posted on Sep, 28 2010 @ 02:33 PM
Some people here seem very relaxed about 14 year old girls having sex. But I wonder how much folks have thought this through.
First, please imagine we're talking about your own 14 y o, just starting on her trip from the world of childhood to the world of adulthood. She's
outgrown her barbie dolls and wants to wear makeup like her friends do, and when you're out shopping, you notice men ogling her and watching her from
behind as you're walking.
Naturally you'll feel protective, but most most girls that age don't even notice the looks they get, and don't understand what you're worried
about.
Now for the questions:
How would you feel if this daughter was noisily banging away in her bedroom, so you could hear her when you tried to sleep?
How would you feel if she was doing the same away from home, where you couldn't hear, and it was less safe for her than home?
How would you feel about her running the risk of pregnancy, as NO contraceptive gives 100% protection?
How would you feel about her risking catching STDs, as NO contraceptive gives 100% protection?
How would you feel about her getting genital herpes, as condoms do not protect from it and ~25% of American adults have it?
How would you feel about her heart being broken after the guy drops her? (On an average, sex = falling in love with girls more often than it does with
guys.)
How would you feel about your daughter having an abortion if contraception fails, or becoming a teenage single mother?
You can't just leave it to the kids to decide without you giving them all the education and support you can first.
One needs a bit of experience to understand the long-term implications of what's going on.
With all that said, the actions of the Police Officer were wrong. Those with power must learn responsibility.
Society is pushing sex at kids from all angles, and they need whatever protection we can give them before they make too many mistakes. Mothers need to
be friends with their daughters, sharing their life-experience and always finding time to listen and care about the girl's day-to-day concerns.
Fathers need to give the girls a good role-model, because what she has seen in her father will usually be what she ends up with in a partner. If you
want your daughter to have some pride, treat her as though she has earned it. If you want her to have self respect, then respect her.
On the other hand, if you want your daughter to act sexual around guys, doing whatever they want, getting bashed and left damaged, then ogle the women
you see, be a sexist dickhead, order her around contemptuously and be violent at home. Works nearly every time.
Too many parents punish kids for being the inevitable results of their own bad parenting.