The Power of Prayer- could you please pray for me?

I just thought of something. Let me put it to you another way. Which woman do you think is going to appeal to a man: a woman who's not really got anything going for herself other than this huge need to be in a relationship and has a tendency to wither away and pine over regrets when the poop hits the fan...or a woman who has so much going on with interests and a zest for life that out of that spiritual abundance, she has enough to share in a relationship? Which person would you rather be with? Which person would you rather BE?

Originally posted by sisgood
First of all, I will gladly pray for you.
Hubby and I went through a rocky spot recently so I know how it is. (I did not know a human voice could make those sounds of grief)
Second of all, you say that Jesus was a wise teacher. I tell you that He said, "I am the Way the Truth and the Life no one comes to the Father but by me."
The above statement is either the ramblings of a crazy man,
the rantings of a liar
or the truth.
If what He said is true, and I believe this is so, then your idea on different incarnations can't be true.
I will pray both for you and your husband to re-unite in love and for you to find peace with Christ.

Thanks. Regarding incarnations- To me, it's about the Spirit. Jesus could have had several incarnations here (which I believe he did and Edgar Cayce has said the same). Regardless of incarnations, the Spirit remains.

"I am the Way the Truth and the Life no one comes to the Father but by me."- "me" can be interpreted either as a reference to the Divine Spirit of Jesus (only one Spirit) and / or a Holy Spirit that Jesus is a part of, but not unique. Holy Spirit/s existed before Christianity has started. In the end, I think this argument is poinless because there are many ways to God and each individual has its own way. Kindness and love are the keys to elevating our spirits, regardless of what religion you're or what era you live in. In fact, all religions and Jesus's teachings are a channels for us to understand the Spirit and come closer to the Spiritual Selves.

Originally posted by SheeplFlavoredAgain
I just thought of something. Let me put it to you another way. Which woman do you think is going to appeal to a man: a woman who's not really got anything going for herself other than this huge need to be in a relationship and has a tendency to wither away and pine over regrets when the poop hits the fan...or a woman who has so much going on with interests and a zest for life that out of that spiritual abundance, she has enough to share in a relationship? Which person would you rather be with? Which person would you rather BE?

That's a great example. I want to be this complete version of myself, and I still have a long way to go. We all want it. It's just a matter of finding the strength within yourself to move forward. You all have given me some strength, thank you. This forum has been a very positive experience. Thank you all again.

Originally posted by SheeplFlavoredAgain
Oh goodness I am no psychotherapist here but I am an opinionated old broad so here goes...I mean this with all respect to your obvious intelligence and obvious kind nature, but honey from the additional information you've posted it's as clear as the stripes on a zebra that you got your priorities all wrong. You simply can't put so much focus and energy into wanting to be in any relationship until you establish yourself firmly in your identity as an individual first. Between you being twenty years younger than your ex and the fact he had a somewhat dominant personality, it's so obvious you never got to set yourself as an individual. And by you still hanging onto the past with him you still aren't mentally freeing yourself to do that, yet. The fact you say you feel you sort of lost the will to exist without him speaks volumes.

You absolutely must wrap your mind around the cold hard time tested universal truth that no person can complete you. You must be complete within yourself first or you will not be able to engage in any healthy well balanced relationships with a spouse, with a child, with a friend...anybody. This is experience speaking here. Until you get to a place in your whole being where you know you can stand against whatever life throws at you on your own two feet, you're going to enter relationships as a needy person who can't be filled and you will drain other people. I've been on both sides of that coin. I've been the needy and I've been the one needed. It's not a healthy place to be either way you look at it.

I AM praying for you but as I said, it's that God help you take positive next steps to get you to be the whole, strong, serene person you need to be. When you are that person, then it will be safe to consider partnering up with a significant other.

Look at this time alone as a golden opportunity. Travel, go to museums, volunteer for causes that interest you. Do things that get you outside your normal zones and challenge and engage you. If you can, find a good therapist...and it may take a few tries to find one that clicks with you...to help you sort out the things you start to learn and discover about yourself.

Oh my God! You said it so well that I will write it down and read it over and over every day. You're absolutely correct. Thank you for giving me a push to go establish myself as an individual first. My relationship has not been healthy in any way, but I still love him no matter what. I will work on becoming the whole, strong and serene person I need to be. While I do that, i still hope that I can renew my love with him. After so many years, he has become a part of me. You said that "no person can complete you" but I feel that he has made me more complete and I don't feel "complete" now because I lost him. Either way, I will work on completing myself and work on becoming stronger.

Just wanted to let you know I got the U2U and tried to reply but I'm on an Ipad and it doesn't format the response box on a way that lets me reply there. Half the time I can't even properly edit and fix typos even here on the forum. So I will get back to you when I can get on a normal sane computer, lol. Or I can answer your question here on the forum if that's ok whatever is good for you. I have to cook dinner and do some errands and chores now anyway.

Yes, replying here is abosultely fine. It will be viewed by anyone from the time you post it and years later someone may find it applicable to their situations as well.

We are here to advance our souls. I am taking notes of the various ways to advance myself through this life.

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Thanks. I did manage to get logged onto the family pc at long last and get the response I wanted to make in the U2U. if you want to repost it here for someone else's benefit that's fine, or just keep it between us. Either one works for me.

Originally posted by SheeplFlavoredAgain
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Thanks. I did manage to get logged onto the family pc at long last and get the response I wanted to make in the U2U. if you want to repost it here for someone else's benefit that's fine, or just keep it between us. Either one works for me.

All, below is the advise I got from SheeplFlavoredAgain - THANK YOU SO MUCH! Please read her recommendation on the road to Complete Self, finding your completeness and inner strength.

How do I define completeness? I think I couldn't have done it until I reached that point, honestly. So if you're not at that point yet I'm not sure if my explanation will resonate with you, yet. But bear with me as I explain in my usual meandering way, lol.

For me the defining moment when I realized I was complete was in a conversation with my daughter when she was 5--which was last year.

I'm a Christian in the sense that I follow the example of Christ and believe in his teachings and that he is the Son of God and that he died for our sins to fulfill a convenant made between God and man shortly after the "fall of man" from grace, as a means to restore us to our lost state of grace. But I'm not otherwise religious. I don't attend church and my teaching of my beliefs to my daughter is all in a series of conversations wherein I outline my beliefs based on my personal experiences and tell her she has free will to believe or disbelieve according to her own relationship with God.

At any rate we were talking about God's command that we pray for our enemies and my daughter asked me if we should pray for Satan himself, that he repents and seeks God's forgiveness. Well I was absolutely stunned by her question. It had honestly never occured to me to do so or even formulate that question. I had been raised Baptist in my youth so I guess I always retained a hard line stance against evil, as is typical of Baptist doctrine. They love themselves some good fire and brimstone and singing about the devil being tortured for eternity. And really, who could blame them? But is that really what God wants? My daughter's question made me wonder why God was so adamant that we pray for our enemies. And who is our greatest enemy but the embodiment of evil. Whether you believe in Satan or not, we do have to admit that sufficient evil is found in our fellow man to make a human being a suitable stand-in for Satan.

I said I didn't know if repentance is something that a being whose mind is of pure evil could do or would do. She reminded me that God forgave the Prodigal Son and wondered if Satan would get the same grace if he truly repented. I told her I honestly didn't know if I could pray for pure evil. I told her that nevermind about Satan, in the abstract, pure evil to me would be anyone that would harm her. I told her I don't know if I could pray for anyone who might take her from me.

She then looked me right in the eye and said "Mama, I'd rather die a believer in God than live on not believing him. So if something happened to me I would want you to keep believing and do what God wants you to do."

Remember, the child was only five years old when we had this conversation!

And at that point I realized that she is the most precious thing in this world to me. But this world is a dangerous place and life is fragile and precarious. What WOULD I do if she were taken from me? I realized I would have to do what I am teaching HER to do...to "live for eternity".

Meaning that everything I do in this life, every choice I make, must be made from the perspective that it will impact not only my immediate future in THIS life, but also will have repercussions on my fate throughout eternity. So I must trust that God had a reason for his commandments as well as a reason for revelations I continue to get as I live my life.

I simply MUST find the strength in myself and in my faith in Jesus Christ to get through whatever this life throws at me, because the strength I gain from the process will serve me not just in this life, but for all eternity.

I'd already lost pretty much everything once before in my life. At that time I did curse God and turned my back on him. Nevertheless in my darkest time I found God again and since then have had personal revelation that my faith is well placed and that there IS a God and he cares.

So to you I say my completeness comes from knowing I have it within myself and within my relationship with God to withstand what this life throws at me, even if I have to do it all ALONE, and I can still give back to my community and my life of the abundance of strength and gifts that hard life lessons and God's guidance have imparted to me over the years.

For your own situation, I have to remind you that the man you love is significantly older than you. Even if you are reunited with him, you may find yourself at some point widowed because of the age difference. Even if he were the same age as you, well, as I said, life is a precarious gift that can be recalled at any time. This happened to my friend Gayle, who is both a Christian and a therapist. She loved her husband with all her heart and soul, but when he passed of cancer, she still had enough strength within herself to start life anew, and continue to give back to all who are fortunate to meet her. She continues to bless life and receive its blessings, as of last time I heard from her. A person who can do that, despite losing that which is most precious to them, is truly a whole person in themselves as a secular being, and in their walk with God as a spirtual being.

Also, when you are whole within yourself, you will find the discernment to know what is good for you and the strength to deny it if it's something that is not good for you, even if it is something you thought you desired dearly. So my best advice is to work on yourself first and then see about reuniting with your ex. To do both things simultaneously might make a hash out of both endeavors.

You already show so much wisdom and strength blossoming out of you. I expect you to have great things happen in your life. I think someone with your compassion and depth of feeling has so much to offer your fellow human beings. Many blessings to you and do keep me posted on how you're doing. --Sheepie.

Praying for you, that God will bring you what you need.

reply to post by SheeplFlavoredAgain

Very wise words..