posted on Mar, 17 2011 @ 11:15 PM
reply to post by mysterioustranger
Without telling you that he doesnt want to be found though how do you know? If he left a letter stating that then fair enough, but he didnt. I say
look for him and dont give up if he really means that much to you, he should be flattered if you finally do find him after the effort and if after
that he doesnt want to stay in contact with you then thats his loss because you obviously care that much about him.
Some people run away and then feel because they didnt tell anyone that they will be angry at them, because of this they stay away not making contact,
But actually you dont care because whatever the reasons when you finally find someone you deeply care about in this situation you both will be
relieved to see each other, no matter how angry you might be at him for not telling you. He might even need some help psycologically, it isnt easy
coping with a loved one who has addictions. I know this from personal experience and have lost people close to me because it was too much of a burden
to keep helping them and believe me the distress of seeing someone you care for so much destroying themselves is almost unbearable. Still I find
myself asking questions over and over in my head relating to what could I have done to get through to them etc even though I tried my hardest to. If
you dont try though and then something happens then you will fell awful.
Some people need help and wont accept it or just run away. I dont believe we should give up on them because they dont want our help. Sometimes as well
people just want to know that others care about them. You have no idea what goes on inside a persons head. A friend of mine who was the most happy go
lucky guy in the word, always smiling killed himself after a silly argument with his parents that tipped him over the edge. He never spoke about
being depressed, but clearly we could see he was after analysing a lot of small details. HE didnt want to worry anyone or let anyone know that side of
him for whatever reason.
Also some people run away because they want to know that someone cares enough to chase after them.