becomes annoying, seriously show you have a personality of your own

Love without contradiction? That is a contradiction my friend. Love, lust, anger, and happiness will all fall under true love.

Anything else and your just being egoistic and you want things your way or the highway.

I completely agree.

With relationships comes drama, and when there's no drama, there's stress, and when there's no stress, you haven't been in the relationship long enough.

I believe I understand where you two are coming from. I just can never find love. We feel like we love another. The spark just burns out. Nothing in common. Sex is sex. I'm a guy like anyone else but having sex just to be in a relationship feels shallow to me. I feel like a used cigarette.

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Oh I have had my share of stress. Even dating is difficult. Fun with foods and games. I feel we have nothing in common. No interest to do together. Just shallow romance.

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But luckily there's more to life than just chicks and guys, men and gals, pretty girls and sexy boys. In the end, I'll be satisfied with a really good friendship.

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That is where I like to keep myself now. The friend zone! Yes, it's lonely but well worth it.
I can scoop for a woman who I can make happy and she can make me happy as a person.

I've been single for awhile.

Had a lot of good relationships and a lot of bad unstable relationships.

The sex always seems to be the best in the bad ones unfortunately.

Anyway two years ago I decided to stop dating as my life issues/problems/health problems are way too much for other people to deal with maybe when I'm older I'll change my mind but it seems for people in their 20's they just really don't want to deal with it.
Which is understandable.

So to save myself and others I just cut myself off.

But the good news is my the video game industry has profited very well from all this!

When it comes to relationships you just need to remember to have practical ideals and stay in reality, there is no prince charming for the girls and most men wont get their dream porn star wife.
Unless you conform that motion to what is actually attainable.

And codependency is a horrible thing, learn to be at comfort with being alone and when you are able to be happy being only with yourself is when you'll be truly able to be happy with someone else.

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With relationships comes drama, and when there's no drama, there's stress, and when there's no stress, you haven't been in the relationship long enough.

Sad but true, and this has been my experience. Been a single dude for a long time, but fortunately I am accustomed to a solitary lifestyle, keeping myself busy with hobbies and truth pursuits here at ATS. It is wrong to go into a relationship waiting for things to start falling apart, but that is how it's been in my experience. Every time I meet someone hopeful, she is already taken too. So I kind of gave up, not forever, but I just quit looking.

Peace,
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Thats why I tend to hang out in groups of people and make friends with everyone. When I'm friends long enough with a girl and I want to date her, I'd ask her out. Or sometimes the girl would ask me out first. What matters is that usually I try to get a sense for how the girl is outside of a relationship first.

Agreed! Up until a couple years ago I always put allot of importance into being in a relationship. Because of that I spent very little time b/w relationships and never truly enjoyed my college days...

After my last relationship (5-6years), I made the decision to keep myself single and I've never been happier. If i'm lucky I will find the perfect girl for me but in the meantime I am in no rush to tie myself down.

Love is powerful, but also destructive, I have recently got out of a serious relationship two months ago, it has its pros and cons, but in the end, you always want to be rational and be compatible with your partner.

Thats why I tend to hang out in groups of people and make friends with everyone. When I'm friends long enough with a girl and I want to date her, I'd ask her out. Or sometimes the girl would ask me out first. What matters is that usually I try to get a sense for how the girl is outside of a relationship first.

Excellent advice on how to avoid the pitfalls of dating. Getting to know a person without the facades, etc. first.

I actually do think dating is overrated.

I'm now in a 7 years lasting relationship and still happy with her, she's still happy with me. We share A LOT of interests, that's really a great base for a good relationship. Even when I come up with some more or less crazy stories on here at ATS and tell her about them she listens and gives her input, so it's not like in other relationships in my circle of friends where all the girls are rolling eyes when one of the boys starts to talk about soccer or other mainly "men's interests".

Hell she even loves watching Star Wars with me and accepts my other hobbies and I accept hers. While other couples go out on a date on Valentine's Day she loves to go playing basketball with me (and it's not like she's only doing it as a favor, she shares the same interest and fun in things like this and is not an ugly girl or something like that )

Before I got to know her we chatted over the internet for about one year before we finally dated and made up by the way so we had a good time getting to know each other

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I feel the same way. There's times where I see a couple walk past holding hands looking all cutesy and I feel lonely too. But in reality, I'm a selfish person. Why on earth would I want to spend tons of money and work to keep myself looking a certain why to impress some female whom divorce me in 10 years? Single is freedom!

By the way, I'm new to the forum

Just dating because "its cool", I agree. You'd want to date someone you like and know enough, y'know? ...Otherwise they may turn out to be someone who then divorces you later and takes all your money and children Well hopefully not that bad even then, but better safe than sorry.