It's 'wife camp' for 10-year-olds

I am not sure if being mannered automatically makes you confident....I have always been, although I am only 25, very thoughtful, polite and cordial as much as possible...but since I had depressions and even as a child was rather sensitive to moods I never gained much confidence from anything

But I am sure its very good for a lot of children and people in general, it makes the world a little better ^^

I guess that is one of the few things I am somewhat happy/proud of; I am working with elderly people : going out shopping or a walk in the nearby park or just chat and read a book or newspaper together. They really seem to appreciate it...although its rather lonely, I rarely meet anyone my age doing this work :|

Originally posted by notsosweet

Originally posted by Mercuryae

Originally posted by Julie Washington
I went to "Charm School" sponsored by Sears some 40 years ago.

It was one my life's memorable moments.

I learned confidence and manners.

How to sit properly, walk properly, speak clearly, etc.

Call it sexist if you like, but it gave me the confidence to walk and hold my head high so I didn't walk and talk like a scuffy tom boy and instilled social confidence to make friends.

It has carried over into my adult life and I believe has contributed to my adult successes.

I am a bit confused.....are you talking in general or are you scoffing at girls/women who might not be that (overtly) feminine ?

I don't think this poster was scoffing at girls or women that aren't feminine.
There are lots of girls that wear the really baggy jeans(that was just an example), etc. that just don't have manners or respect, and I think that as much as I hate to say it, appearances, the way you interact with people and how you carry yourself really does matter in society today. I don't think there is anything wrong with teaching our young girls that manners really is a good quality to have.

I see hmm ^^ Well its easy to get confused, people often base a lot of things on sex and how "gendernormative" someone is

People who deviate from the norm are often ridiculed, so....

But manners are good for anybody, I agree

Originally posted by AccessDenied


I can see how in these times where young girls are really showing a lack of the above skills, that some parents would want this..to a degree.
However I see the flip side of this coin, and it does seem quite sexist. Where is the school for boys who learn to be productive breadwinners and upstanding members of society?
Very old school thinking.

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Start one. This is kind of like saying that race has a group that does X why doesn't my race. Well, they decided to it is that simple. There are all kinds of specialized summer camps and summer classes and all kinds of specialized areas. The reason most of them exist is because someone saw a need and filled it. Why don't you fill this one?

Lilly,

sometimes boys are sent to military school for just that. To have respect and manners and give them the self confidence that they need to adjust to in this society. But it would be nice to have something a little more accessible for the boys to go to.

Originally posted by notsosweet
Lilly,

sometimes boys are sent to military school for just that. To have respect and manners and give them the self confidence that they need to adjust to in this society. But it would be nice to have something a little more accessible for the boys to go to.

Thennnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn start something.

Do you see what I am saying? No one is telling any of you that you cannot start such a thing yourselves. What you are saying is that this person cannot start this unless they also open one up for every single gender, race, religion, age, whatever else you want to hold her to. She did what she wanted to do. You can do what you want to do.

I really do not understand why anyone would whine that there should not be a good thing for girls unless the exact same good thing is also presented for boys.

Originally posted by Lillydale

Originally posted by notsosweet
Lilly,

sometimes boys are sent to military school for just that. To have respect and manners and give them the self confidence that they need to adjust to in this society. But it would be nice to have something a little more accessible for the boys to go to.

Thennnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn start something.

Do you see what I am saying? No one is telling any of you that you cannot start such a thing yourselves. What you are saying is that this person cannot start this unless they also open one up for every single gender, race, religion, age, whatever else you want to hold her to. She did what she wanted to do. You can do what you want to do.

I really do not understand why anyone would whine that there should not be a good thing for girls unless the exact same good thing is also presented for boys.

I'm not whinnnnnnnnning.... I think it would be great for both genders. Not sure this little podunk town would go for anything like that...

Originally posted by notsosweet

I'm not whinnnnnnnnning....

I think it would be great for both genders. Not sure this little podunk town would go for anything like that...

My apologies. Your response to my response to AccessDenied just seemed to compound each other and the first definitely leaned to whining. My bad for not reading them as independent thoughts from different people.